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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): emotionally needy is not good, that's probably why you get dumped. learn to be happy with yourself and not need someone to make you whole and you will notice a difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe girls are all nice mostly working at the library or something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe efects of my OCD is a precise use of prowse and i am seeing a counsler. The worst of my OCD was spending an hour trying to turn a corner while exhaling on my right foot.
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 As far as OCD is concerned it's a part of your life that can be controled. You can get help with it, many ppl have it. It's a matter of getting on the right track, going to doc. I'm sure if you do this it will work out fine. You should never be ashamed of it either. I know a few ppl with OCD and they can do lead a normal life to some. I do hope you will follow up on this.
As far as you being *needy* we all have needs. Don't be down on yourself. Everyone needs to be wanted, needed, cared for, loved etc. You are no different than any other person, as far as I am concerned.
If and when you do find a girl your interested in try not to rush into things. Try to make sure before you confide in her that she is the one you would like to learn to trust with your personal life. I'm sure that when you do find the right girl *and you will* she will love you no matter what.
After you have found a girl that you can trust, you can be honest and tell her about things. It is not a matter that can not be delt with.
Everyone in life has things that they keep to themselves. Only share with the one they are with. We all have problems in life that we feel ppl don't/can understand, me included. Don't feel bad about this.
I would suggest you try to find someone to talk with. Someone you can trust to keep things to themselves. Someone who has training and by law has to keep things private. Try a doctor, or a school conslor. We need to put trust in someone to over come things. You might even find a group that deals with OCD. There are more then you can imagine with the same difficulties as yourself. Please try to get information regarding this. I feel it will help you very much and to see that you are not alone.
I hope you find what your looking for. I know someone will be very lucky to be with you. We who have such problems become more caring towards, can understand others better for what we go through. I believe you are one of those people.......Don't give up
Take care & good luck
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 I'm going to be a tad harsh here, but I think the OCD and the fact you have trouble comunicating may put girls off. Are you actually diagnosed as having true OCD? And are you getting specialist help?
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reader, Alastair +, writes (1 April 2009):
Maybe give a few more details mate...
Erm what are all these girls like?
If they're all out-going girls and like to go and have a 'good time', they just move on too quickly. You may find you're attracting or attracted to the wrong type of girl for you, just try and go for someone you know you can trust to get a bit of experience in there ;)
Best of luck
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reader, salvadda +, writes (1 April 2009):
You didn't leave much of a question to get help. I would suggest if you don't mind to leave a bit more detail *if you like* It would be easier to try to give some advice for you.
I hope you do decide to leave the question again. I will be looking for it, and do my best to help you *give a bit of advice*
It is very hard for anyone to answer your question.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat im to emotionaly needy. But thats just my OCD i say.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (31 March 2009):
You've not given us much to work on here. What did they say when they dump you? Did they give any reasons?
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