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writes:I'm 18 and my dad and his girlfriend decided to take the next step in their relationship, so she moved in with us, along with her 16 year old son. Naturally her son is very attractive and well, we started kissing a week or so after they both moved in. My dad walked in on us one time holding hands, and I made the excuse I was trying to see how hard I could squeeze his hand, and he had a talk with me saying that if anything is going on although i'm saying there isn't, that it needs to stop. But that only made it worse. We started doing more than just kissing and most nights we'd both end up without our shirts on. And eventually things progressed to sex. We've only had sex about 4 times, but the fourth time, he didn't pull out like usual, and when he did the condom slipped off and stayed inside me, I pulled it off myself. But the bad thing is, yeah i know we could get caught and destroy our parents' lives, but i think some of the semen might have spilled, I'm not entirely sure though yet. And I don't know what to do if I find out I'm pregnant. And it doesn't help that I was on the exact day i was the most fertile or ovulating the most....What should i do?
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (27 August 2008):
 Home pregnancy tests generally aren't absolutely accurate until a few weeks after the conception. You really should see a doctor if you want to know/confirm earlier. If you're under 72 hours, definitely go to the pharmacy to get the emergency contraceptive pill like one of the previous posters mentioned.
Personally, I don't have a problem with step sibling relationships as long as they were at least 16 when their parents married. After 16, you hardly ever develop a normal sibling relationship where it would seem incestous. Anyway, from your post though, it sounds like she's just your dad's girlfriend... not wife? You'd definitely trash their relationship if you two really were pregnant, but put the baby before them. Hurting something as innocent as that is the only real crime that can occur here (just my humble opinion, take it as you wish.)
My best advice: Talk it over in detail with your step brother/boyfriend before you involve anyone else in the situation, friends and other trusted adults included.
Best of luck!! Let us know how it goes...
x Nicole.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (26 August 2008):
 OK, first things first. get a pregnancy test, and if you are pregnant your entire gamily has to have a crisis discussion immediately. That will be one very hard discussion, but it shouldn't threaten your dad's marriage. Assuming he is in love with his wife, the knowledge that the two of you are following your instincts, while inconvenient, should not be that traumatic.
Which leads us to the second problem. The two of you. You should realize that you are not related in any physical sense, except that your parents happen to be married, so there would be no real reason why eventually you could not become involved with one another. Note however: EVENTUALLY. Right now, he's still probably under age in most jurisdictions, which could land YOU in a boatload of trouble. In addition, your parents understandably object to their home becoming a place for open season sexual activity between the two of you.
While you live with them you're going to have to respect their wishes and cool it. Yes, it's going to be difficult, but it's something that needs to be done. Until you are ready to establish yourself as an independent adult, you play by their rules at their house. And that includes not screwing the guy that they regard as your brother.
Once you're out on your own, you're free to change the rules somewhat. At that point it would be perfectly acceptable to go to your parents and tell them that the two of you are interested in one another and plan to begin a relationship. This may involve a rather lengthy family discussion, because they will probably be concerned that this is, emotionally although not physically, incest of a sort. You see, it can seem a lot easier to some people to develop a relationship with a close relative, who they already know and who is not likely to reject them, than it is to take the chance on trying to find love elsewhere. Your parents are going to be trying to protect the two of you from that kind of a mistake.
And both of you should be honest with yourselves as well. To what extent are you involved with him just because he is attractive and VERY available, not because of who he really is? Think about it. Hard.
But once the two of you are no longer living together, the relationship between you should be able to develop more normally. By then, too, he will probably be closer to the legal age (if he isn't already there in your jurisdiction), so that will take that pressure off as well.
Temptation is high, but out of respect for your parents and for the good of the future that you might want for yourselves with each other, you really should take it easy for now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Like the other post said, go and get a pregnancy test. You can buy them in the grocery store. Also, you might want to either get on the pill or stop having regular sex with him. Maybe just limit your sex to oral sex. Or maybe you could try anal sex, if you like anal sex and it doesn't hurt too much. If you've never tried anal sex before, you will need to be careful and use lots of lubrication and probably still make him use a condom so that his cum won't leak into your vagina. That has been known to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): go take a pregnancy test
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