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writes:I've used this site for a long time and have tried to give some help and relief to people going through stressful times and worries. I have always considered myself good at copeing in the face of adversity and boy have I faced a lot.Yesterday and without warning my partner ended our relationship. We have just returned from a week long holiday abroad and have been together for two years. I feel absolutely crushed and did not see it coming. We have had our ups and downs but I felt very secure in the relationship. He gave me no reason apart from, he thought we were incompatible. It may be the case but for two people who got along so well and shared everything, it's a bitter pill to accept.I have my own home and a good job with financial security and we had no children together, so in practical terms I will be alright, but emotional pain sits heavy in the heart and I feel it deeply today.You never know what life will throw at you and I am constantly amazed by the myriad of problematic facets that can come from the union of two people. It makes you wonder what it's all for.I am a strong person but I really needed and loved having him in my life and I shall miss him terribly. It's an awful moment when you realise you will never see someone again.Ive just placed his slippers, his toothbrush and his aftershave in a bag...also the book he was reading. I don't know what I shall do with them, but I can't look at them just now.Sorry for the outpouring here, but I just needed to let it go a little.Anyone in my position today has my sympathy and my prayers.Aunty Em xx
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (6 July 2009):
AuntyEm is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou for all the lovely replies. A whole month has passed and I have been very down about things. I also learned today that he is seeing someone else and he is happy (Didn't wait long did he?). I guess I should be thankful that at least one of us is.
I am absolutely devastated but I am just trying to keep busy. Life is very unfair.
God bless you all for kind words...
Aunty Em xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Hey Aunty Em, my heart goes out to you. i wish you well and hope that you can make peace with what has happened to you. my friends and i always say, leave no stone unturned in your attaempt to work on your relationship. maybe give it a few days and then try contacting him. you will know it is truly over when you have tried everything. then at least you can say, i tried but it was not meant to be. right now you have such sadness but one day the sun will start shining for you again. you are in my thoughts and plse take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): I am sorry for you. Truly I am. Time heals many wounds, and my hope is that your pain will pass. Your experience is an excellent case for marriage. While many marriages unfortunately end in painful splits, it is significantly more difficult to divorce than to walk out on a partner. Perhaps you should consider marriage in future. Again, I hope you find peace and happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): "I am a strong person but I really needed and loved having him in my life and I shall miss him terribly. It's an awful moment when you realise you will never see someone again."
This made me cry just now and it reminded me of my ex bf who broke up with me more than a month ago. It's true, we know we are strong but its the thought that we will never be with them again and will not be able to share with them our life is what makes breaking up really painful.
Everything that you're feeling right now is expected. As no break-ups are not painful. I don't know how long you will mourn this loss but always remember that you are not alone in this world. A lot of us feel exactly the same way as you.
Be strong. It's not the end of the world...
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reader, misswalston  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 You will be just fine. You sound like a very strong woman and because of that you can face any adversity that comes your way. Yes, it is unfortunate that you are not compatible anymore with someone you have given 2 years of your time, but that is sometimes the way things happen. People grow apart all of the time even with many more years of a relationship. I just recently separated from my man, but it was because I overreacted to a situation, but it could cause us to not be together anymore and if that is the case, I will miss him terribly because I love him, but I will be fine also as will you...........Maybe if you and him are meant to be together, you might find your way back to each other and find out what things you are compatible on because in order for you and him to have been together in the first place it had to have been some type of compatibility........
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