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writes:Please help me, i dont know what to do. My best friend of 4 years found a boyfriend (yes he's bisexual). And since he came into the picture i got pushed out. To the extent that he stopped hanging around with me and would ignore me on msn. He had a fallout with his boyfriend and came to me. He said he wouldn't leave me again. He then made friends with him and would put him before me again. Like when i ask him to come out he'd say no because he'd wanna see what this other person was doing first. I was there for him when he was low. He knows i care SO much for him. But he continues to push me out and not acknowledge me and try and make everyone else happy by not including me and things. He signed on msn today and put 4 people on his personal message. Some random people who will not be there for him in the long run. last week he was saying i was his only true friend. Im really upset about this he is too important for me to just let go of and forget about. Too important. Because we connect so much when together. We are the same. Too much to just throw away. He doesn't seem to care that things like these upset me. what can i do? or what can i say to him?
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 Tell this to him! You have every right to tell him!
The thing is that he might actually not even know what he's doing to you. He really has taken you for granted and is not seeing that his actions are pushing you away. He's not a psychic. He won't know that you're hurting unless you tell him. He didn't do it before, right?
So, remind him what he's doing! Remind him his promise! Sound angry, sound hurt. Cry. He has to see you're hurting. He has to know he hurt you.
Do it in person. Look for him and take some time alone. If he insist, look serious, look at him in the eye when you ask fo this.
When you talk to him, be honest, don't hesitate on telling him your feelings. If you actually don't tell him something important, then you will regret it and keep wondering "I should have told him..."
Good luck and hopefully he'll understand.
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