Is it time to dump my boyfriend?
Q. I cant deal with my boyfriend anymore. He always thinks I'm doing something wrong and picks out things wrong with me and won't let me have male friends, which isnt fair. Do you think I should get rid of him? ...
A. 10 October 2005: If he don't trust you he doesn't love you. He thinks of you more as a possession. You deserve better. Find a man that loves you for who you are and trust you, regardless of what you are doing, or who you are talking to.... (read in full...)
Will any boy ever wait for me to be ready for a sexual relationship?
Q. Hi I am 15. I don't really want sex or anything like that, and I am scared of the next step in a relationship which goes beyond just kissing. I am scared that I will never be able to get into a serious relationship because of this! Everyone says tha...
A. 9 October 2005: When you meet guys make it clear from the beginning that you aren't interested in any kind of sexual relationship until you are ready. Tell them it may be when you are married if that is the way you feel about it. Don't let anyone push you into ... (read in full...)
My ex got my hopes up, then dumped me by text! Should I forgive and forget, like my friends say?
Q. One night, my friends were hanging out watching movies. My ex jokingly put his arm around me and another one of our friends calling himself a "pimp." It was funny so we all laughed. But then he took his arm off of the other girl and kept his other ...
A. 9 October 2005: Forgive but don't Forget Never let anything like that happen again. If he puts his arm around you take it off and walk off from him. If he ask why tell him : "don't want you for a boyfriend." "Hope you don't hate me forever. See ya." Be... (read in full...)
Four years with my husband, and suddenly: No sex!
Q. I hope this is for real. I'm desperate for advice! My husband and I have been together 4 years and suddenly: "no sex". He never caresses or kisses me. I have tried to ignore it when we do try and he can't keep it up but the last time I felt cheap ...
A. 9 October 2005: There could be several reasons why your man is acting like he is. I would suggest communication first. Have you told him how this makes you feel?? Have you tried coming on to him?? Just looking attractive sometimes is not enough. Your man coul... (read in full...)
Can I make her chase me?
Q. I know right now, that the girl I'm talking to and I'm very interested in, is what I'm after. She is what I desire. Through some research, I've learned that it should be her after me, so she will actively desire to be and talk with me. How do I go ...
A. 7 October 2005: Work out, have a good body about you, walk with head up and a air of confidence about you but not an attitude. Be friendly, but remain cool. You can pursue her by maybe writing her a note or asking her out to her favorite place or somewhere you... (read in full...)
Why is this bloke winking at me? Is he interested?
Q. Is it normal for men to wink at you or are they trying to catch your eye because they fancy you? There is a bloke I see around from time to time and each time he sees me he always winks at me. He's a good looking guy but I wouldn't want to make an ...
A. 3 October 2005: Yesssssssss Love is the Universal Language and a wink from a gentleman has always meant he fancys a lady. Do not wink back dear as ladies wouldn't do that to a stranger. Instead give him a sweet smile and put yourself in a place where he will be ... (read in full...)
I'm a big tease, what can I do?!
Q. Hey im 18 and have been with this guy 4 about 4 months i love him alot but i still take other guys phone numbers and find it hard not to flirt with them, i have a problem with leading people on but i dont want to loose my bf because of it what ...
A. 2 October 2005: Hey I got a question for you. This guy has been seeing this girl for 4 months. He says he loves his g/f but he still takes other girls numbers and finds it hard not to flirt with other girls. He knows that he is leading the girls on, but can't stop ... (read in full...)
The past with him was awful and things are a little better now. But I still want to leave him...
Q. I am in a idiotic relationship with this guy who I have been in love with for over two years. All I have gotten from him is hurt, pain and tears and problems with my family and friends. Recently, he has become better, pays more attention and on t...
A. 2 October 2005: Life is to short to live it miserable. It's your life do what you need to do to be happy. Your parents should stand behind you no matter what you decide to do as long as you are happy, and your friends if they are true friend will be there for you ... (read in full...)
