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*abygirl92
writes:Hi, I'm 16 and a virgin. I want my boyfriend to have sex with me but I am scared not knowing what to do or if it will be any good. You see, I don't want to mess this up since he has experience with one other person in the past. Though, he hasn't done it for nearly one year. What do you think? Any suggestions?(Mod note: your entire comment needed to be completely redone. Please be mindful of punctuation and grammar next time.) Reply to this Question
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reader, 14sj14  +, writes (14 March 2009):
don't worry, everyone's first time can be scary. Let your boyfriend know how you feel, that your a bit scared as it's your first time. Im sure he will respect you and help you, don't worry about it, enjoy and go with the flow. Make sure you are actually ready for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): hi, i lost my virginity when i was 16 and don't remember anything about it, other than it happened, and i was glad to have the whole "losing my virginity" over with. but, that's not what you asked....have you masterbated and reached an orgasm? it would be helpful if you have. but, don't expect to have an orgasm unless he really knows what he's doing, and don't worry, he'll cum, they always do. and don't feel slighted if you don't cum...women have to learn about their bodies to make it happen - and masterbating is the best way to learn this, plus, it's really fun and a major stress reliever.
just relax and go with the flow, and it'll be alright.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): If you are questioning whether or not to have sex for the first time you shouldn't. If you truly were ready, and truly love each other, you would not be thinking about "messing up" or questioning if you should or not. Your first time is something that you will remember for the rest of your life. It is very special. I would wait!!!
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (14 March 2009):
 I hope u have given this much thought. I don't dare put u down or tell u what to do. I am asking u to think about this very carefuly. I would sugguest you talk with someone about this if there is someone u trust. I'm sure that u can talk with guidence counselor at school. They r trained to talk about these things and keep it confindencial. You can also go to the library to get some books. Go to ur doctor not only to talk, but u can get writen info also. There is no shame in asking/talking or finding out info. It will be very well be worth it. It might also ease ur mind and help u to feel more comfortable about things. Education is always important.Plz take into consideration what I write. This is a very important decision in ur life. You must also think of taking great care in not getting pregnant. Don't believe it can't happen the first time u have sex. It will also prevent STDs. I'm not saying ur b/f has any, but keep this mind, it is not only for birth control.I would strongly suggest u do think about the 1st paragraph I wrote. This will change your life. There is no harm in waiting. If ur b/f really loves u he will understand. Never have sex under pressure it is never a good experience. Remember this is about your feelings and emotions.What ever ur decide I do hope it works out. I wish u the best of luck...take care
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