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writes:It's Father's Day. My daughter is visiting her dad for the summer again. My daughter started talking about a movie she saw two days ago. I asked her who took her and she ignored me. I asked her again, and she would not say. Her dad told her not to tell me. I am upset because if he instructs her to hide things from me like this, what else is he encouraging her to lie or hide from me. He and I have been divorced since 2005. Though he constantly conveys to me he is "by himself" I know him well enough to know better. WHY LIE? What is the reason for this? I am really annoyed.
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reader, misswalston +, writes (22 June 2009):
 Basically, he is being silly. This is what the deal is. He gives himself to much power over your emotions. What I mean by that statement is that he wants you to think that his life is fulfilled so you can get jealous. He is looking for a response from you by making you guess what he is doing. You don't care and a lot of men are very silly like that. For whatever reason, he needs to feel like you care what is going on with him and his way of doing that is being secretive so you can respond to that. So don't be upset, because like I said, he is trying to get a rise because he needs you to still care. Stop asking so many questions and see what happens.........Let me know.......
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 have you spoken to her father why he encouraged her to keep secrets?
maybe he is doing it to wind you up and sounds as if he's doing a good job, unfortunately its your poor daughter whose stuck in the middle.
Speak to your ex and ask him why he encouraged her to keep secrets then explain to your daughter nicely how she should always be open and frank with you in the future.
Hope this helps!
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