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14 May 2009: Hello readers...... I am going to give you a how to on when you know it is the right time or not to have sex. This is especially for the young readers. The one thing that we as women want to know that someone we are in a serious relationship with ...
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How to get my boyfriend to be more dominant in bed?
Q. i want to know how to get my boyfriend to be more dominant in bed. i get turned on knowing i am satisfying the guy, doing the positions he likes etc but my bf will not ever say. i ask do u wanna try a different position? and he just says if you do, ...
A. 11 July 2009: In the middle of having sex, tell him that you want him to take control of your body. Say it in a really sexy way and watch his response to you. Let him know that you like when he is in charge. Let him know that it turns you on to no ... (read in full...)
What can I do to cure my ejaculation problems?
Q. Hi, I'm a man in his 40s, I've not been able to ejaculate during intercourse pretty much ever. I lost my virginity when I was 18, and have had many partners since then but I've only ejaculated during intercourse maybe 30 times. I've been marrie...
A. 5 July 2009: It might not be in your head. You probably need to see a specialist. Don't give up hope and don't rule out that it migh be something really wrong.......Google is my best friend! Why don't you google some specialists concerning your situation. You ... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave this unhappy marriage?
Q. I am unhappily married with two children to a man who is physically and verbally abusive who also has a drug addiction that he can't kick. We get along sometimes, but he treats me like I'm his child and makes comments about my parenting. He won't ...
A. 5 July 2009: Yes, I would say that it is time to leave. I am a 42 year old mother of 2. I have a 22 year old and a 3year old by my husband. Today makes 7 years that I have been with my husband and he is still using drugs!!!!!! I am getting a divorce because I ... (read in full...)
Is he just being friendly or is there more in it?
Q. hi hope someone can give their opinion. A few months ago a guy joined the place i work, and we spoke a few times. over the last month things have changed slightly and a few of my friends have commented on how this guy acts around me and have said ...
A. 1 July 2009: Girl, he likes you and apparently you like him too. Somebody needs to make the first move and it looks like it will have to be you..........Go for it!!!!!!!!!!Don't say that you aren't confident enough. If you say that, then you claim it so don't ... (read in full...)
Budgeted birthday gift ideas?
Q. I need some ideas as to what to get my boyfriend for his birthday. He will be 36 years old. I asked him what he wanted and he said that he has everything he wants which I think is great but doesn't help me! What do you get the man who says he has ...
A. 28 June 2009: The photo suggestion from Shiraz is a great idea. I also have another suggestion. How about a picnic dinner on the beach. Very original, inexpensive, and I believe it would be memorable. Cook some of his favorites, pack it up, nice beach blanket and ... (read in full...)
All we do is have sex! Is he serious about me?
Q. Does my man really want to really get serious... all we do is have sex....... what should i do?...
A. 23 June 2009: That is what most men want initially, and if he is between the ages you specified, yes, he wants sex and lots of it. Now, the real question is that if you find out that that is all he wants, what are YOU going to do.................. (read in full...)
I know my ex-husband well enough to know he is lying to me, why does he do this?
Q. It's Father's Day. My daughter is visiting her dad for the summer again. My daughter started talking about a movie she saw two days ago. I asked her who took her and she ignored me. I asked her again, and she would not say. Her dad told her not ...
A. 22 June 2009: Basically, he is being silly. This is what the deal is. He gives himself to much power over your emotions. What I mean by that statement is that he wants you to think that his life is fulfilled so you can get jealous. He is looking for a response ... (read in full...)
How does he get 11" out of 5 or 6?
Q. Hey! this is quite an embarrassing question - its about my b/f - lets call him todd. Right so Todd is always boasting about how big his penis is. ... according to him its around 11 inches. I knew he was being over the top and it wasn't until the ...
A. 21 June 2009: Yea, he got some nerves cheating on you with that little thing. I am very sorry about that. I hope things will work out fine, but I am sure you will be okay. He wasn't worth you anyway........... (read in full...)
How does he get 11" out of 5 or 6?
Q. Hey! this is quite an embarrassing question - its about my b/f - lets call him todd. Right so Todd is always boasting about how big his penis is. ... according to him its around 11 inches. I knew he was being over the top and it wasn't until the ...
A. 17 June 2009: Ask him why does he think his penis is 11 inches? Did he measure it. Why don't you measure it, but do it in a way that won't offend him............. Maybe he does know that it is small and he does that to build himself up.......Men do those sort of ... (read in full...)
Do I really need a man or will I be lonely?
Q. Hi Need some advice. Am mid 50's and had a boyfriend for over 4 years - we were happy and got engaged but then the last two years not been great. I work full time, he is retired and I have a very busy life, and find I do not have a lot of time to ...
