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writes: well im in 11th grade,17 years old and im love with my goverment teacher,i have know him since 9th grade,hes always there for me,and no lie i love to flirt with him,he does the same but at times he keeps it on the low.alot of girls in my school have a crush on him,i dont know there reason but my reason is that he has a sensative heart he opens up to me like i open up to him,hes 29 years old and he has a girlfriend they have like a year together but dont have a stable relationship,(he told me)all my friends notice the way he stares at me and they tell me he im the onlygirl he stares at like that,we have these "intimate"moments together when we just look into each others eyes and get lost in them,we play around at times and at times we pretend we arent even there for one another..man i dont know what to do,please help me out.AngelMorena05
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much kittikat and to all of you for giving me advice,i have tried to handle this in a mature responsible way,but sometimes i get lost and dont know what to do i mean i have liked this guy since i was 14 and know that im 17 i see things aliitle clearer.we never really fully grow upin life so i will take all your advices into mind.THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!love you all!!!!!!
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reader, kittikat  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 Hi Angel,Just be careful honey, it's smart for you to try to avoid the situation. You're also smart to try to enjoy things your age and live a normal teenage life. This is your time to find yourself and just enjoy. I'm a firm believer in fate and I certainly believe that every single thing that happens to us does so for a reason. Sorry for the cliche, but it's how I feel. If you two are feeling this strong connection and are meant to be together, it will come at some point in your life. But, right now- you're underage and the reason why you're considered off limits is because typically people can't make mature, life altering decisions at your developmental stage. I got married 3 months after I turned 18 to a guy I knew for about 2 months. I threw away an academic scholarship and moved to another country all because he was "fun" and I thought that it's what I wanted. What a way to learn a lesson! I wasn't capable of knowing what I really wanted at that point, I know that now. Geez, I'm almost 30 and sometimes I still think like a 14 year old :-) Your tastes are going to change over time, and so will your desires and needs. So, just hang tight and take care of you right now. If you two are having so many "coincidences", then it may also happen in the future when you're better equipped to handle that type of relationship- free, without guilt or doubt. You never know what the future will bring!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for helping me out guys,i know most of you think im a little imature girl but its not like that,know i have been trying so much to stay far away from him as possible and when i do something brings us together(well pure conwinsedence i guess....however you spell it....lol),ive been trying so hard to forget him get into relationships with guys my age but everything leads back to him,and you all may think hes hot but hes not like that at all hes a little nerdy(or so my school mates say),short,non muscular but his person attracts me to him so much i dont know what this is that im feeling but the feeling is beautiful.and this feeling is also telling me not to do anything but stay far from him(at least until i graduate and its safe).THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR HELPING ME OUT GUYS.-AngelMorena05
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (23 March 2008):
 The ex-government teacher at my school got fired last year for having inappropriate sexual relations with a student. After that, his life took a downward spiral: his fiance (who was a model) left him, the student went away to college, he lost his teaching license, and now he has to go to night school to train for a new career. He lost everything, even his Porsche and his super-luxurious house b/c he couldn't keep up with the payments, which he split with his fiance. (He used to be this renowned philosopher or something, and he wrote a whole book about it that sold pretty well, so he was pretty wealthy to before he started teaching.) That girl ruined his life.
For your teacher's sake, wait until after you graduate to act on anything. But in the mean time, start looking at other guys--this could just be a phase. For his sake, and your own, just take it slow. I personally don't condemn ex-teacher/ex-student relationships, but if anything happened while you still went to that school, it'd be a breach of trust, and just overall, very very bad.
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reader, kittikat +, writes (23 March 2008):
Stay away! Run! You may think you feel a connection, but he's already crossed the line. A teacher should not be talking about his personal situation with students or gazing into their eyes. It's creepy, inappropriate and scary. You're 17, he's 29...He's probably hot and he definately knows it- he gets a rush from thinking about you younger girls crushing on him. Seriously, he's not into you. He's getting off on your reactions to him. That's scary because it shows that he doesn't have enough confidence to be fulfilled by women his own age and that's not the type of guy you want anything to do with. That shows that there's something seriously messed up with him. This is beyond flattery. On the other hand, you and your friends could just be perceiving his attention to mean something else. You know? If you all think he's hot and you focus your energy on him, you start to pay even more attention and focus on mannerisms, looks, etc... eventually misconstruing them. You've got a whole world ahead of you and really need to think about all the things your future will bring. This is High School, shit! Just leave it alone, it's all bad news. If he tries to pursue you or make a pass, make sure you report it. I saw 3 teachers fired and prosecuted when I was in HS for messing with students. One of the students was my best friend and now that we're older, she just thinks he's a total loser with major mental problems. It's a federal crime for a reason that you may not understand yet. Be careful girl.
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reader, lovinit +, writes (23 March 2008):
im 18 and just got my bachelors and going to medical school. i know how it is to like a teacher and having sex with a teacher is something i dreamed about but it never happened.to me it sounds like the teacher is trying to set up a trap. he has a girlfriend but tells you he doesn't have a stable relationship. i think he tells you that because he likes girls young ( hell, i don't blame him! i like 16-17 year olds too!) and wants to safeguard himself from getting in trouble at school. if you have sex with him and tell anyone or if anyone finds out the whole school will know and its bound to reach the office of the principle and parents that would hear from their children saying 'a girl had sex with a teacher etc..'.id suggest don't do it since your a female but since im a male ( and if you were a male) i would say i would have sex all day and all night until your heart is content...question: what is it with younger girls and older guys... whats so bad about guys the same age or a year or 2 older?post back and let me know if i helped you.
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 It's against the law in the united states for a teacher to have any sort of relationship with a student, regardless of the student's age. You need to respect that and him. He could go to jail and your reputation would go downhill very quickly. Have some respect for yourself. My cousin is a teacher and his girlfriend use to be one of his students. She's 18 years younger than him, and everyone in the family thinks it's disgusting. Get yourself together and act like a mature young woman rather than a giggly little girl. But then again, what do I know? Perhaps you don't care and you just want to throw caution to the winds. You go right ahead. Then your relationship with him will exist with a piece of Plexiglas between the two of you. Hope his career can stand a jail sentence.
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reader, HMBBabyface +, writes (23 March 2008):
 No. You cannot have a relationship with your teacher. He is TWICE YOUR AGE! His staring borders on sexual harassment. It's natural to be infatuated with those who are older and wiser. However, it's improper for a student to have a relationship with a high school teacher. Additionally, he will lose his job. You need to get over him as soon as possible. Whenever he stares, you need to look away. If he attempts anything, go to a school administrator.
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