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Should I continue my friendship with this man?
Q. hi everyone, So i have gotten myself into a pretty confusing situation where i dont even know what i feel anymore. It all started 3 years ago when i was in highschool, I was 16 at the time and thats when i met him, he wasnt just any guy, he was my ...
A. 14 November 2008: I think you can stay friends, as long as both of you adknowledge that this will never progress past friendship... like, if you both said that phrase to each other. There's no reason why you can't have friends. Just clear the thought of an affair ... (read in full...)
Neither of us is wiling to jump in first. So what do I do?
Q. I feel so pathetic coming to a website to blab about my life’s miseries to millions of strangers, but I made this account and I might as well go on with it. Well it all started last year in my Math class. I had this male teacher who was a ...
A. 4 November 2008: I advise waiting until you're at least 18, or better yet, not a student at the school where he teaches anymore. It sounds like you two have honest feelings for each other, but I think part of the reason why you like him is because he's a good ... (read in full...)
What is my teacher playing at?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need help. I just want to know what this means. Why does he do this? Who is he? He is my teacher, whom I have a little (by little I mean a lot)crush on. Why does he does this and what does it mean. One thing that you should know is ...
A. 4 November 2008: No, do not confront him like the post below says. Very bad idea. It'll just make him uncomfortable and ruin your friendship, as well as the teacher-student classroom relationship. Don't say anything to him about this--he'll be very offended and ... (read in full...)
What is my teacher playing at?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need help. I just want to know what this means. Why does he do this? Who is he? He is my teacher, whom I have a little (by little I mean a lot)crush on. Why does he does this and what does it mean. One thing that you should know is ...
A. 2 November 2008: He's just being nice. You two are friends. Don't try to progress it--just ride out the crush. If you're only 13-15 yrs old, you're not ready for the type of relationship an adult male would want. If you still feel this way after you're 18, maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm being bullied in school...
Q. I have a problem. I get bullied in school because I made a video on youtube. The song is I kissed a girl by Katy Perry and thats why everyones saying that I'm a lesbian even though that's not true. When I walk through the school corridor people ...
A. 29 October 2008: Go up to your teacher and say that you feel unsafe enough in the class to skip a day and that you feel like she's not doing anything to control the other kids who are picking on you. Basically, just let her know that she has failed as a teacher, ... (read in full...)
Do I give in to his threesome request or let him go?
Q. My boyfrend and I have been together for 6 months now. He is recently divorced. He left his wife because of several reasons but one of which was the lack of sex. He says our relationship is not based on sex, and yet he said if ever I start not ...
A. 13 October 2008: If he can't respect when you say 'no', then leave him. There are much better men out there who can appreciate you more than your current boyfriend.
x Nicole.... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 30 yr old teacher for fun. Any tips on how?
Q. Ok, how can i tell if my male teacher is interested in me? Like what signs should i look for? How do i seduce him? Im 17, a highschool senior, and he's in his 30's. So I want 2 seduce him for fun. what way can i do that? Me and him get along like...
A. 21 September 2008: Bad idea.... (read in full...)
Does this dream have any meaning?
Q. I just transfered to a new school, and I feel great about it. Except for the fact that a certain person won't be there and never will. This particular person is my teacher, well, now ex-teacher. I start school tomorrow at my new school, going in...
A. 13 September 2008: At least at my school, you can find each teacher's email on the school website. You could try that maybe, or just stop by the school after class and say 'hi' one day.
Would either of those work?... (read in full...)
Does this dream have any meaning?
Q. I just transfered to a new school, and I feel great about it. Except for the fact that a certain person won't be there and never will. This particular person is my teacher, well, now ex-teacher. I start school tomorrow at my new school, going in...
A. 11 September 2008: Okay, so I'm not sure about the slide, but I'm guessing you subconsciously feel bad about wanting to be with him even though he's married.... In the dream, it wasn't him calling you a slut, it was you. The mud probably implies some sort of dirty ... (read in full...)
