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Location: Texas, USA
Favorite color: purple
Favorite food: anything sweet.
Least favorite food: spicy foods.
Relationship status: In a relationship
Ticks: annoying/bratty people. I will usually tell them to just shut up. Also, rude people tick me off a lot.
Likes to: Laugh, smile, and just have great time.
Doesn't like: The rain; I can feel it comming and usually it's not a good feeling.. Stuff that makes me sad. Spicy foods.
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I love her, she loves me - but she ALSO loves her boyfriend. Help!
Q. So, my best friend and I are in Love. We didn't realize is until recently, but we both realize it now. Only thing is, she has a boyfriend that she also "loves". I don't get it. We both talk to each other and say we Love each other and basicall...
A. 10 September 2008: Just to tell you, I believe you completely... I believe you really love her.
Well, you gotta comfront her about this other guy. Ask her "what does Jacob have that I don't?" "Why do you prefer him over me?"
Have you told her what kind of a p... (read in full...)
My period is late and I'm scared. Help please!
Q. Please help me. Im 15, 16 in early november and I recently had sex for the first time. Now I have done it around 3 or 4 times, but my boyfriend only came twice out of those times. Of course we used condoms each time, and at the end he said he ...
A. 10 September 2008: Ok, CALM DOWN! Take a deep breath.... now exhale.
The only reason why you're late is because you're stressing about it! Seriously, believe me, it happens to me ALL the time after I have sex. Even after all the contraceptives we take, I still ge... (read in full...)
I love him dearly, but I can't deal with his parents!
Q. my boyfriend and i are 19 years old and have been seeing each other for 4 years and known each other 6. i love him so much words cant even explain but i cant stand his parents. they treat him and myself with no respect but expect us to bow down to ...
A. 10 September 2008: Well, of course it will be hard to talk to them.
Don't you think he may have tried before? Their behavior is embarrasing and I bet you're not the first person they've treated this way. He may have tried many times before and failed each one, so ... (read in full...)
What can I do to solve this love triangle problem?
Q. theres is this guy that likes me. but i like his best friend and his best friend and i won't work out because he cares about his friend.. but the guy who likes me won't ever give me up to his friend. what should i do? should i just forget him and ...
A. 10 September 2008: Does his best friend like you back? Are you sure he isn't being just nice?
It sounds to me like you should just forget him. Even if he likes you back, he won't betray his best friend so it will almost be a waste of time waiting for him. ... (read in full...)
She said he was "pervy"-What did she mean?
Q. I was talking with one of my best girlfriends, Lindsay. She went out with one of my best boyfriends Ray. She claims to of left him because he was "pervy". I dont get it, what did she mean. I've known Ray for over a year....im soo lost, some one help ...
A. 10 September 2008: I think her comment comes from self-esteem issues.
He may have told her that she is actually beautiful and she took that compliment negatively. Like I told you, a lot of girls will misuse the word "pervy" and a lot will use it for guys who will... (read in full...)
I don't think I want children anymore but my wife still does. What can I do to solve this?
Q. Hello. Well where to start. My wife and I have been together for ten years and married 5. When we first started dating we talked about wanting to have children and I really thought that I did want to have kids then. Well long story short my...
A. 10 September 2008: When my parents got married, they married "old" (in their early 30's)
Both my mom and dad didn't want anymore kids because they already had kids from previous relationships and there was also the health concern of having kids at that age.
... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gay and is confused!
Q. I have a boyfriend that I have lived with for 8 years whom I have supported in every sense of the word...financially, emotionally etc. Has not worked consistently and is constantly on the computer at home, while I work my butt off to pay all the ...
A. 10 September 2008: I give you the warning before hand that I might sound harsh but...
Are you serious?
I think the confused person is you.
Ok, let's get things into account:
-You pay for everything, in fact, you financially sustain him.
-He doesn't wo... (read in full...)
Is this a normal procedure for massage sessions?
