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writes:I gave up my virginity to my boyfriend and I don't regret it. We are always safe when we have sex and we love each other so much that we are hoping to spend the rest of our lives together. I'm just not sure what to do about my parents. They were 20 when they had me and they don't want me to turn out like them so they are so overprotective to the point that I feel like I'm being suffocated. I'm so scared that if they found out that I'm having sex with my boyfriend and that we love each other they might not let me see him anymore. I'm a absolutely terrified of how my parents would react so I haven't told them. But I think my mom is getting suspicious about my sex life. Does anyone have any ideas of what I should do?
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 My parents are like that because one: they're old school and two: my dad was a man whore in his youth and fears that I will fall for a guy like him.
So, the easiest thing to do is to not have sex in your house. Look for other places to have sex, his house, a trusted friend's house, but not yours.
But if there's no other place than your house to have sex, then you could:
-Learn how to do it quietly. Learn to make loud noises, even make a silent moan. Just make no noise tha sounds like you're having sex. Even if you're able (you will through experience) have normal conversations while having sex.
-Another thing is to choose a place where you could have sex "safely" that your parents will not think as a place to do it. For example, your living room (if your house has two living rooms, use the one that ha less traffic) is a great example.
-If you have sex in these kind of places, wear all of your clothes. Just expose the necessary parts. I recommend you to wear skirts/dresses for easier access. This way if someone is comming you can act as if you were doing nothing. Oh, keep pillows around.
-Get rid off any evidence. Put condoms in the trash (wrap around three sheets of toilet paper), clean places if he misssed, keep your contraceptive pills (if you take them) in a well-hidden place, and comb hair and fix yourself after you're done.
-Don't tell your parents about your sexual life until AFTER you leave the house. This way you will be out of all the drama.
-And I almost forgot, deny, deny, DENY. If your mom asks something about this, deny it. You might feel guilty for all of this, but sometimes ignorance is a bliss.
Good luck and I hope you are not found!
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