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writes:Via the internet I met someone last weekend. We clicked immediately and at the end of the night had a long kiss and agreed to go out again during the week. Went out for dinner during the week, again got on really well and she invited me back to hers. We slept together but didn't go all the way because she suddenly said she felt 'overwhelmed'. The next morning when I woke up things seemed abit awkward, I like her but have doubts about her as 'girlfriend' material - so (perhaps stupidly) I asked her if she thought we could be a couple, she said it was too soon but we'd catch up soon and we went our separate ways to work. Now she's saying that she isn't fully over her ex yet, doesn't want to lead me on and doesn't think we're a great match, yet does admit she really enjoys being with me, that she's had lots of fun with me, and there's clearly a physical attraction there. I think it would be a shame to end things now, we've only met twice and although we both have long-term compatibility doubts we really enjoy being around one another and have fun. I'm not a fan of one night stands but given our reservations I'm not pushing for a serious r'ship with her at this time. I've tried to explain this to her but she still says she isn't ready for this right now. I was thinking of leaving it a bit and then inviting her to meet up with me one day, not a full-on date, not just sex, just to enjoy being around one another. Is that a wise move or do you think she might just have wanted a one night stand with me ?
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reader, pavel38 +, writes (11 November 2007):
pavel38 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers - I think she's already made up her mind. Have left it for afew days to give us both time apart but next weekend am going to see an event which we have a mutual interest in so will invite her along and see if/how she replies - we just enjoy the other's company, so if afterwards she wants to come back to mine for sex fine, if she wants to go home on her own fine, no pressure from me. If she doesn't respond or declines the invite then nothing more I can do but move on. Shame mind as she admitted that she really enjoyed being with me and had great fun, and now we both know how we feel I think things would have only got better after the awkward night together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): It's a tricky one this..I was in a similar situation myself, met a great guy got on famously and we slept together. The sex wasn't mindblowing because I was nervous. He said it wouldn't work out between us because of the sex and we drifted apart. I would've liked to have seen this guy again, but he never contacted me and I was kind of hurt because I never wanted it to be a one night stand. Just ask her out again, but don't push for a relationship and keep things light........the worst she can do is say no and then you know where you stand and can move on.
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