A. 14 June 2009: I don't think you will be lonely. You need to find someone that is compatible with you. You have a full life and that is wonderful, but unfortunately your boyfriend doesn't and it doesn't seem like he is trying to busy himself while you are doing ... (read in full...)
Partner just broke up with me and I'm really hurting
Q. I've used this site for a long time and have tried to give some help and relief to people going through stressful times and worries. I have always considered myself good at copeing in the face of adversity and boy have I faced a lot. Yesterday...
A. 14 June 2009: You will be just fine. You sound like a very strong woman and because of that you can face any adversity that comes your way. Yes, it is unfortunate that you are not compatible anymore with someone you have given 2 years of your time, but that is ... (read in full...)
No time for sex with me as he studies too hard!
Q. Me and my bf are in a relationship 7 months now. He loves me an all but he is really into studying and i hate it! He never has time for me! but its ok... i try to handle it. i tell him sometimes that he should relax a little, but it's no use... but ...
A. 8 June 2009: Well, the first question is what is he studying? It must be a very serious course. You have to understand that men are not able to multitask. They can only concentrate on one thing at a time. Now, we can have sex all of the time and still get things ... (read in full...)
Any good positions you recommend for sex with new partner?
Q. I turn 18 tomorrow and have been seeing a 37 yr old man for exactly one month today. We're planning on having sex tomorrow because neither of us want him to get into any legal trouble. Does anyone know of any good positions that we could try out? ...
A. 6 June 2009: Do the doggy style which I am sure you probably did that one, but it is always a winner. Ride him of course. Let him pick you up and do it like that, but he has to be strong enough to lift you up. Do it at the edge of the bed while he is kneeling on ... (read in full...)
What makes a man lose interest?
Q. This is just a general question for anyone who thinks they can shed some insight. What makes a man lose interest? I can guess that early on in a relationship it could be that the partner is needy or clingy, too pressurising etc, but I'd like to know ...
A. 5 June 2009: Unfortunately, people grow apart and fall out of love with each other. It could be someone else, not attracted anymore, unhappy within him or her self. It could be lots and lots of reasons and you still will not pinpoint just one, but the bottom ... (read in full...)
He didn't seem to excited over the trouble I made to bake him a birthday cake
Q. Should I tell my boyfriend of (4 months) that this bothered me a bit? Ok, so yesterday was his B-day. I baked him a cake and took a long lunch to drop it off at his house. I would see him until late so I figured I'd leave it with his sis early an...
A. 5 June 2009: It's cake. I know that you are upset, but don't feed too much into it. If you do, then you will start feeling that he won't appreciate anything you do, so don't turn this molehill into a mountain which means let it go.........You have only been ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to do it?
Q. Do girls care about what the penis looks like, and when they give you head, do they pull your foreskin back? And what is the best way to pleasure a girl, finger her or eat her out?...
A. 2 June 2009: The only reason that they would pull your skin back is if you are not circumsized. Try fingering her and eating her out. Why not? If she doesnn't like it, trust me she'll let you know. Until then, have fun baby!!!!!!... (read in full...)
He lies about everything!
Q. We've been going out for almost 8 months now and it has been a really nice time for both of us, except for his constant lying. He lies about everything from what he had for breakfast to what he did yesterday, or when we are talking online, ...
A. 2 June 2009: He has a problem. A very serious problem. He might need to seek help about his constant lieng. I believe there are clinical terms for people who lie like that. If you find out that there is nothing wrong with him and that he just likes to lie, then ... (read in full...)
He lost his erection, we can't talk about it
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. From one month in we've had a steady sex life. He's very shy and dislikes talking about sex, as he says it's just the way he was brought up. Last night we were fooling around and went to have...
A. 2 June 2009: It is not your fault. There may be a lot of times that he will not be able to perform, but it could be a lot of reasons. A lot of times, men are so excited that they go down right away. They could have other things on their minds, stressed out, ... (read in full...)
Its hard for me to take things slow!
Q. I have only been dating this guy for a few weeks but i had such a chemical attraction to him from the very beginning. He says he is interested in seeing where our relationship will go, but he wants to take things slow. I am intellectually 100% OK ...
A. 2 June 2009: Yes, just chill out and be patient. Chemical attraction is a beautiful thing and a very rare thing. You can be physically attracted to someone and want to screw their brains out just hearing their name, but when you have physical and chemical, ... (read in full...)
When does the heartache finally end?
Q. My husband left me a few months ago. We were together eleven years and married nearly five. We have a little boy who was nearly three when he left. He basically left me as he was seeing someone else. It all happened extremely quickly and I didnt see ...
A. 1 June 2009: There is no definite date of when heartache ends. It ends when it ends, but you still have to go on and do what you need to do for you. You have a lot of history with your husband, so your emotions are going to be all over the place. But you know ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to start dating before a divorce has been finalized?