I think my teacher had a crush on me, and now I find myself questioning how I feel about him, all of a sudden?
Q. A teacher this year, that taught me in a subject that wasn't my strongest, so I'd always coming for extra help after school, and naturally we got to know each other, but as the year came to an end, I started to realize that he was treating me ...
A. 9 September 2008: I think you should comment on the picture of you two... just saying that you noticed it and asking if he's going to decorate more later with other photos and personal things. It's kind of sweet that he did that. He obviously did it because he ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my Step Brother and I might be pregnant, Help?
Q. I'm 18 and my dad and his girlfriend decided to take the next step in their relationship, so she moved in with us, along with her 16 year old son. Naturally her son is very attractive and well, we started kissing a week or so after they both moved ...
A. 27 August 2008: Home pregnancy tests generally aren't absolutely accurate until a few weeks after the conception. You really should see a doctor if you want to know/confirm earlier. If you're under 72 hours, definitely go to the pharmacy to get the emergency ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and in love with a married man!
Q. hi, im 16 and i joined the police explorers group about a year ago. In like November of 2007, i noticed was growing more and more attracted to the police officer in charge of our group. I had knee surgery that spring, and he saw a picture of my knee ...
A. 27 August 2008: It's pretty obvious he liked flirting with you... maybe he didn't think it would ever progress into anything more. It seems like he was very put off by you having serious feelings for him. If he's a police officer, he knows it's wrong. I think it ... (read in full...)
A question for men about younger ladies ??
Q. Ok, soooooo... Well, to begin, I kind of really like my teacher... I know there are lots of questions about teacher-crushes on here but mine is different. I know nothing is ever gonna happen, he's happily married and has a baby. I just want to kn...
A. 17 August 2008: Some male teachers do get caught up in the moment--in the high school atmosphere--and occasionally have that single, one-time inappropriate thought. I'd say that teachers rarely ever have a second inappropriate thought, especially on the same girl. ... (read in full...)
I can't move past my boyfriend kissing another girl. Can you help?
Q. Hi, I am having a baby with my boyfriend and I'm having serious trust issues due to his past behaviour and my own. A few months ago, pre-pregnancy, my boyfriend (we are both in our mid to late 20s) of 2 years months kissed a girl at a club while he...
A. 7 August 2008: I think he truely doesn't have feelings for her since he ignored her after he saw her after he took her on the movie date... if that makes sense. I also think he might not know the gravity of his taking her out. From the way you described it, it ... (read in full...)
Does this fine lady at work (still) fancy me i.e. Am I still in the game?
Q. Hi. I've been attracted to this woman at work for the better part of four years. She is polite, dignified, interesting, sexy, very feminine (which acts as a counterbalance to all those power-dressing Germaine Greer types!) and is a genuinely nice ...
A. 7 August 2008: It sounds like since she's married, flirting was fine with her, but after you made an actual attempt to date her, you kind of ruined your chances. If she left her husband, you'd probably have a strong shot, but she hasn't, so I think you probably ... (read in full...)
I think my teacher had a crush on me, and now I find myself questioning how I feel about him, all of a sudden?
Q. A teacher this year, that taught me in a subject that wasn't my strongest, so I'd always coming for extra help after school, and naturally we got to know each other, but as the year came to an end, I started to realize that he was treating me ...
A. 4 July 2008: I think you should keep in touch emailing, and then if you still are romantically interested, maybe ask him in a few months if he wants to meet for lunch one day to talk face-to-face.
Is he seeing someone? If he is, you shouldn't try to ask him ... (read in full...)
I've just started having 'night terrors' again, how do I stop these horrible dreams?
Q. Hey. I don't really know how to say this, so I'll just come out with it. When I was a little girl, I had terrible dreams, of extreme pain and bad things happening, and would wake up with scratches and cuts all over my body. Sometimes I'd even...
