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writes:okay....please help im getting insane ! hahahahaokay, im 16 and i talk to guys .. but not really...people see me as shy when talking to guys...there's this guy tho... he's in my resistance training class and OMG, i like want him soo bad.he's a gorgeous soccer player ! hahahai REALLY want to go up to talk to him, and such, to alter maybe become something more ?!?!there are some problems tho :1- ive never had a boyfriend, much less flirted with FEW guys at most...2- there's his good friend, a girl , they are JUST friends and im sure of it, but still it is awkward if i talk to him in that class.... they are always together in that class, you kno ?3- what would i even sayyyy ?!?!?!seeee ? im sooo bad at this hahahahwell and like, i feel weird trying to flirt with him if im not sure he likes me back you know ?he doesnt come up to me :(but mybrother, who plays soccer on his team,said that this hot boy (lets call him R) well he said that R asked him if he was my brother...which means he knows my name.. and who i was...and he went on to tell my brother that i had a picture of a specific soccer team that i like (professional) in my locker...which means he looked ?!?lol...please tell me what to do...im pretty popular, just extrememley shy WITH GUYS! maybe i should go to one of his games ?and do waht ?randomly go up to him after and say "good game ?"wont that scare him away thinkin i was a secret fanatic or something ?hahahah ????
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (10 September 2008):
 I think your idea sounds pretty good.
Go to one of his games. You can always say that you went because of your brother, if he asks. And I realy don't think he will be weirded out if you tell him "great game!", if what you say is true, then he might think "wow, a pretty/popular girl likes my game!"
Just talk to this guy how you would talk to a friend. The reason you might be afraid to talk to guys is because you might only see them as romantic interests. If you have male friends already, just imagine you're talking to one of them. That way you will be more relaxed and it will be easier to talk to him
Try, at first, to center your conversations about something you know, in this case soccer. You could ask him a lot of things about it, and in the top of my head, some would be "for how long you've been in soccer?" "why you started playing it?" etc. Look interested, look at his eyes or face, and smile at him. Also, look like you're paying attention.
Good luck and I hope you're able to aproach this guy!
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