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writes:My boyfriend is being really insensitive. I've been going through a really stressful period right now, I've got exams and my grandfather is really ill (he's got alzeimer's) My friend and I aren't getting along because she thinks that I don't deserve the grades that I get, when actually I put a crazy amount of effort into all of the subjects I have taken. I have even taken three extra subjects. So anyways, my boyfriend is friends with my friend and nearly everytime I get into a fight with my friend he takes her side and almost always blames me. He says that he doesn't beieve my friend could behave that way.My boyfriend doesn't even live near us and has never actually met my friend; he'sonly ever spoken to her on the phone or online. I don't know what to do. Today, me and my friend had a really big fight and I told my boyfriend about it and he didn't even try to see it from my side. He simply said that my friend wouldn't say something like that and that she really means the best. This problem is becoming unbearable. I feel like I can't tell my boyfriend anything. Does anyone have any advise? Please
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reader, misswalston  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 Even though I am much older than you, I know all about someone being insensitive. I decided to leave that person alone, but I am not going to tell you to do the same, however, maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship with your boyfriend and your friend. It seems like they spend a lot of time talking and obviously agree with each other when it comes to you. You need to find out exactly how much talking they do and what are they talking about. Maybe their conversations are not always about you. They could be a little more personal between them. I don't want to make you doubt them, but you need to make sure what exactly is being said............
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): even if you are wrong in a situation, he shouldn't be so rude and take her side. he should be considerate and try to get you to understand both points. taking her side is just being a jerk, it sounds like he really doesnt care. dump him, he sucks.
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