A. 22 June 2008: This could actually be a sign of a medicial condition. Night terrors are common symptoms for ailments that affect various areas of the brain. You should really see a doctor. If nothing else, he could give you some medication to calm your ... (read in full...)
What's a good movie genre for a date? I want one that will make it easy to touch her hand or kiss!
Q. i'm due to go on date to cinema with my friend. I want to kiss her, but problem is there's no romantic film out to watch, in fact there's so many horror movies. Is horror movie good to watch? Any genre film which will make her or make it easy for me ...
A. 22 June 2008: Horror/thiller movies are best if no comedy or romantic comedy is available. I think if your aiming for hand holding more than you are a movie that you both will really enjoy, horror is what you're looking for. The "Indiana Jones" movie was good, ... (read in full...)
The Infamous "I have a crush on my teacher" Story
Q. The infamous “I have a crush on my teacher” post has once again graced the pages of this website, but I assure you, this post is quite different, and again, you probably have heard this many times before. I’m sorry if I’m wasting the time of the ...
A. 21 June 2008: Well, quite contrary to the introduction, I found your story very much the same as all of the others on this site. I also would like to contend that if you really were happy for his happiness, you would not be in agony over your feelings... you ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's the right decision/necessary for me to know details of his affair?
Q. I've been very contemplative about this question. I have so many questions in my head all the time that all I do is just think about them. A part of me says that I do want to know EVERYTHING (times, places, who they were with, who knew, what i...
A. 21 June 2008: I think it's right to know somethings... otherwise you'll just wonder about it forever, or you'd just draw things out.
You should probably take his position in the conversation and not exploit his offer for honesty. Don't grill him on every si... (read in full...)
Rules to dating a teacher? are there any?
Q. Okay, does anybody know the rules of dating a teacher? like, after you graduate and are 18, can you date them, or do you have to wait, will they automatically be fired if you are thier previous student?...
A. 20 June 2008: He cannot teach at the school you attend, you must be a legal adult (16-18 depending on where you live), and you both must be consenting.
...Those are the legal boundaries. However, the moral rules in this situation are far more limiting... (read in full...)
How do I get passed this without forgetting him altogether?
Q. I have found myself in an odd situation and I don't know how it happened. So, to begin, I just graduated high school about 2 weeks ago. At the beginning of my senior year I met a male teacher who was very kind and helpful to me. Now, I know at t...
A. 20 June 2008: I think you should focus on other things until next school year, and then go back to your high school to visit him after or before classes sometime. Maybe then you can tell him about wanting to stay in touch and swap email addresses or something.
... (read in full...)
My teacher and I got on well until he overheard my conversation with a friend! Help!
Q. i'm 16 and here is my situation. I used to have a crush on my teacher like all teenagers, and i got over him over time :) Me and my teacher used to get along really well and he always used to say hi in the corridors and always make eye contact with...
A. 19 June 2008: I agree with the previous post. You should talk to him about it, especially if it's bothering you enough to post a question about it. You could trying stopping by before or after school and saying you'd like to talk with him and to apologize for ... (read in full...)
What do I get my French Teacher for a year end present?
Q. I'm a teenager in my last year at high school. In the first three years for french i had this amazing french teacher who really inspired me into learning. She was probably my fave teacher as she always let me off if i didn't have my homework...
A. 19 June 2008: A book would be okay.
A letter is really the way to go. Unless you can think of something that she would like, a letter is always good.
For a present, I got my favorite teacher one of those viewmaster clicking things from a musuem I went to... (read in full...)
Should I call and say sorry? I turned my teacher now and I don't know if I did the right thing!!
Q. Maybe I messed up by turning my teacher down,let me explain.Okay im 16 in high school and have a huge thing for my teacher.I posted a question asking for advice on how to handle it.She says she cares for me and loves me and we talk on the phone ...
A. 14 June 2008: You did the right thing. She's the adult, and she should have been the one turning you down on furthering things--she knows this. It's okay with her that you said 'no'. That's your right.
