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writes:he acts like he likes me and has for years however he so shy i dont know. he wants to be around me because he always is i know we're best freinds but i think he wants maby more he has kissed me. he just so shy he run away what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): One last thought on this - the smiths song, they said :
Shyness is nice and
Shyness can stop you
From doing all the things in life
You'd like to
So, if there's something you'd like to try
If there's something you'd like to try
Ask me I wont say no, how could I?
Kindness is nice, and
Kindness can stop you
From saying all the things in
Life you'd like to
So, if there's something you'd like to try
If there's something you'd like to try
Ask me I wont say no, how could I?
Spending warm Summer days indoors
Writing frightening verse
To a buck-toothed girl in Luxembourg
Ask me, ask me, ask me
Ask me, ask me, ask me
anyway just thought of it and me think of the words are well meant and relelvent to being shy (ignoring the luxumbourg or buck tooth bit)
Hugs star.x.
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (16 March 2009):
 One of the hardest things to over come is shyness. You didn't state in your letter how long have you have known him. It does make a difference for a shy person in coming out of their shell. In some instances some shy people like/are attracted to ppl that are outgoing/out spoken. This at times will relieve the stress of them having to be that way. At times it also comes from being insecure. Shyness is a also a very hard thing to deal with. Some ppl actualy feel stress from being shy. It depends on the decree of shyness your friend has.
I would say the more *alone time* you can spend with this person the better. I would also like to sugest that you try to spend it away from crowds. It would better for him if you both are in comfortable surroundings, if it is closeness you desire. I don't mean in manner of speaking for physical closeness. I mean he needs time to feel comfortable with you. It is very important you don't try to push a person into doing anything. If you feel you like this person enough to let him make the first move. Don't rush him. I am sure you don't do any of things, but just to explain the concept of being shy.
I can imagine how hard it is on you also. Getting to know a shy person, *emotionally* is very touchy. Most people that very shy, keep their emotions in check. The hardest thing for a shy person to do is express themselves that way.
I know you care for this person very much. I would say to you, to just give him time. As much time as he needs. I know it is hard on you now from your letter. I also could read the frustration also from the ability of not understanding why he is so shy. As I stated it does have a lot to do with insecurities. Try to treat him as friend, and maybe you will see he will become/feel confident with you over time.
I wish there was an easy fix, but I have had been around many shy people. Once you gain their confidence/trust and I say to you, it can be time consuming also. But if you feel you want to pursue this person, you must think/believe it will be well worth it. You might be surprise what this person has inside him once he feels secure enough to open up to you. I would also like to add that shy people can be over senstive also. They do take things to heart. I feel shy people are very well worth taking the time to know how they really are underneth it all. You can always start by talking about something you know he feels comfortable with and so on.
I know this may not help you much, may not be what you wanted to hear. I wanted only to give you something to think about. Some kind of support, you might say. I do hope you get to know this person emotionally.
Last thought, don't think it has anything to do with you. Try not to get discouraged, or blame yourself into thinking you are doing something wrong. It is very hard when one can not express their feelings to another, because of shyness/insecurities.
I do wish you the best of luck...tc
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): um suggest either tieing shoelaces together so he can't run, or just Talk to him and say "Hi, i fancy you can we go out for a drink\coffee\shag sometime.(delete as appropriate).
Star.x.
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reader, Pointblank66 +, writes (16 March 2009):
Instead of waiting for him to overcome his shyness why don't u come to him?this way u guys can get that spark started in ur relationship. Hope it works for u
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