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writes:okay well i love my boyfriend with ALL my heart and would never want to lose him but i cheated on my boyfriend [of 5 years] 4 times (3 from plyin spin the phone) he only nos about 1 time he forgave me but i never gained that trust back. i feel EXTREMLY guilty about everytime but do u think i should risk losin him 4 ever and tell him about all the times or just 4get about it?? please dont say n e thing about my age i no hoow old i am i dont need n e one tellin me what i already no!! and i no what i did was wrong and if i could take it back i would do it in a heartbeat!!!!
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 i hate to tell you but psycookie has it down to a tee..if you love someone you dont cheat, and yes you should feel guilty, and honestly if you keep cheating you should split with him because he deserves better, but if you can keep yourself from cheating on him then you maybe deserve another chance. i would say tell him honesty is the key but in this case your only gonna get dumped..stop cheating and be a better person not only for him but for you too. i dont want to be harsh either but your so young and to be cheating this is when you should be molding yourself to be a better person not a worse one! so as i said stop cheating and apologise to him and reassure him you wont cheat on him again and stick to your words..and hope that no one will tell him you prob wont hear from him again.. good luck on your journey little one may it lead to a brighter place.. aphexy xx
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (8 September 2008):
 This will come pretty harsh to you but heck... truth is harsh somtimes.
What a silly way to say that you completely love your boyfriend with your whole heart yet managed to cheat on him FOUR times!
By the first one you should have learned your lesson. Your boyfriend was already TOO forgiving for the first time. You say if you could go back in time you would change everything? Well be realistic, you can't, and wishing for it to change won't do anything either. You should have thought about these when the moment of temptation came in.
I don't judge on age but I judge on actions and they clearly tell you don't love him. I belive that true love can come at any age but you are lying when you say you do.
Now, I think you shouldn't tell him. Have you forgotten that "ignorance is a bliss"? So don't tell him, it will lead to nothing good and he will just likely dump you for all.
It will take a long time to build his trust for you but it's not impossible... unless he doesn't want to. So what you have to do is gain a conscience and STOP in the time of temptation. You say you love your boyfriend? Then show it!
After this, keep assuring that you're deeply sorry and that you will not do it again; yes, you have to lie. Also, show to him that you are the only girl for him. Don't flirt with other guys, keep your focus on him, compliment his good qualities.
Just don't do any act of cheating!
And if he, in the end, actually dumps you, then you have to accept it. Remember that boys at your age are still NEW to the whole dating thing and pretty fickle. You're still REALLY young and if he dumps you, you will likely find someone who will be as good as him in your eyes. Don't give up.
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