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writes:Please help me. Im 15, 16 in early november and I recently had sex for the first time. Now I have done it around 3 or 4 times, but my boyfriend only came twice out of those times. Of course we used condoms each time, and at the end he said he checked for rips or holes.Well my period was due 5 days ago and still nothing. I havnt had any other pregnancy signs such as morning sickness or anything but when would you get that? Btw this is the first period I would be getting after having sex. I do feel kinda moody so maybe its due soon and im just late but Im so worried! I cant get a test because the only way I could would be on my way to school in my uniform and I realy couldnt risk that. Is there any way to make a period come? Ok and if I am pregnant, no questions I would need to abort it. I know that sounds mean but I have GCSE's in a year and I have no time for a kid, it would just be neglected. So could I get a abortion without tell my parents? Or do I need to wait till im 16, by which stage I could be like 4 months! And I would want the abortion where you just take the pill.Oh im so scared! I have only been having periods for a year so Im not exactly regular but I have never been this late. Is there any other signs I should look for? Please please help me I cant do this, and I dont know what you would have to look for after a month. :( xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): I believe you should have waited till you were well matured before pursuing the thought of having sex.
Yet, a missed period could mean a heap of things.
There are heaps of loving couples out there that are always attempting to have a child of there own and never able to do so. Ridding yourself of this small life may seem like the best thing for you at your age. But, truthfully you should think about putting him/her up for adoption if in fact you are with child. Ending ones life because you; yourself are not ready is simply outrageous and careless.
Next time dear, think before you act.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone :)
All day at school I was trying to imagine stomach cramps! I did feel a few pains but maybe I was imagining it but I hope not! Wow this is the first time I have wanted a period! I was pretty stressed today actually but then I was telling myself that If people could get pregnant that easily using condoms a lot more people would be! I worked out it would have been concieved on either the 15th (but I doubt it cos we used extra safe condoms) or the 28th (more likely as they were regular ones) My boyfriend is the same age as me, but hes pretty mature and dead sweet and I have told him my worries too and he said if I want he will go get a test for me to stop me worrying, seeing as leaving school with not uniform on is a such step to detention and they would just make me go change anyway (yes they are strict and insist we look like young...er old ladies) but thanks for the tip :) I will leave a follow up in about a week, and thanks again for your help!
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reader, daisygirl01  +, writes (10 September 2008):
First calm down. Sometimes when you get stressed out it causes you to be late. I can feel that you are extremly stressed. It is also normal for you to be late if your periods arn't regular. Using a condom is not full proof for protection. But I am glad you are used something.How old is your boyfriend and how does he feel about all this? You seem to be a brigh smart young lady that takes school seriously. So when you start your period. Take it as a sign to keep focused on YOU and what you deire to do in this world. I appalaud you for being truthful about not being ready to be a Mom yet. Its going to ok. Keep us updated. Remember take care of you, you have your whole life ahead of you. Wait to have sex. I promise its worth it. Live for the Moment.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (10 September 2008):
 Ok, CALM DOWN! Take a deep breath.... now exhale.
The only reason why you're late is because you're stressing about it! Seriously, believe me, it happens to me ALL the time after I have sex. Even after all the contraceptives we take, I still get fearful of getting pregnant, which makes me stress a lot and make me have a late period. Even after I know all of this my stupid brain can't get through it.
So just wait for it to come, and the easiest way is to just stop thinking about it. Occupy yourself with the same activities you do everyday. For example, for me, work, tv, and boyfriend time takes a lot of stress off my hands, making me forget about waiting for my period.
If it makes you feel better, I also got a late period the first time I had sex, and before that my periods came semi-regular. I was also a late bloomer. My boyfriend checked the condoms too, at first. I'm not pregnant and I haven't been.
Try to get some contraceptive pills and combine them with condoms when you have sex. This way, you'll stress less about getting pregnant. And if you say that you can't get stuff like this because they'll see you in your school uniform, then put normal clothes in your backpack and change after school in the restroom and after that, go to your doctor and ask for the pills.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (10 September 2008):
 Its still early days and if you are not regular then it could just be that you are late this month. You are in uk so your doctor may have a family planning clinic session or there should be a seperate clinic available in your area. Look in the phone book under family planning, or ring your doctor and ask if they have a family planning session. You dont need to leave your name and often they are drop in clinics, no appointment necessary, but even if you do it is confidential. They can do a pregnancy test on the spot, if its positive they will go through your options with you. If its negative they will probably give you some free condoms and advise you about other methods of birth control to use alongside them, such as the pill.
Its a shame you cant talk to your mum about this, obviously I dont know your circumstances but I thought I was pregnant at 18 and confided in my mum. She was lovely, really supportive and after getting a negative she then shouted and said dont ever put me through that again!!!!
I hope it all works out for you x
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reader, miss know it all +, writes (10 September 2008):
your period could be late because your stressing yourself out about being pregnant. After a month i had very sore breasts and by the 2nd month i was getting awful morning sickness thats how i knew i was pregnant, if you give yourself another week to see if your period does come but try and stop worrying aswell cos if you arent pregnant it will be stress related. You can get an abortion but it has to be before 16 weeks thats the 4 month stage, the reason you cant after that is because the the baby is fully developed. So like i said give yourself another week then if you dont come on go straight to your doctors and they will do a pregnancy test for you. I really hope this information helps you decide what you are going to do. Good luck hunny my thoughts are with you
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