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writes:I'm a 16 year old girl and I was wondering how to make friends, because I don't have any and I really don't know how to make some, and I don't want to be friendless all my life and I don't know how to go about it. Any tips? Thank you xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, dollparts +, writes (9 September 2008):
dollparts is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you :) I'll keep it all in mind. I'll do my best, wish me luck! :) I appreciate it very much :)
thank you once again xxxx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Lots and lots of clubs and school activities, they are the best for meeting new people and making friends with the added bonus of looking good on college applications and resumes.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Making friends to me was/is (depending on the environment) also very hard due to my Aspergers, so I really understand your frustration.
What I have learned to do is to start being fearless about situations. If you want to talk to someone, then just do it! It's not as hard as you think, I assure you. If I with a disorder of this kind was able to do it, why can't you? Nothing is impossible!
Before talking to someone, try to look what they're doing. For example, if a girl is putting on make up that you like, you could aproach her and say "Oh my! You have such beautiful make up! Where did you buy it?" And keep conversation flowing. When talking to someone, try to make eye contact or if you're like me, look at their mouth or nose. I'm very unconfortable with eye contact, but looking at someone's face makes the other think you're paying attention. Oh, yes, pay attention to what others say!
Doing group activities is one of the best ways to make friends. When you're placed in a group activity and you don't know anybody, present yourself. Just saying "hi, my name is ----" will be great to start conversations. If you find someone who shares interests with you, try to share them with that person. For example, if this person likes the same X band you like tell them so! You could make a whole plethora of conversations around it.
Also getting into after-school activities is one of the best ways to get friends. Think about what hobbies you like. If you're good at some sport and like it, get into the team. If you like a certain indoors hobby or an interest (comic books, anime, painting), then try to see if there's a club related to it in your school. The people in those places will share your same interest and thus easier to talk to them.
Remember to smile, be honest, be confident and be yourself. Please, PLEASE, don't try to be someone you're not nor lie something about yourself (unless is something very serious): it will come back to your face and you might loose friends. I've seen this happen too many times to prove me wrong!
Showing confidense about yourself, without exeeding to cockyness, will attract people towards you. People revolve around things they feel good and if you feel good about yourself, people will feel good about being around you. So learn to love yourself first.
Also, I almost forgot, make sure you follow all the hygene rules. Dress decently, in the style you like most, and try to not overdo it (this belongs to the "be yourself" part).
Good luck and I hope you make friends!
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reader, 8 ball +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Well i had that problem when i was younger the best thing to do is to be yourself first you dont want to go into a friendship being someone else because if you decide to be yourself you might seem fake or annoying. second i would just start small talk with people that you might think seem befriendable just to find out if you have anything in common.ex... i have a friend that i met in the 3rd grade just by asking him about dragon ball z and here we are 11 years later still best friends.to inniciate a conversation just say hi or hello or make a statement and wait for them to reply ex... man i hate this class they might say me too and it rolls from there good look though hope you make more friends then barney the purple dinosour rembember though innisiating the conversation is only half the battle.
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reader, MissMilly  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Hi There, Well to make friends just make the first step by talking to people in class or have a slumber party. Join a youth club or another type of club. Even join a drama club as their is always many people there.Be nice to people, compliment people and stuff. Try your best to fit in.Yours Faithfully, Miss Milly
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