Q. If one spouse is unfaithful to the other in marriage, when is it right for the honest one to date? Is okay when they have decided in thier heart they do not want to continue with the marriage, but are still married or when they finalize the divorce?...
A. 1 June 2009: I am still married, but 1 year ago I met a man and I have been involved with him every since. I am filing for a divorce, but you have already filed so in that case, I think it is okay for you to date. Have fun.........You can't be accused of ... (read in full...)
Is this close friend too close?
Q. My boyfriend has been living away from our home for work for most of the past year, I see him once a week now, and he is not really a phone person, so it's short phonecalls only during the week, I've been finding it hard, but when I see him ...
A. 25 May 2009: Only continue with the relationship if you can honestly say that you are not physically attracted to him. When you and he are cuddling on your couch, how are you feeling? If it feels good, but good in a sexual way, then I would suggest maybe not ... (read in full...)
How to make a good wife to my husband during sex time?
Q. How to make a good wife to my husband during bed or sex time?...
A. 22 May 2009: What are the things that you like to do? Are there any sexual things that turn you on. First, you always have to feel what you are doing in order for it to flow smooth. Do you like oral sex? Doggy style? There are soooooo many positions out there, ... (read in full...)
Honestly guys, do you really like the taste?
Q. My boyfriend goes down on me a lot and when he kisses me I can taste it and its so gross! He says I taste good but I feel like he is just saying that to make me feel better. Do guys really like how a girl tastes down there?...
A. 20 May 2009: To us its gross, but yes a lot of men love the taste. Some men even tell you a certain taste, like I had men tell me it taste like chocolate, strawberries. Honestly, I think they are just caught up in the moment because I know damn well that it ... (read in full...)
Dream about friend's g/f..mean anything?
Q. okay first before i tell you my problem, i'd just like to say, i'm a good person, i dont cheat on girls,i'm a stand up guy, nice to all my mates, and they know that. i'd never go out fof my way to hurt some-one. right, last night i had a dream wh...
A. 20 May 2009: Don't feed to much into the dream. I use to feel the same way because I dreamed about my friend's man and we did have sex and it was really good in the dream! I was really shaken up by that and I know that I never even looked at him in that way, so ... (read in full...)
Can't cum quickly
Q. Hi I have the opposite problem to premature exjaculation, in that I take ages to cum. I can get close on a number of occasions, (have pre-cum), but I can last for ages. Most of the time this isnt a problem, but sometimes it is nice to have a ...
A. 19 May 2009: Hey believe it or not, most women look for that in our men, because unfortunately most men leave us in the dust when it comes to that and we are still ready to go and they are finished, so feel good that you can go like that. I am very ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Confused about my sexuality...
Q. i've been getting erections when i see pics of men naked and when i see girls naked, i took a gay test and it came out that i might be bi-curious, then i was surfing the net and come upon this gay club in my town, i looked all over the website and ...
A. 19 May 2009: First of all, you need to ask yourself this question: Who do you get aroused by more? men or women? If it is men, then I would say that you pretty much are halfway there, now as far as you wanting to have sex with a man to prove if you are bi-sexual ... (read in full...)
Jealousy issues!
Q. My boyfriend is being really insensitive. I've been going through a really stressful period right now, I've got exams and my grandfather is really ill (he's got alzeimer's) My friend and I aren't getting along because she thinks that I don't deserve ...
A. 19 May 2009: Even though I am much older than you, I know all about someone being insensitive. I decided to leave that person alone, but I am not going to tell you to do the same, however, maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship with your boyfriend and ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with sex between brothers and sisters?
Q. Ok I know sex between brothers and sisters is considered wrong by most people. Why? I mean if they love each other and make sure they don't have any children, what is wrong with sharing that love physically? ...
A. 19 May 2009: Okay, bottom line. The ones that answered that it was okay to have a sexual attraction to your siblings, NO IT IS NOT OKAY!!!!! Please do not encourage that. Jilly, no sweetheart, there are other people for you to become sexually attractive to ... (read in full...)
What do women like in a man?
Q. [Moderator note - poster had asked 3 seperate questions but merged them together in order to recieve more answers] is being too romantic wrong, do women get put off by things like poems or flowers? what do women like in a man?... How can men la...
A. 19 May 2009: I agree with some of the anonymous readers answers. I also like a man who is sensitive, not girly sensitive but I mean sensitive to a woman's needs. Make his woman a priority is always a winner, flowers are always a hit with me. The poetry is okay, ... (read in full...)
His ex-my pain
Q. My boyfriend who loves me to death and wants to marry me left his girlfriend of 1 year to be with me. It was after I declared my feelings for him, said this is why I can't be your friend and walked away from the both of them so they could be happy ...