Q. My partner and had a couples massage in a posh hotel in Egypt. He chose the hot stone massage and I the Thai, one. He was on a massage table and I spent the hour being contorted on a mat on the floor. I was given eyeshades to wear but appa...
A. 10 September 2008: If it makes you feel any better, it's usually against their work code to start any sexual relationship with their clients and if one happens, they will be immediately fired and given negative references.
I don't think somoene would risk that for... (read in full...)
She said he was "pervy"-What did she mean?
Q. I was talking with one of my best girlfriends, Lindsay. She went out with one of my best boyfriends Ray. She claims to of left him because he was "pervy". I dont get it, what did she mean. I've known Ray for over a year....im soo lost, some one help ...
A. 10 September 2008: Pervy= perverted.
She could have based that from a lot of things. A lot of girls your age misuse that word and apply it to guys who shouldn't deserve it.
On the top of my head, she may have based that from:
-He probably watches porn an... (read in full...)
Is it normal to keep on wanting sex but when there's a chance to get it to not want it anymore?
Q. Is it normal wanting to have sex constantly .. but then when i see a lad and they try to come onto me i dont want it but even when i mess about with my friends .. (girls) i still dont want it ?? help x...
A. 10 September 2008: I think you probably need an emmotional connection before engaging in a sex act.
Don't worry for being like this, it's just the way you may persieve sex. For you, sex should only come after you have known that person well and you feel a connecti... (read in full...)
How can I aproach this guy and talk to him without sounding desperate?
Q. okay.... please help im getting insane ! hahahaha okay, im 16 and i talk to guys .. but not really... people see me as shy when talking to guys... there's this guy tho... he's in my resistance training class and OMG, i like want him soo bad....
A. 10 September 2008: I think your idea sounds pretty good.
Go to one of his games. You can always say that you went because of your brother, if he asks. And I realy don't think he will be weirded out if you tell him "great game!", if what you say is true, then he ... (read in full...)
What can I do about the feelings I have for my teacher?
Q. well see im not very good or big with emotions but i think i might like one of my jrotc teachers i dont know why but i do and it hurts when he's not teaching that day. please help....
A. 10 September 2008: You just have to remind yourself it's a simple crush.
Maybe he has something that hooked you? A cute smile? a kind personality? Good body? Well, thing is, that it might just be superficial and it will go away as soon as you realize it.
And you... (read in full...)
These girls that hate me for no reason have been filling his head with stuff! What's going on with him?
Q. In order to answer this question, you have to read this one: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-no-clue-what-hes-thinking-does.html Okay, today something else happened. A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog on my myspace and there are 4 gir...
A. 10 September 2008: Ahh, I experienced the same thing, not the boyfriend part, but being hated.
Well, in my case, a lot of people liked me actually, a lot, just an exclusive group who hated me for my guts. The thing is that the leader of the group constantly tried to... (read in full...)
How do I start dating again if I don't know anyone in my area?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend about a month and a half ago and im ready to get back out there...But i just moved and i dont know anyone here. I'm really anxious to get back in the dating game but how do i do that if i dont know anyone here??? I ...
A. 10 September 2008: Have you considered online dating?
Just apply to an online dating website and they'll pair you up with compatible singles near your area. Just make a quick google search with the words "online dating sites"
Or, have you just considered aproa... (read in full...)
How am I suppose to face my crush if he hates me and knows that I love him?
Q. how am i suppose to face my crush if he hates me and knows that i love him?hes 7 years older than me.........
A. 10 September 2008: The way you face your crush is by just treating him like an ordinary person who you care nothing about. If he insults you, just ignore him and go about your way. After that, NEVER look back.
He may really not hate you but he treats you bad beca... (read in full...)
Cheating boyfriend drama! Should I attempt to trust him or take him back?
Q. Hello all. CHEATING BF DRAMA I have the same story of so many young ladies. My bf cheated and it hurt. We have been together for 3 years now. Our first year together, we were college freshmen. He transferred from his school to m...
A. 9 September 2008: Go to the girl and tell her that if she keeps on giving you so much drama and all the stalkerish behavior that you will seek out the law. If she insists on doing what she's doing now even after the warning, put a straining order against her. I'm ... (read in full...)