Could my partner really have been blackmailed into sleeping with another woman for 6 months?
Q. My partner and I have been together for 5 years and we have a 17 month old daughter. I love him very much but I recently found out that my partner has been cheating on me for the last 6 months. He says that it didn’t mean anything and that he was ...
A. 2 October 2005: Did your husband really believe that you was going to be more upset at him because "the woman kissed him" or because "he had sex with her for six months" to cover up "the fact that the woman kissed him"?
Even though the other woman has done tha... (read in full...)
I hardly ever hear from my girlfriend anymore, since she asked me to back off...
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for six months now. Up till two months ago we spoke every day. She then asked me back off a bit. It has now got to the stage she rings a about every two weeks after I contact her first....
A. 2 October 2005: "If you love something set it free if it comes back to you its yours if not it never was".
I think she's trying to break things off with you.
If you want to see how much she cares don't call her at all. Let her call you. Then you will have yo... (read in full...)
I'm still waiting for my ex to have us back together. He says he loves me still!
Q. Me and my b/f lived together for 4 years and have 2 children. We are no longer together and he's with someone else. He still tells me he loves me and we'll be back together but don't know when. I asked him if we could try our relation...
A. 2 October 2005: Have you ask yourself why he would gamble all the money away when he was with you and your children but he works, saves money, and pays bills now for a woman and her 3 kids?
He's giving you your answer in his actions.
You deserve better, and ... (read in full...)
I have a girl who wants to settle down with me, but part of me just isn't ready to!
Q. I have been with my Czech girlfriend for almost a year, and I do love her and care about her a lot. The problem is, the "fizz" has gone out of our relationship over the past couple of months. She's just as keen on me as ever... perhaps too keen – ...
A. 2 October 2005: Sometimes what we think is love, is just lust. Lust fisses out where love will last a lifetime. You need to just be honest with her, even though you will risk losing her. It's not fair to her to believe that the relationship is going a certain way ... (read in full...)
I'm with my dream girl at last... only I'm afraid I might 'wake up' to find I've lost her!
Q. I've just started seeing a girl that I have loved for years. We had a bit of a thing years ago. Since which I've been through three relationships that hurt me badly and she's got a little 5 year old girl. The thing is is that I am finding it so hard ...
A. 1 October 2005: Even though its true that "if it seems to good to be true it normally is" there are exceptions to the rule. I believe you two are one of them. Just Relax and enjoy the future you two have together. After all if its meant to be it will be. You can ... (read in full...)
My husband's mum and son are controlling our relationship, making him choose them or me!
Q. My husband of 6 months has left me. I am a mother of 3, 17,16 and 12. My husband has a child also at 12. I had an hysterctomy 4 weeks ago, which didn't go well as ended up in theatre again due an internal bleed, ending in ICU. Then my husband ...
A. 1 October 2005:
If your husband had any respect for you or himself he would set that kid straight about who is boss, and tell the girlfriend to shut her mouth and mind her own business. His son may not like you, but your husband should see to it that he never show... (read in full...)
Our breakup was due to distance and circumstances. That makes it so much harder to get over...
Q. So I am living overseas and have been here 1 and a half years. I met my boyfriend here and we dated for over 1 year. He left last weekend because he had to go back to the States (army). Hence, we broke up. I don't know HOW to get over someone that I ...
A. 1 October 2005: Sometimes things happen to us and we wonder why? If it is wanted so badly why can't it just be easy? Truth is when its hard its not very likely it is meant to be, most things are difficult enough in life without "life circumstances" making it almost ... (read in full...)
A year ago, he said he's wait for sex until we were married. Now it's like he hates me...
Q. I'm 20 and he is 32. Me and my boyfriend have been off and on for a year and a half. We met at work and he says he felt in love with me the first time he saw me. He knew he wanted to marry me. Then I told him that I was a virgin and wanted to wait ...
A. 1 October 2005: This man oviously cares more about how he feels than how you do. You two made an agreement to wait until you were married before having sex. If he is going to break this agreement how well will he do on his marriage vows?