Also, do NOT write her a note like one of the other an... (read in full...)
I have a major crush on my teacher and he shows me extra attention, what do I do?
Q. I'm currently doing my A levels at my school, and are being taught by a teacher whom i've had for 3-4 years now. I have THE biggest crush on him, but to be honest, i'm not going to make a move or anything because i think everyone knows what will hap...
A. 13 June 2008: I would just enjoy the attention, but never act on it. I mean, you say you like him, so when he says you're attractive, just take it in stride. If he ever makes a move, tell him you're not interested in progressing things. But yeah, if you like ... (read in full...)
Hot for teacher!
Q. i know this question is gonna sound PSYHCOTIC(however you spell it....lol)but here goes..i have feelings for my teacher and he recently "found" out....my question is should i confront him about it one day afterschool (since this will be my last week ...
A. 8 June 2008: I'd say either wait or forget about it. Unless you are absolutely certain that he's interested in you as well, this could make it very awkward for both of you, and he might report any move you make for his own protection. Also, if you told him ... (read in full...)
I think my teacher is flirting with me.
Q. I KNOW THERE'S LOADS TO READ HERE - I DIDN'T PLAN ON THIS BEING SO LONG BUT I REALLY NEED ADVICE HERE AND I'D APPRECIATE IT SO MUCH IF SOME OF YOU WOULD TAKE THE TIME TO READ IT AND OFFER YOUR VIEWS. THANK YOU! This is going to sound like the ...
A. 8 June 2008: Hmmm, I think it's innocent. He sounds like he's just being playful.
It's obvious that you both care for each other (eg, the "love you" comment), but I think it's more of a close-friend relationship. Teachers need people to joke with during t... (read in full...)
I have this teacher. I am 17, & he just turned 29..........
Q. I have this teacher. I am 17, and he just turned 29. Anyway, the attention I began to receive were, in my opinion, just regular expressions of favoritism but then my friends are telling me otherwise. I will list them in order. He picks me too fre...
A. 27 May 2008: I have a very similar relationship to one of my teachers, and I think it's a good thing. I mean, like you said, I know that nothing can or will ever happen, so we just enjoy each other's company.
It does sound a bit like he likes you, but he c... (read in full...)
I'm 17, my teacher is 27. I have a crush...
Q. Hi, I'm 17 years old, and I have a HUGE crush on my teacher. He's 27 years old, and its his second year teaching. I had him when it was his first year teaching, and it all started then...He's a really great teacher, I learned a lot from him. This ...
A. 27 May 2008: People work better together if they connect personally, be it coworker-coworker, teacher-student, or any other authority-dependent status. I think it's good that you all are friends--I don't think it's weird at all. Having a romantic relationship, ... (read in full...)
Please help! Should I tell this amazing man and teacher how I feel if/when I leave school, despite there being a chance that I may be coming back?
Q. I appreciate that there are many posts on here about teacher/student relationships. Please do read this is may appear to be long but I would really appreciate the help! I also have a serious problem with my ex-teacher which has been escalating ...
A. 26 April 2008: If you're going to tell him, do it face-to-face just talking. Don't write anything down, for both of your protection. What you're talking about doing is very serious, and you have to be kind of... covert.
But I would advise WAITING until af... (read in full...)
Please help! Should I tell this amazing man and teacher how I feel if/when I leave school, despite there being a chance that I may be coming back?
Q. I appreciate that there are many posts on here about teacher/student relationships. Please do read this is may appear to be long but I would really appreciate the help! I also have a serious problem with my ex-teacher which has been escalating ...
A. 17 April 2008: I don't know if you should tell him. He could just see you as a daughter, and you'd be throwing away that relationship if you told him. The kissing on the forehead thing sounds a bit romantic, but it also could be parental. Are you positively ... (read in full...)
Please help me out here, I am totally obsessed with my teacher!!
