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writes:Heya everyone!I was just wondering when you know you have a true friend? Because recently mine seem to be proving to me that I am just a convenient friend.For instance, one of my friends always puts me down when I am talking to people, and then ditches me, so then I am always embarrassed to talk to those same people, out of fear that they are thinking about the embarrassing things that he has told them. This is really affecting my confidence because I am having trouble talking to anyone! Not only this, but he keeps telling me, I am crap at making friends, and that I have no friends. Even though I know this isnt true, it is really affecting me.My other friends always say that I am 'weird,' and put me down a lot, but I want to know when weird became a bad thing? I guess you could say Im a bit quirky? They make me feel as if being me isnt right or something? Like if I act a certain way its wrong?!Things like this are making me believe that I cant make new friends, and that no one really wants to know me, because the supposed 'friends' that I do have dont even seem to like me.Am i being paranoid? Does anyone have any advice for situations like this? Should I look for new friends? This is really affecting me guys!Any help would be great, thanks (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): That is the same with me, but I try to think of all the friends I have now.. And you should have atleast one friend.. It could be your mom.. Doesn't matter. If you be yourself and express how you truly are, and if other people don't like someone as great as you, they don't know what they're missing. HAVE FUN! And then I'm sure people would want to be your friend. Like there is this girl.. And I thought I could be her friend but I cannot.. She is always lying to me.. Telling me that a guy I like is ugly... And all that crap. SHE TOTALLY LIES! She twists around unbelivable stories and making them into belivable stories, but they can be unbeliviable too.. Like realistic fiction?? But, I want you to remember is.. BE YOURSELF! EXPRESS WHO YOU TRULY ARE!!!!!!!! If people call you ugly, WHO CARES?! Who cares what people say.. This is life and you have to face it. I know you're a really great person and if I knew you I would be friends with you but go around.. If people don't talk to you.. introduce yourself.. if you think you look like a complete idiot who cares? Keep talking... I'm sure you will make friends! And this girl I hate.. I hate her and in school she ignores me.. but she's on my bus and stuff so she sits with me and when I bring my iPod, without asking she takes one of the ear phones and puts it in her ear.. She's just mean. But remember.. Be yourself. Don't try to be someone who you're not, don't lie because soon they will find out. My friends say i'm weird too.. But i'm weird they just have to live with that. Every friend I get, that girl that I hate always trys and steal them. But if my that girl steals my friends and my friends ignore me.. I know they're not true friends. I have this helped [: byee GOOD LUCK!
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reader, misswalston  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 You will be just fine. I told you to take that quirky side and let it work for you. Do your thing!!!!!!No doubts, no worries.........
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your advice. (:
I guess I just need new friends who like me for who i am. I just hope i can get over my confidence issue, to be able to make these new friends.
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reader, misswalston +, writes (13 May 2009):
Maybe they are the "weird" ones and if they have a problem with the way you interact and they feel that the only way that they can make themselves feel better is to put you down, then you need a new set of friends and fast!!!!!! Embrace who you are and what you are. I am sure that you have a wonderful spirit and your so-called friends seem miserable in their skins. Take that beautiful quirky side you have and find others that are worthy of it..... Take care........
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): be proud of who you are for one thing. They are'nt your friends. A true friend calls you because they want to talk to you, they hang out with you because they enjoy your company, they back you up when you need it and they put you first on most lists. :)
I personally wouldnt put up with their crap. I had the same situation in high school, i told them i wasnt for their pathetic games and let downs, and they never treated me like crap ever again.
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