He probably doesn't ... (read in full...)
My ex and I still talk and meet sometimes. Does that just prolong the break-up?
Q. Im a 31 divorcee (of 3 yrs) and have recently split up with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 yrs. He too was separated, his wife cheated on him 3 yrs ago. He says he loves me but his head's all screwed up, and not just because of his ex - I'm sure he's ...
A. 30 September 2005: Weak/Stupid/Feeble you are NOT. There is nothing wrong with remaining friends with your ex. What are we suppose to do hate them?? That's not right. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean that you lose all the feelings you had for that person. ... (read in full...)
Too shy to talk to the girl directly, I sent her a poem and a rose instead...
Q. Hi I have fallen for a Girl and am too shy to go and speak to her I didn't know what else to do so I sent her a rose with a poem telling her that I liked her and that I wanted to ask her out. I left a text number but she didn't reply. I guess s...
A. 30 September 2005: I personally think that was the sweetest thing I have ever heard. Maybe the problem was that she thought it was a joke, or didn't know who it was. You have broke the ice with her so to speak. Now approach her and ask her did she like the poem and ... (read in full...)
The fact that my lady friend is being stalked by a workmate makes her hesitant to consider a relationship with me...
Q. I just met the girl of my dreams but she just got out of a very bad relationship and the guy keeps stalking her. They both work for the same company. She came to visit me in Key West durning the Poker Run last month. Then a hurricane came thru, Ka...
A. 30 September 2005: I'm sure there is something that can be done to keep the man away from her. She shouldn't have to lose her job because of something he is doing.
She says she does not want anyone involved until she can fix this thing with him but does she real... (read in full...)
I've realised that I don't fancy him, but I have to tell him somehow...
Q. Hey I have a bf and we have been going out for a few days, and I've decided I don't fancy him... We were friends before, and he was flirting with me ever since.. I really like the attention, but now we are going out, he won't leave me alone!! ...
A. 30 September 2005: It is better to break it off with him now than later. It will hurt alot less. Tell him that you feel like you two trying to have a relationship is destroying your friendship, and you cherish his friendship to much to let that happen. You can also ... (read in full...)
He wasn't the source of our problems, and I realise that. Is there a chance for us to try again?
Q. I was with a guy long distance for a while, then I moved to be with him and it was too much too soon. He called it off. He has since called me and said he doesn't know where we stand and I just let him know i wasn't angry (I now realise a lot of o...
A. 29 September 2005: Has he contacted you since the time he called you and ask where you two stand? If not maybe try asking him out for a cup of coffee and some light conversation. Let him know that you "now realise a lot of our problems were were circumstancial" Don't ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but my boyfriend spends all his time with his female "friends"...
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up last month on the 26th. I found out I was pregnant. I told him, we got back together this month. He seemed happy about it, but he doesn't want to do right. I ask him to come over when he's at home sometimes. He says he'...
A. 28 September 2005: You didn't say why you and your boyfriend broke up. Did you two only get back together because of the baby, or was you two trying to work it out before you found out you was pregnant?
Take in account all the information involved.. You ask him ... (read in full...)
Since my boyfriend got his new job, he's tired, edgy, distant... or stoned!
Q. I have a few problems... My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months, but on and off before that for about 3 years. Recently, he has gotten a new job in construction and he is always working in the city. Now, don't get me wron...
A. 25 September 2005: If this man is not what you want and he won't stop after knowing how you feel about his habit then you should move on. You are uncomfortable with what he does and he is uncomfortable because you are always telling him about it.
Appar... (read in full...)
My husband could have me any time... So why does he need to masturbate to porn?
Q. When I go to work my husband downloads porn and plays with himself. It hurts my feelings because he could have me anytime he wants. He could have had me before I went to work. He has even looked at porn when me and the kids were sleeping. It ...
A. 25 September 2005: I have a friend that had the same problem as you do. She solved it by getting some spice in their sex life. Try some different things with him. Come on to him every chance you get. Buy some sexy lingerie, if he is showering join him.
