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writes:Should I tell my boyfriend of (4 months) that this bothered me a bit?Ok, so yesterday was his B-day. I baked him a cake and took a long lunch to drop it off at his house. I would see him until late so I figured I'd leave it with his sis early and he'd be surprised when he got home from work. We talked a few hrs. before seeing him and he said, 'After 3 years of no celebration from the co-workers (all females) this year they bought me a chocolate-chip cake and signed a card. I was all excited.' I was bummed. But still thought he's going to think much more of my cake..you know the thought that counts. I have to admit it was good but not all decorative and nice looking like a store bought cake. Yeah, we ate cake and he said it was good. But you could just tell it was one of those...ummmm thanks. I said did you see it I baked it myself? He's like no because it's in the bag and wanted it to be a surprise for when you came over. That's a lie..I know he took a peak at it.:) That's what got me thinking he didn't appreciate it. :(His family is very critical and laughed and made gestures when he handed them the cake. I didn't take that to heart..He did say thanks..no big fuss about the whole thing. And text me this morning saying thanks again for the cake. Am I overreacting here? If I'm not, should I tell him how I'm feeling?
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reader, misswalston +, writes (5 June 2009):
 It's cake. I know that you are upset, but don't feed too much into it. If you do, then you will start feeling that he won't appreciate anything you do, so don't turn this molehill into a mountain which means let it go.........You have only been together for 4 months so you still have a lot of learning to do of each other.......As far as his family, don't worry about their reaction to your cake.
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