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anonymous
writes:I have a problem. I get bullied in school because I made a video on youtube. The song is I kissed a girl by Katy Perry and thats why everyones saying that I'm a lesbian even though that's not true. When I walk through the school corridor people laugh and sing "I kissed a girl". Sometimes people try to trip me and they call me names like mouse and rat because I'm small. I am very silent at school because Im afraid that my bullies will immetate me in a silly way and everyone will laugh. Yesterday I had P.E. at school and I had to play badminton with a bully. Then my P.E. teacher asked me if everything was ok and that I look very sad. I said that everything was fine and then he said infront of my class that I am very sensitive and emotional and no one should laugh at me. After that everyone was saying that Im a horrible teachers pet. During classes some boy (and girls) throw eraser bits and pens and other things at me. Teachers can see it happening but no-one is doing anything about it. I have told my mum but she isnt interested. Also my teacher wont do anything. Today I didnt go to school at all because I heard that my whole class watched the video at school.
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Go up to your teacher and say that you feel unsafe enough in the class to skip a day and that you feel like she's not doing anything to control the other kids who are picking on you. Basically, just let her know that she has failed as a teacher, and she WILL change. Believe me.
If the teacher doesn't do anything still, go to an administrator and tell them what happened and that you've spoken to your teacher but that she's not acting on it. Administration typically takes bullying very seriously. You'll see results by the next day. Just make sure you want the results--I mean, they're going to have to talk with the 'bullies' to confirm that they are bullying you. Sometimes that just can make things worse. Try to keep it just between you and your teacher(s) if you can.
Best of luck! Let us know how things go.
-Nicole.
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reader, lost and lonely +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Hi, you should go back to school, and if they start up on you say, you know I saw your mom kissing a another does that make her a les, also, just tell them you like that song and that your not gonna change it for them or anyone else, you should also go directly to the principles office and tell him/her of the problem in classes and that the teachers wont stop the problem, also tell them if they keep it up you are gonna file charges on them for harrasment, for that is against the law, Also tell them to go to hell, heck with them. Hun it will fade away in a couple of days , now if you want to get nasty, do this take pictures of some of the kids at school with out them knowing it,. and just fix there bubble, by placing the pictures on the web, or where ever so that the other kids at school would see them and have them doing and saying things about others, that would turn the attention away from you and they will start on someone else, just be careful, that it dont bit you on the butt, okay... or just stand your ground and tell them all to Go to Hell... and walk away... but tell the principle, of the teachers not stopping the eraiser and things being thrown at you... good luck.
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reader, numbman +, writes (29 October 2008):
I love that song !
Everyone is singing it, i think they all pick on you because you get so much attention on the internet
it seems that they are kinda jealous
you say you are petite, well you grow still :) your like 14 or something ? :S i dunno but im 1000 % positive youll get bigger
honestly im like 19 and most girls i know of my age are fat.
I think the bullies of your class, the girls at least, will get that fat too
its ugly, i think you are very beautiful girl in 5 years
dont get too caught up in this shit alright, we have all been in highschool. And because everyone is insecure they start to think what 1 people thinks, so one boy or girl, the one with the most influence is jealous about you and therefore they try to get you down
dont try to worry so much about it, keep on singing and record it on webcame. And save it ! in a few years you will love you kept it. I dunno if you sing very well but i love to see old videos of myself.
dont post the videos on youtube though, your class will watch and dont give them that pleasure.
Also say to your bullies whatever happens that you forgive them, your enemies will hate it (i know from experience) try to look happy, when you look sad people one abuse you.
but when you look happy, people WILL test if you really are happy and if they can try to get you down. This gives them power and make them feel good
Dont give them any terrain.
GOODLUCK !
oh and in a few years tons of guys would love to date you
i swear :)
pick a good one ;)
but for now, focus on happy things and do what you like
Peace
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): I realized all you need in school is one or two good friends...the rest can be people to get to know (because trust is earned)
I'm sure you have alot going for you...think of 10 things you like (or are thankful) about yourself or life...it's a great attitude booster...and gives you confidence. Kids will notice this and change Their attitude towards You. (besides, all kids in school are insecure to a degree)
If you can focus on your good points, try new things, your life will be better each day. Take Care!
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reader, Kawika +, writes (29 October 2008):
 I'm sorry to hear of your problem. People don't realize how much their words and dirty looks can hurt. Sometimes words can hurt more than getting punched in the face.
Anyway, I don't really know what your video is about, but it seems that it has rubbed off on some people...the wrong way. I guess there are consequences for everything we do. Normally, when I am confronted with a situation like yours (which is often)...I tend to not let people think that it bothers me. The more they see that there tactics are affecting you...the more they will continue to do it. A simple smile with an attitude that you don't even care what they had said or done does wonders...you'll see. Eventually, they will give up and life will go on.
I've taken this concept from my practices of the martial arts. When someone attacks me, I don't just stand there hoping to get punched...I simply pivot and move to the side. What this does is it lets the bonehead fall to the ground on his own. I can do this forever while he stumbles all over the place beating himself up. After a while he will eventually give up in shame. It is the same thing in life. Embrace the positive energy, but divert the negative ones. Don't give them the ammunition by being irritated, getting mad or looking sad. Smile as if you don't even care. If you do...then you will begin to turn the tide by getting them irritated instead of you. This is a simple concept that will make you stronger well beyond your years. Good luck...and no more videos already...okay? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): aww poor huni!how silly are these school people being? they are all trying to get together to "look cool"..and have formed a plot against you to "fit in".. they are total losers! and don't ever think that they can intimidate you.. you are the strong one here (I know..i was in that situation in school myself when I was 15) and its hell being on your own when the whole class is against you for NO reason at all..you have got to tell you tutor about what is going on.. Trust me, its the best thing to do..He will talk to the main group of girls bullying you and they will soon be scared to ever say a thing again :) I know its a hard thing to tell the tutor because you think they will bully you more but thats not the case.. if you suffer in silence ur self esteem will drop to rock bottom because of these silly people.. just keep remembering how amazing you are to put up with any of there stupid comments.. do not even say anything back to them- they are pathetic..and not worth it! Look for the people who do not join in with the comments, make friends with them and explain how you feel about it all.. you will soon have a great new group of friends, I promise =) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): dont be scared to stand up babes ,if there calling you a lesbian say well is that Katy Perry one? (i dont think she is lol)and if your teachers aint doing nothing to help get in touch with the head teacher and ask him/her to talk to the teachers to try and stop it.have you spoke to people at home about it?just next time anyone says anything stand upand if people are throwing stuff at you. throw it back :)or just talk to someone and try and stop it.its out of order and perfectit tell them to grow up and pretend what they are saying you dont care take no notice and they will give up. being shy and quiet proberly making them think beacause shes not replying she is a lesbian so stand up , ingore if they carry on , and if it dont stop tell someonehope it helped a bit :)good luck xo
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