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writes: HeyI have a bf and we have been going out for a few days, and I've decided I don't fancy him... We were friends before, and he was flirting with me ever since.. I really like the attention, but now we are going out, he won't leave me alone!! In class he'll throw things at me, or talk to me about stupid things.He also asked me over to his place, for a kiss and a cuddle... thing is I'm not happy with that idea, I don't want to kiss him, etc.I know I'm scared of commitment etc but you know, I really just don't fancy him.But he is so into this relationship,( and it's his first) it'll break him for me to say, especially when I thought I liked him, and flirted back..I'm in a mess... He's also told me when he asked me what I was thinking that he couldn't tell me what he was thinking, but he hinted at something sexual... I am so not ready for that!!!What can I do? He was a good friend..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2005): Look here hun! i'm sure most people have been in this situation before! i have. But luckily, my fiendship has become strongr since i finished it!
If you don't like this boy anymore, you shouldn't leave it ANY longer. You should'nt put yourself through pain because you feel sorry for him, even though you are good friends. The longer you leave it the harder it will become to tell him your true feelings.
You have to take a gamble. You need to sit ur mate down and just nicely tell him that you don't think that it will work out because you prefer him as a friend, and you are not comfortable, or ready, for the sot of things he keeps hinting about. Another thing, just make it CLEAR, that you wish to stay friends afterwards.
It will turn out one of two ways, you will either become best friends like me and my ex did, or, he could turn against you for it. In that case, he's not worth staying friends with.
I hope everything turns out good for you! Good luck ! xxx
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reader, missdee +, writes (30 September 2005):
It is better to break it off with him now than later. It will hurt alot less. Tell him that you feel like you two trying to have a relationship is destroying your friendship, and you cherish his friendship to much to let that happen. You can also tell him you have a fear of commitment and are just not ready to have a relationship with him or anyone.
It may destroy your friendship with him, but that's the chance we take when we chose to date our friends. Just try to make him see his is special to you as a friend, but only as a friend. Hope this helps you.
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reader, LEXI8580 +, writes (30 September 2005):
You need to tell him otherwise you will ruin any friendship you ever had cause you'll just be thinking about all the things that annoyed you about him. You dont need to be harsh just say that you prefered being friends with him and would like to go back to that. He'll be upset but he will get over it eventually. If you were good mates before, this shouldnt make a difference to your friendship.
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