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writes:Okay so I like this boy. And, Oh my god He is amazing! Like literally the cutest most charismatic person I know.Anyway. I;ve liked him for a while, and I've been trying to figure out if he likes me or not. I know I sound like a little kid not knowing, but it really is hard to tell. SO!My experience.signs (all very subtle)-He sits so his leg is against mine often-He sometimes lets his hand linger places, like my hand if i try to steal his cell, or my leg if he was patting it-He used to always look at me-He sometimes chooses to sit next to me, and scoots in-He forgot to bring his book to class a few times so I had to share with him.-he sometimes talks just to me-he draws on meAnti signs-he is really violent towards me:he hits me and lightly yells at me-when we are alone together he sits further away-He gets really closed up and bashful if I ask him personal questions-he is really easily distractedI'm having issues with confidence, and that is why I am asking, becasue I myself refuse to be sure. So the question is: does he like me and is just intimidated? or is he not really interestedThanks!!!!!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (7 September 2008):
 Well, I can easily explain the bruise thing: maybe you bruise like a peach? Some people are like that, it's not something so bad.
And yelling, well, I'm someone who hates the word "bitch" but I don't know about you. But it still sounds like teasing.
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reader, megadancer +, writes (7 September 2008):
megadancer is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sorry for the confusion!
I'll cover it....
The Hitting
No no he isn't just nudging me. I mean I can tell it's playful, it just hurts. I always wake up in the morning wondering if i'll have a little bruise. But he will punch me on the arm while saying for example "OH you know that episode of Buffy..." I would say it's hitting, but it's not like I hate you i want to abuse you!
The Yelling
It's also more of a playful thing... but sometimes i just wonder. Like I tried to take his pencil to write something once and he grabbed my hand and looked at me and was like "don't fucking take my pencil bitch!" and then I made a pouty face and he was like "awwwwww"
So I don't think they are really violent things... I guess I put them under Anti bucause they are the things that i don't know what to think about.
Now Thanks for your answer! It was helpful!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (7 September 2008):
Oh, I want to clarify, the reason why I asked how hard he hits you because guys can nudge you (hitting you slightly on your shoulder) to tease you. It's still hitting, but remember that using the word hitting rather than nudge brings a whole negative connotation.
And the yelling i asked because there are people who yell when mad. That's why I asked the circumstances. If you two were in a fight or you insulted him harshly, then there's reason why he yelled.
But if he yelled at you for nothing and hit you with the full sense of the word, then don't care about the whole "liking" game and end the friendship with this guy. It doesn't matter how good you see this guy, if he is like this, then don' be near him. If you continue this, you'll end up regretting it.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (7 September 2008):
Please oh please, can you clarify by him "hit[ting] you and yell[ing] at you"? How hard does he hit you? Where? What are the circumstances? Why he yells a you?
Well, he sounds like he likes you, a lot of the signs show.
And for the other "negative" signs, they're easily explainable.
He must be a shy guy and when he's alone with you, he doesn't know what to do, so he stays farther from you to avoid any awkward moments.
And for the easily distracte thing... well, a lot of people are! It's something people aren't able to control easily.
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reader, Sister Love +, writes (7 September 2008):
Honey, all I can say to this question is RUN. This is an abusive man with childhood dilemmas to be resolved. Run honey. Why are you still dealing with the ANTI stuff??? Ask yourself. That is enough for you to answer your own question. He does not even love himself obviously.
Sista Love
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