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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:im pregnant, my boyfriend and i broke up...things were good till he cheated on me on the roof while i was in the house....at that time i didnt know i was pregnant. later i told him and he came down to support me or so he said.....(we lived in anther state, i had moved)...so he stayed with me for a little while then he just left, and hasnt called since....i found him and he was just a jerk....it hurts more than anything that the person that is the father of my child doesnt even care...or has a shitty way of showing it...what should i do? should i just not call him or tell him how i feel....im ok with the fact that we are not together but i just cant stand that he has nothing to do with me while im pregnant with his kid...any advise?
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (8 September 2008):
 The first thing you have to do is get a court order against hi for a paternity test after your son is born.
When it's established that he's the father of your child, then you could issue a court order against him to apply paternity rights. Due that you're the mother of the child and with whole costudy of the baby, I believe that you're able to dictate what you want from this guy: child support payments, joint-costudy, etc.
For further information, please visit this website:
http://www.paternitynet.com/
There's is in no way you can convince him to take care of your son without the law's help. He has made it sure he wants nothing with you by cheating and it's clear he wants nothing with his son for having bailed on you while pregnant. At least get money from this a**hole.
If you can, ask for help from family or reliable friends. A young, single mother can survive these hard times by herself, but sometimes the care of a loving family member or a friend will bring you relief those times when you need it best.
Always stay strong. Keep your head on and your feet on the ground. If you think of bringing this sort of person back to your life, think about the things he has done and later think of your future child and on what kind of environment he will live if this man comes back to your life.
Good luck and I hope the best for you and your baby.
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