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writes: i know this question is gonna sound PSYHCOTIC(however you spell it....lol)but here goes..i have feelings for my teacher and he recently "found" out....my question is should i confront him about it one day afterschool (since this will be my last week of school)when hes alone or wait until 2009 that i graduate??i dont expect a relationship right know if thats what you think but i just want to get this off my chest....i mean he already knows,is there a difference??by the way he doesnt have a girlfriend or kids,and hes in his late 20's.thanks i hope im not wasting your time!!!!!!-DreamingOfYou
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): hi, im know what you're going through, im actually going through the same thing right now as we speak. my teacher is about 27, and im 17. he's a great guy and everything, and i really do like him, and i cant find someone my own age and feel the same way. the point that im trying to get to is that you really dont have a chance. well you might...but it probably wont work out. Theres a big age difference between you two. you cant really do things together, you cant go out drinking together because you'll only be 18, and theres tons of other stuff too. sorry if this makes you sad. but i had to hear this too from people.
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reader, nicole5178  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 I'd say either wait or forget about it. Unless you are absolutely certain that he's interested in you as well, this could make it very awkward for both of you, and he might report any move you make for his own protection. Also, if you told him now, it could ruin the connection you all apparently have, so you could end up driving him away for the next year. Your interactions you have now could stop, which would be very very depressing for you, it seems.
I think it's best if you act like it never happened, and if you're still interested by the end of next schoolyear, then speak to him about your feelings then. Sometimes things are just a phase, so make sure your feelings are strong enough to last another year before you take such a big step. This is a very delicate situation, so just act with caution.
Best of luck- Nicole.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 i agree with them both sorry. if you take this matter further you could ruin his career and if you cared for him then you wouldnt want that to happen..and majority of the time what your feeling is just towards a authority figure instead of a partner. so i would forget about it and find someone your own age. and with him not having a partner maybe he just hasnt found the one or maybe he doesnt want a partner, or maybe you just dont know enough about him and his social life.. so i would stay well clear away because proberly you will only end up hurting yourself and him over this.. thats my opinion aphexy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much and its not the "authority" thing i fell for cuz im the type of girl that HATES that,its just that i might have him as a teacher again next year and i want to set things to him straight that i WOULD NEVER do anything to jepordize him,you know what i mean....
ive tried to date guys my age,but not one of them has captured my heart..i know i may sound dumb but thats how i feel..thanks for the advice,hope i wasnt waisting your time.
DreamingOfYou
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (8 June 2008):
 i would suggest waiting till next yeah and hopeing it fades because it would be unethical for a teacher to date a student, which i do understand your not looking for a relationship, but if your not then theres no reason to talk to him about. if someone found out that you spoke to him privatly about your feeling for him its possible that he could get fired even though he didnt do anything wrong, its a precaution, iv seen it happen befor. i hate saying it but you should try to forget about it. sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): I am a high school teacher and there are not many guys going into the teaching field anymore because they all think that father deprived young girls are going to make up fantasies about them, report it to the authorities, whether true or false and their life will be over before it starts...so if you want this for this guy...just go for it..he can become another statistic. Sorry hun, I do do not get this..there are tons of cool guys out there...who would fall for a teacher. Is it the authority figure thing.
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