Q. I know there's tons of questions under this topic, but here its goes. I'm sixteen, and absolutely crazy about a teacher in my high school. It's become so bad, i's taken over my life. I can never stop thinking about him. It started about a year ...
A. 14 April 2008: Hmmm, so wait: Have you ever had an actual conversation with him or not? Or was it just not at first that you watched from afar?
Well, in any case, you've gotten yourself in pretty deeply. The song and poem and picture... he knows it's you. I ... (read in full...)
Genuine teacher/student problem - urgent advice needed!
Q. Hey, genuinely want advice here guys! Ok, Im 16 and doing my 'A' levels at my school sixth form. There is this one teacher I get along very well with, and im not sure what's happening with us. He is married with children He is genuinely, i b...
A. 5 April 2008: Okay, so I'm confused: are you interested in him or not? If you are, then what's the problem? Are you having second thoughts because he's married? He's always been married, and that didn't stop you before.
I think what he meant by the 'looking... (read in full...)
Genuine teacher/student problem - urgent advice needed!
Q. Hey, genuinely want advice here guys! Ok, Im 16 and doing my 'A' levels at my school sixth form. There is this one teacher I get along very well with, and im not sure what's happening with us. He is married with children He is genuinely, i b...
A. 1 April 2008: I think that you should just keep being his friend...
I mean, he's obviously hurting, and you stop that. So naturally he's going to like you, but just remember where the boundaries are. If you two are really in love with each other, then I'm... (read in full...)
My teacher and I get lost in each other's eyes! I don't know what to do!
Q. well im in 11th grade,17 years old and im love with my goverment teacher,i have know him since 9th grade,hes always there for me,and no lie i love to flirt with him,he does the same but at times he keeps it on the low.alot of girls in my school have ...
A. 23 March 2008: The ex-government teacher at my school got fired last year for having inappropriate sexual relations with a student. After that, his life took a downward spiral: his fiance (who was a model) left him, the student went away to college, he lost his ... (read in full...)
Should I try to make him feel better, or just let it go?
Q. I have this teacher who always seems to put himself down, but i'm not sure if I should try to make him feel better. At the beginning of the school year, my teacher was talking about how he coudldn't wait to get home and see his puppies because ...
A. 22 March 2008: Stop by and chat with him before school--just be friendly. There's no need for romantic suggestion, so just try to show a friendly interest in him.
I disagree with the other posts. This is your responsibility. You see someone else in need, an... (read in full...)
My teacher likes me, kissed me and is scaring me! I'm feeling awful but no one will believe me if I tell them.
Q. Hi, i have this really bad problem it's about a teacher and it's nothing to do with me liking him its the other way round. We have just broke up from school for the easter holidays. The whole story started when i was walking down the corridor goi...
A. 22 March 2008: That's so... bizarre. Police and school officials are required to take bizarre complaints seriously, though, so don't be afriad about telling them. It's strange that the one teacher was fired so quickly and that you know the reason for his ... (read in full...)
I can't stand the thought that my teacher will be going home after the school term ends...I'm 18, he's 27...
Q. I'm 18 and coming up to my last fews months studing my A levels at 6th form, the problem is i can't stand the thought of leaving and more so a teacher of ours who has grown to be a really good friend is leaving to go back to Australia (where he ...
A. 22 March 2008: If you all are friends, tell him you want to keep in contact b/c you value his friendship. Give him your email address, and then maybe he'll reciprocate.
You could also just tell him how you feel, but it would be better if you waited until yo... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my teacher and feel I am in love with her!
Q. Well, I know this is a very redundant topic on here, and I've read a bunch of questions and answers. But the thing is that most that I would like to reply to have been closed. So I finally decided to post my own, as no one question/story is quite ...
A. 22 March 2008: I don't think she knows. I mean, I know if a female friend started talking to me about my personal life, or said she knew where I lived, I wouldn't think she had romantic feelings for me. Heterosexual people tend to assume everyone is ... (read in full...)
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