I wouldn't... (read in full...)
I didn't specifically state "no lap dances", but I think it's cheating anyway...
Q. My boyfriend had a one night stand 2 years ago. I had a lot of trust issues, but I gave him a second chance! I have just found out that he has been going to lap dancing bars since this period. While we hardly set down what he can and cannot do, he ...
A. 25 September 2005: You shouldn't have to set down rules for your man exactly what he can and can't do like he is a child. He is a man and he should know how to treat you without being told. Everyone makes mistakes. It is when we keep making mistakes that it becomes ... (read in full...)
I thought "I love you" on my phone was a joke from a friend. Did I blow my chance with her?
Q. Hi I am a student and in love with another girl in my group. We always looked to each other during the lessons. One day I got a message on my phone saying I love you. I first thought it was one of my friends with some stupid joke. By the time...
A. 25 September 2005: She didn't realize that you loved her too when you got the "I love you" on your phone so naturally she moved on. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel about her and maybe it will work out. ... (read in full...)
My friend is depressed. What can I do to help?
Q. Hi, My friend is really depressed at the moment and she has been to the doctors. They said it was something to do with her hormones, but I'm worried about her. Sometimes she just wants to burst into tears. What can I do to help her?...
A. 25 September 2005: Did the doctor give her something for this? You didnt say. If she doesn't have her ovaries anymore she might need hormone pills. It may take changing them a couple of times to get the right kind of hormone pills. She could be suffering from ... (read in full...)
Guys my own age look old... Guys I date don't want to settle down!
Q. I am in my late thirties, very attractive and don't have problems meeting guys but I am still single and it's really getting me down. I'm never attracted to guys my age as they look so old, so I always go out with guys in their late twenties and ...
A. 24 September 2005: I can understand where you are comming from. You cannot help what kind of man you are attracted to, however most of the younger guys are not ready to settle down. You could try saving some time by asking them from the start if they are looking for a ... (read in full...)
I put my foot in it when I asked where our relationship was going...
Q. I don't have problems meeting nice guys but basically I am too needy! I met someone really nice a month ago and played it cool, yet as things seemed to be going well, I had what I thought was an inconsequential conversation about where we were at ...
A. 24 September 2005: There isn't anything wrong with asking a man what he is looking for when you meet him. Example: Asking if they are looking for a relationship or just dating around. When they make it clear to you that they only want to date you however, don't push ... (read in full...)
Is it fishy that my girlfriend, who cheated with her ex and lives 900 miles away is sleeping over at her male "friends" houses?
Q. I have a long distance relationship that's been going on for over 3 years now. Most of my girlfriend's friends happen to be male. Being that we live so far apart (900 miles, to be exact), I don't see her but a weekend a month. My problem is, more...
A. 24 September 2005: Without her admitting to it. You may never find out for sure if she is or not. You can try telling her that this bothers you, as I am sure it would if you was staying all night with girls (even though you said nothing was going on)If she won't stop ... (read in full...)
Why can he control me so easily, even from 250 miles away? And how do I stop it?
Q. Is there something wrong with me because I can't seem to walk away from a verbally abusive relationship? Here is my story in short. We had been together for two years, it was a long distant relationship. He moved in with me, it lasted 10 month...
A. 24 September 2005: It is a good thing you got him out of your house, but you are still letting him control you. You havent done anything wrong.
He only wants somebody he can walk over. Don't let him do this.
Men like this do not change. He will at least try to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he'll change his behavioural problems, but in the meantime he yells and screams...
Q. Help! I'm living with my boyfriend. He is 26 and I am 35 years of age. I've had to move two times because when ever we argue, he yells, screams, and or damages the apartment. I've lost about 2500 dollars in security deposit and damages. He has ...
A. 24 September 2005: There is a fine line between love and hate and this guy is really pushing it. You deserve better. You don't need to marry this guy as it will not serve to make the situation any better. I urge you to get out before it gets any worse. ... (read in full...)
