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writes:Hi,I'm a man in his 40s, I've not been able to ejaculate during intercourse pretty much ever. I lost my virginity when I was 18, and have had many partners since then but I've only ejaculated during intercourse maybe 30 times. I've been married and have had one relationship of 5+ years.Here's the thing. I've tried over the years to get treatment (obviously with no success yet). Most recently I was referred to an unqualified therapist who doesn't know what to do with me and suggested that I couldn't be cured. Yeah right. My GP has suggested a psychiatrist but at £200 an hour I'd have to be certain that it would be successful (he seemed doubtful I could get it on the NHS any time this side of 2010).My problem is clearly in here [taps head]. What should I do? Who can help me? Bear in mind that I've given this A LOT of thought over the decades. Any constructive posts would be very much appreciated.Birillo
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Birillo back again,
Thanks for your responses. My search for an answer has led to me to realise that counsellors probably won't be able to help me. I need a qualified clinical psychologist. I say this because my problem isn't *standard*. I'm seeing one on Friday but even he's already stated on the phone that he's not hopeful he can cure me....
When I solve a problem I ask myself "HOW am I going to solve the problem?" rather than "CAN I solve it?" so if this guy draws a blank, then I'll have to find another possible solution. I've gotta own this problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): Okok it might not ALL be in your head, I've had the same problem, picturing things doesn't really work right? So youve gotta just go all the way in and almost all the way out really fast and if you dot slow down or stop to rest, it should work!
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reader, misswalston  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 It might not be in your head. You probably need to see a specialist. Don't give up hope and don't rule out that it migh be something really wrong.......Google is my best friend! Why don't you google some specialists concerning your situation. You will be surprised that you are probably not alone........good luck........
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