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writes:I broke up with my girlfriend about ayear ago.I then started going out to bars and clubs and meeting lots of women.But about 2 months ago I ran into a girl I used to be great friends with.The sexual energy has always been their between us.When we saw each other both our eyes lit up.But she told me she is in a relationship.Although, she also said it was unhappy.We talk about 4 days a week and its just like old times.The sexual energy is still there.When we hang out we touch eachother alot.hold hands,hug,tap legs,etc.The other day she told me that timing is never right for us to get together.And she thinks about me alot but feels guilty also.She tells me that her boyfriend is both verbally and physically abusive and that she is stupid for being with him.This angers me,but I play it cool.I haven't told her how I feel yet.I use to be able to hold back my attraction to her but it is becoming hard and I really want her to be my lady.I fear I've fallen in love with her and I hate it because I feel I am a very rational person and stealing a girl already in a relationship is an irrational act.I am leaning towards waiting the situation out and seeing if they break up and make my move but i have no motivation to go out and meet other girls anymore.Any Advice?
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reader, pavel38  +, writes (13 November 2007):
To me you've got nothing to lose by saying something & from your post it sounds as though she is trying to tell you that she doesn't want to be with her current boyfriend & wants to be with you, but needs you to confirm that you want to be with her before she'll do anything about it.
Stealing is taking something away from its rightful owner. No-one owns a human so you wouldn't be stealing her. If she wants to be with her current boyfriend she'll tell you so. If she doesn't then she'll make the decision to leave him. You are not the decision maker, nor is her current boyfriend, she is.
But you need to tell her how you feel, the unknown can be a scary place, I once never told someone how I felt until it was too late (she said she dropped so many hints & in the end just gave up) & regretted it for ages afterwards. Don't be afraid of what she might say, it sounds like they're something there between you guys so even if she turns you down she's probably going to feel very flattered, there's nothing to lose so go for it !.
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