Working on our insecurities is most times better than changing the other person to fit our wishes.
Q. The porn questions on this board are just overwhelming. There are many more "my boyfriend uses porn" questions than "I can't get over my girlfriend's past" questions. I don't think that is because women are that much more insecure than men, but ...
A. 8 September 2008: Ha! Only time will tell for me. Hopefully I'll live as long as you have.
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I need tips on how to make friends. I don't want to be friendless my whole life!
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and I was wondering how to make friends, because I don't have any and I really don't know how to make some, and I don't want to be friendless all my life and I don't know how to go about it. Any tips? Thank you xxx...
A. 8 September 2008: Making friends to me was/is (depending on the environment) also very hard due to my Aspergers, so I really understand your frustration.
What I have learned to do is to start being fearless about situations. If you want to talk to someone, then jus... (read in full...)
Does he like me or am I being naive?
Q. There's this guy that I'm currently talking to, let's just call him M. M and I randomly met some time ago - I actually can't remember how I know him, but I have him on MSN and every few months or so, we chat, flirt and make light conversa...
A. 8 September 2008: You have been screwed up by jerks before, so you know by first hand how these people act before and after you're with them.
Think of your past relationships and the guys you've been with. Think of their actions before they met you, as in, how they... (read in full...)
I am pregnant with my ex's child, but he wants nothing to do with me.
Q. im pregnant, my boyfriend and i broke up...things were good till he cheated on me on the roof while i was in the house....at that time i didnt know i was pregnant. later i told him and he came down to support me or so he said.....(we lived in ...
A. 8 September 2008: The first thing you have to do is get a court order against hi for a paternity test after your son is born.
When it's established that he's the father of your child, then you could issue a court order against him to apply paternity rights. ... (read in full...)
Is his need for porn normal?
Q. As far as I know my husband is happily married. We have been married just over a year and we have a very active and open sex life. I get that masturbation is normal, but he has to look up porn every time, like submit your ex on sublime directory. We ...
A. 8 September 2008: Porn should only become problematic when the person who views it neglects physical and emotional contact with their partner.
To me, this hasn't happened at all and you two are happily married.
But if it really worries you, try to have a talk t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend knows I've cheated on him once - do I tell him about the other times?
Q. okay well i love my boyfriend with ALL my heart and would never want to lose him but i cheated on my boyfriend [of 5 years] 4 times (3 from plyin spin the phone) he only nos about 1 time he forgave me but i never gained that trust back. i feel ...
A. 8 September 2008: This will come pretty harsh to you but heck... truth is harsh somtimes.
What a silly way to say that you completely love your boyfriend with your whole heart yet managed to cheat on him FOUR times!
By the first one you should have learned you... (read in full...)
Why didn't he smile when I took the picture?
Q. On August 30th, I went up to take my boyfriend to the Mud Drags and my mom had asked for me to get a picture of my boyfriend and his dad, so I did and he asked if I was going to get one of me and him and I said "Yes, before we go." I forgot but took ...
A. 8 September 2008: I'll add my two cents to the really good responses you got here:
Maybe he's self-conscious about his smile. Both my boyfriend and brother prefered not to smile on pictues because they didn't like their smile. ... (read in full...)
Do guys like curly hair, or should I straighten it?
Q. ok.. so i have pretty long hair. it goes down to my ribs. my hair is naturally very, very curly! usually i just scrunch my hair and work with my curls.. but lately like halfway through the school day, my hair gets very frizzy. it bugs me alot. i ...
A. 8 September 2008: Of course guys will like curly hair! As long as it is well maintained.
My hair is also naturally curly (not as curly as yours though!) and it's fairly long too (not as long as yours either!) and I use 3 products to keep my curls intact or at least... (read in full...)
Falling for his friend! And I don't want others to think I'm doing this to get back at my ex!