Help put my mind at rest: How long does sperm last for outside the body?
Q. This is a silly question to ask but i'm sure im not the only one that has thought about this. How long does sperm last for, once its out of your body? the other day i masturbated in the shower, and i was really paranoid about cleaning everyth...
A. 24 September 2005: The likelihood of becoming pregnant from semen landing on the body, outside the vagina, or near the vagina is very low. Sperm that stays outside the vagina cannot unite with an egg and fertilize it. If semen is ejaculated or rubbed near the vagina, ... (read in full...)
My upbringing has made me hypercritical of flaws in myself and others...
Q. I have a serious issue about myself and the way I look at the world. I belong to a business family of ENTJ's and our society is not different. People with ENTJ personality types are judgers. They judge everyone on the criteria of superficial nature. ...
A. 23 September 2005: Deuteronomy 1:17
Do not show partiality in judging; hear both small and great alike. Do not be afraid of any man, for judgment belongs to God.
2 Chronicles 19:6
He told them, "Consider carefully what you do, because you are not judging for ... (read in full...)
As my husband and I got to know each other, I found that he really loves someone else!
Q. Hi I am "x" and married last December. In fact I had a very unusual marriage. It was an arranged marriage and I got married in 4 days. Really did not know the man to whom I got married. He left for abroad in 5 days and I joined him after nearly 9...
A. 23 September 2005: Relationships are hard even when both people are wanting to make it work. You didn't say why you two were married. If it was something he felt he had to do maybe he resents having to marry you. Especially if he is in love with someone else. We all ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about the way my father shows his "affection" to me...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am confused about the behaviour of my father towards me and our relationship. He likes to have so much intamicy with me, though I am a boy, that I feel uncomfortable and strangled in his emotional confinement. Also as I remember ab...
A. 23 September 2005: Someone should never feel uncomfortable with their parents touch. I don't know exactly what your father did to make you feel uncomfortable, but the fact is he did. Since this has carried with you into adulthood, i'm sure you need some professional ... (read in full...)
My partner has never contributed toward food or expenses and he got huffy when I suggested it!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my brother's roommate for nearly two years. We are both 40 years old. My brother has taken this extremely badly but won't explain why. He won't speak to or associate with me anymore but acts normally with my ...
A. 23 September 2005: This man is a waste of your time. Any real man would pay his way! You sure wouldn't have to ask him to either. You deserve someone much better. I doubt this man respects himself much less you. Find a real man, one that will appreciate you, and will ... (read in full...)
My old ex lured me back from my new ex. Now my new ex won't take me back again!
Q. hi, I really need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. Earlier this year, I got to know a guy from work and I really started to like him. I told my boyfriend I needed a break and we split up for 2 months. In this...
A. 23 September 2005: Nothing you can do about that one. You made your bed now you are going to have to lie in it. Sorry, but that's life. Ever think the old boyfriend might have just wanted you back so he could break you and the new boyfriend up?
You can't play with... (read in full...)
Now that I'm pregnant with our child, my boyfriend would rather hang with his ex...
Q. Yes my boyfriend and I have been living together for a year and a half. We are having a child in two months. But it seems like now that I am pregnant he doesn't want to be around me and he wants to go drink at places that his ex girlfriend hangs out ...
A. 22 September 2005: You need to talk to him and let him know how you are feeling. Tell him how much this hurts you. Ask him if he can picture himself in your shoes, and you are going out meeting your ex. Sometimes we don't realize how the other one feeling until we put ... (read in full...)
My wife just can't break the habit of chatting and meeting people online...
Q. I have been married for just over 10 yrs to a wonderful super woman. She is my best friend, business partner, lover and mother of our two little children. I found out she was online chatting with some guys and girls and actually called some to ...
A. 22 September 2005: Speaking from experience, the internet can ruin your marriage. If she insist on talking online have her stick to females that she is talking to. She has a man in her life and most men on the internet are only looking for one thing. That's not ... (read in full...)
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