A. 19 May 2009: I would not tell you to contact her, but there is something you need to understand.... Your boyfriend left her, she did not leave him, so I would assume she still cares for him very much. I am sure that it wasn' easy for her to hear that he was ... (read in full...)
Can you offer any tips on how to improve my technique?
Q. I'm a woman who's not quite sure how to move when I'm on top. Can you offer any tips on how to improve my technique?...
A. 17 May 2009: Wow, I think you are pretty young to be moving on top or even having sex for that matter, but if you want to know about it, ok. First try to move very slowly up and down, making sure your feet are on the bed and you are lifted up a little bit so you ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to just lie there? Do I need to do more?
Q. I’m 34 and my boyfriend is 56. He is only the second man I’ve ever been involved with. I think my first guy was impotent or non-sexual. We slept in the same bad a few times and he just cuddled. He never made a sexual advance nor do I think he ...
A. 17 May 2009: It seems that he has a hell of an effect on you sexually that it makes you tha unresponsive, but heres the thing: If he makes you feel that good, then you would want to show him exactly what he does to you, so turn all of that wobbliness into ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions for first year anniversary?
Q. My husband and I are coming very close to our 1 year Wedding Anniversary. As a matter of fact, so much has happened in the year, I cant believe its 1 year already. It has been a tough year. But my worry is, I dont know what to get him for it. Has ...
A. 16 May 2009: Go to a professional photographer and take beautiful, sexy pictures of you just make sure that they are tasteful. Put on sexy clothing when you take your pictures. Hair done, nails done, makeup, the whole bit....... Have them framed and cook a ... (read in full...)
Why did sex hurt the first time?
Q. So i had sex for the very first time last week, but it wasn't my boyfriends first time. It hurt i know thats normal for the first time and it was hard to get in at first cos i must be tight, but what i was wondering is does it feel different for the ...
A. 16 May 2009: I guess the guy that responded to you is one of the lucky ones, because usually a guy will tell you that it hurts them when a girl is tight. Sometimes it even scars the skin. What was your boyfriend's response? Did he look like it hurt him? Did he ... (read in full...)
When do you know that you have a true friend?
Q. Heya everyone! I was just wondering when you know you have a true friend? Because recently mine seem to be proving to me that I am just a convenient friend. For instance, one of my friends always puts me down when I am talking to people, and then...
A. 14 May 2009: You will be just fine. I told you to take that quirky side and let it work for you. Do your thing!!!!!!No doubts, no worries............ (read in full...)
He's happy to tell me what's wrong with me but doesn't want to hear about his faults
Q. My boyfriend and I seem to get into arguments about the same thing. Often it will be about something that I do not like about a situation going on. After trying to talk about things we blow up at each other and start insulting each other and ...
A. 14 May 2009: It seems that he can't handle anything being said about him. A lot of people are like that. They get very defensive and argumentative and that's what it seems like he does every time. If he doesn't accept that there are things about him that need to ... (read in full...)
Flick it or lap it up?
Q. I want to give my girlfriend Oral for the first time this weekend, but, as its my and her first time, im a bit short of what to do, so basically? im asking for help and advise? do i just....lick? :S or what?! ...
A. 14 May 2009: You do all of that. Lick it suck it, talk to it while you are doing it. Say things to her like oh baby it tastes so good. That will drive her crazy.... Just be gentle and make sure you loosen your tongue and what I mean by that is sometimes your ... (read in full...)
He loves me, but wants to be single....need advice to tame my alpha male
Q. We have 4 kids and my husband wants to leave me :'( I am not looking for people to tell me he is not worth it so please just don't. I have heard it enough times and maybe it is true but I think he is. He sais he still loves me , but he wants...
A. 14 May 2009: Ok, I won't tell you he is not worth it, but come on now, he has some serious shit going on with him!!!!!! It seems like you both were pretty young when you got married, so he probably feels very overwhelmed in his relationship with you. Do you ... (read in full...)
Oral sex problems....
Q. my husband wants me to swallow but the taste is horrible...ive tried to get him to eat fruit but he doesnt like any kind of fruit...well here's the thing when he goes down on me he only licks my clit and never puts his tounge in me...if hes not ...
A. 14 May 2009: Good afternoon. Just yesterday I gave a young lady info on swallowing, but your situation is a little different. Ok, first we work on the swallowing: Use fruity substances on his penis. Go to the sex shops and get oils, creams, gels, or anything ... (read in full...)
When do you know that you have a true friend?
Q. Heya everyone! I was just wondering when you know you have a true friend? Because recently mine seem to be proving to me that I am just a convenient friend. For instance, one of my friends always puts me down when I am talking to people, and then...
A. 13 May 2009: Maybe they are the "weird" ones and if they have a problem with the way you interact and they feel that the only way that they can make themselves feel better is to put you down, then you need a new set of friends and fast!!!!!! Embrace who you are ... (read in full...)
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