Q. Hello, so i just got broken up with him, like two weeks ago. im doing good, im getting over him. [guy B] but im falling fast for a friend of his.. [guy A] i used to date this kid but we both lost interest and remained friends.. well then i l...
A. 8 September 2008: Saying you're a teenager is no excuse for caring what other people think. I was (still am by a technicality) a teenager too but I sincerely didn't care what others think of me (usually when I hear this it's not true). Not caring what others think of ... (read in full...)
How can I stop gettin jealous and paranoid???
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. He's really good to me and i love him alot. The only problem is i cant trust him at all, even though he gives me no reason not to trust him. I think this is because ive been hurt so much in the ...
A. 7 September 2008: First, you gotta know that this will be a long road and you will not get cured in one day.
You have to realize that your boyfriend is another person totally different from anyone out there. Not every guy is the same. Not every guy will try to p... (read in full...)
Do I have an eating disorder? It can't be normal..what's going on with me?
Q. I found it quite hard to write this question which indicates to me there IS a problem. Still i'm not certain. i am a size 10 (in England) and i feel i could have an eating disorder. I do fear gaining weight and hate looking at photos of me because ...
A. 7 September 2008: Original poster:
They will actually help you in other ways besides making you gain weight. I can't really say what they are because I'm not a specialist, but those people know what they're doing and they will help you overcome this.
Please,... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from the most amazing guy ever!
Q. Okay so I like this boy. And, Oh my god He is amazing! Like literally the cutest most charismatic person I know. Anyway. I;ve liked him for a while, and I've been trying to figure out if he likes me or not. I know I sound like a little kid not know...
A. 7 September 2008: Well, I can easily explain the bruise thing: maybe you bruise like a peach? Some people are like that, it's not something so bad.
And yelling, well, I'm someone who hates the word "bitch" but I don't know about you. But it still sounds like tea... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from the most amazing guy ever!
Q. Okay so I like this boy. And, Oh my god He is amazing! Like literally the cutest most charismatic person I know. Anyway. I;ve liked him for a while, and I've been trying to figure out if he likes me or not. I know I sound like a little kid not know...
A. 7 September 2008: Oh, I want to clarify, the reason why I asked how hard he hits you because guys can nudge you (hitting you slightly on your shoulder) to tease you. It's still hitting, but remember that using the word hitting rather than nudge brings a whole ... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from the most amazing guy ever!
Q. Okay so I like this boy. And, Oh my god He is amazing! Like literally the cutest most charismatic person I know. Anyway. I;ve liked him for a while, and I've been trying to figure out if he likes me or not. I know I sound like a little kid not know...
A. 7 September 2008: Please oh please, can you clarify by him "hit[ting] you and yell[ing] at you"? How hard does he hit you? Where? What are the circumstances? Why he yells a you?
Well, he sounds like he likes you, a lot of the signs show.
And for the other "negat... (read in full...)
Falling for his friend! And I don't want others to think I'm doing this to get back at my ex!
Q. Hello, so i just got broken up with him, like two weeks ago. im doing good, im getting over him. [guy B] but im falling fast for a friend of his.. [guy A] i used to date this kid but we both lost interest and remained friends.. well then i l...
A. 7 September 2008: Don't go with A unless you know you really like him. Why have a relationship for the heck of it? That's one of the reasons why some people girls are w***res (the other one is because they put out). A girl who changes relationships like underwear is ... (read in full...)
She's amazing! So why does she want to hang out with me?
Q. I feel like I'm in the shadow of my girlfriend. She's smarter than me, she's more attractive than me---she's even stronger than me! I just don't understand why she'd want to hang out with me when she's so amazing....
A. 7 September 2008: I don't know, but have you seen "That 70's Show"?
You sound like Eric Forman. His girlfriend is Donna Pinciotti and many people wonder why she's with him. She's beautiful, hot, intelligent many people like her and she's very strong. Meanwhil... (read in full...)
He's pushing me away! He doesn't seem to care.. what can I do?
