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writes:Hi, I have liked this girl for a few months now and though we are only friends at the moment I feel there could be more.Anyway last time we met (Saturday) I discovered something about her that I found incredibly shocking (I won't say what it is, that isn't relevant). The reason I found it so shocking was because I had made assumptions. Now what I discovered was not a bad thing per se, and in a way I actually quite like it, but I was taken aback. It wasn't even that big a thing...Anyway, two questions. Firstly, if a small assumption like that was wrong, how do I not know that everything else I think of her is wrong? (or am I just paranoid? I am sure I know her well enough to know some things) Secondly, how can I possibly have anything to do with someone who might be different to what I had come to assume with getting to know her? Reply to this Question
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 Thank you, and you know something. If you would have let her go you would/might have always been wondering if it would have worked out. You sound very easy going, and very accepting..which is such a pluss for her..and you also.
I'm was glad to hear that you didn't give up, even after finding out what you did. You know something if it doesn't work out..and I truely hope it does. At least you would have tried and know the answer insteading of wondering.
I do very much so wish you and her the best of the luck.... Take care & good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell it is still too early to tell yet whether we can have a relationship, but I am cautiously optimistic.
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reader, salvadda +, writes (2 May 2009):
I'm very glad that you decided to give her a chance. I am also very glad that the both of you are hitting it off.
You do sound like an excepting person, which is always a good way to start.
I hope you and her continue to have nothing but good times.
Just remember *if I may say* at times we don't see eye to eye or have difference of opinions. Don't take it to heart and think of the good things she brings.....
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I fully appreciate what you said.Anyway I actually was starting to have second thoughts about her after finding out what I did, because although it in a way made me feel attracted, it would be for a reason other than what I feel I would want to be attracted by.We actually met today though, and it never even came up. It was just her showing me more than ever why I started to like her in the first place. I really think I might be starting to fall for her. Maybe even falling in love.
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reader, salvadda +, writes (30 April 2009):
I found your letter very interesting in it's self. I don't think your paranoid at all. I feel that in your case *if you don't mind me saying* and with great respect to you... you assume too much. Now please don't take this the wrong way. It is not a bad thing to make assumptions, we all do it at times.
Have you ever thought of staying friends for a bit longer before you decide to take a further step into the relationship? Explore eachother personalities.
After all what you did findout about her as you said wasn't a bad thing. Though it may have surprised you, you liked it. You might be surprised as friends what else you may learn about her and she about you. Who knows maybe she may have a few assumptions about you also. You might also surprise her.
I would like to say to you with do respect. There is nothing wrong if she were different than you assume her to be .... is there? You might also like other different things about her. It would per sa in my opinion make a relationship more interesting. After all there was/is something about her that caught your eye/attention.
I'm sure she is a nice/good person at heart and really that is what in opinion one should seek after.
In relationships getting to know a person in my opinion is also very exciting, interesting, and it also can be intriguing to say the lease. I feel it would be boring if we knew everything or if the person was same as myself. This is only my opinion, and may give you something to think about. There may also be similarities in both your personalities to some point...*common interests* At times this is also my opinion differences can also bring a bit of harmony. Who knows she may bring some insight, new ideas, and so on to make your life interesting.
In the end even if you do find out more about her, it will be your choice. If you have a feeling of wanting more please don't let differences come between those feelings. Try to keep an open mind, and I do hope you follow your heart.........
Take care & good luck
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