Q. Please help me, i dont know what to do. My best friend of 4 years found a boyfriend (yes he's bisexual). And since he came into the picture i got pushed out. To the extent that he stopped hanging around with me and would ignore me on msn. He had a ...
A. 7 September 2008: Tell this to him! You have every right to tell him!
The thing is that he might actually not even know what he's doing to you. He really has taken you for granted and is not seeing that his actions are pushing you away. He's not a psychic. He won't... (read in full...)
Do I have an eating disorder? It can't be normal..what's going on with me?
Q. I found it quite hard to write this question which indicates to me there IS a problem. Still i'm not certain. i am a size 10 (in England) and i feel i could have an eating disorder. I do fear gaining weight and hate looking at photos of me because ...
A. 7 September 2008: It sounds to me that you have anorexia. Here's a website that can confirm it, http://www.mamashealth.com/anorexia.asp
This is a real desease that if left untreated will cause terrible consequences on you, possibly death.
So please, discuss ... (read in full...)
If my parents find out, that my bf and I are having sex, they may not let me see him! Advice?
Q. I gave up my virginity to my boyfriend and I don't regret it. We are always safe when we have sex and we love each other so much that we are hoping to spend the rest of our lives together. I'm just not sure what to do about my parents. They were 20 ...
A. 7 September 2008: My parents are like that because one: they're old school and two: my dad was a man whore in his youth and fears that I will fall for a guy like him.
So, the easiest thing to do is to not have sex in your house. Look for other places to have sex... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel ugly every time I run into porn, any practical solutions for me?
Q. I hate porn. Or the entire sex industry really. And I'm not gonna lie and be all "it's degrading to women". No, I hate it because the women are so perfect. They all have big tits and tiny waists, with a round butt. They have gorgeous faces (ok, some ...
A. 6 September 2008: Well, I sometimes feel this way, but when I do I don't blame it on porn, you should blame yourself.
Porn doesn't exist to put you down. The girls are not there to make you feel insecure. You are insecure because you allow it to be.
I belie... (read in full...)
There is agirl who lies about her baby being my boyfriend's and kisses him at work., how to make her stop?
Q. I been with my boyfriend J for 2 yrs we live together; the only problem is this girl keeps telling him that her baby is his. But i get a diffrent story from my bestfriend Emily who's her sister Kept telling me the baby belongs to her new ...
A. 6 September 2008: Aks the girl for a paternity test for proof of her words.
Then, confront the girl about your feelings of her actions. Tell her to back off and stop pining for your boyfriend. She's might be hurting for her boyfriend going to Iraq but her actions ... (read in full...)
He dumped me because "I liked him too much." So how can I be a good girlfriend?
Q. Boys are sometimes very hard to understand, especially my last bf. I am usually a pretty good reader of people but i could never read him. For instance, i couldn't tell if he was flirting or not, or if he was nervous. But the thing is, some months ...
A. 6 September 2008: Wait, I thought a real relationship was where two people like/love each other for real!
I don't think the problem was that you "liked him too much and he wanted a real relationship" the problem was that he didn't like you enough and he wanted y... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my friend in case she is pregnant?
Q. my best friend thinks she is pregnant how can I help her out?? she says that her stomach hurts alot and that when she had sex the condom might have broken. If she is then i will be there for her the whole time. but how can i help her buy a pre...
A. 6 September 2008: To buy her a prenancy test just go to a Walmart (since you live in the U.S) and if you're kind of ashamed, go to the "self-check-out" thing and buy it. Buy a reliable brand, not a cheap one or a very expensive one.
If it says positive, just hug... (read in full...)
Working on our insecurities is most times better than changing the other person to fit our wishes.
Q. The porn questions on this board are just overwhelming. There are many more "my boyfriend uses porn" questions than "I can't get over my girlfriend's past" questions. I don't think that is because women are that much more insecure than men, but ...
A. 6 September 2008: I agree with you so much troubletoomuch!
I sometimes read other people's responses for a lot of relationship questions (porn related or not) and a lot of them are "dump him" or "leave" when talking is the best solution! I sometimes wish to go an... (read in full...)
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