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writes:HiI am 15. I don't really want sex or anything like that, and I am scared of the next step in a relationship which goes beyond just kissing. I am scared that I will never be able to get into a serious relationship because of this! Everyone says that when you love someone it will come naturally, but I doubt that anyone will wait for me to be ready. I have had a few bfs but as soon as they even spoke about tossing off or fingering I went shy and quiet and felt tense around them. Is there something wrong with me, or is there other 15 yr old girls that have this problem? Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): If a boy starts talking about sex its ok but if he starts talking about having sex WITH you then you can say no
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2005): Don't worry, trust me you will be ready when your ready. I'm 24 and I've only just met the right guy a few months ago. I'd been out with guys before but it just didn't feel right so I was strong and said no to anything more than kissing. If they don't respect you for saying no and saying you're not ready then really they aren't worth the effort even though it may be hard to take sometimes. I'm glad I waited, I feel so much better about myself for not giving in to the first guy that came along, you don't have to wait as long as me but please wait until it feels right for you! It's worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2005): Hey sweetie, I'm exactly the same age and I'm exactly the same. Trust me, you will find that guy, and if he truly loves you then he will wait until you're comfortable and won't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. x
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (16 October 2005):
No, there is nothing wrong with you. It's a very wise thing not to be fooling around at that age. When you go out with a guy, tell him how you feel about the whole sex thing. Maybe you will find someone who is just like you. Be proud to feel that way!!! Don't waste your life!
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reader, Stewart Terrace +, writes (13 October 2005):
right you dont have any thing wrong with you, you wait aslong as you want. and be proud of it. good for you. i glad there are girls out there that will wait and never be pushed into any thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2005): you should only do what you feel right in doing there is nothing wrong with being shy around these issues and you should never feel you have to do something to feel *normal* plenty of girls are going and have gone through what you are going through you need to wait til the time is right for you and noone else....explain to the boy that you are not ready and dont like feeling pressure about it.
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reader, pops +, writes (9 October 2005):
I am sure there are lots of 15 year old girls that share your shyness. You are too young to be fooling around, or having sex. What other people do is their business. Don't let them talk you into doing something you don't want to do, or don't feel right in doing. I don't know if there is anything wrong with you. Is there some reason for your shyness that you haven't shared with us? Were you emotionallly or physically, or sexually abused as a young child? Do you have a strict religious background that condemns extra- marital sex? I think when you get older, you will find yourself, and make the decision to become more intimate with men you date, and care about you in due time. Don't be in a hurry to skip your childhood. You will be an adult soon enough, and it lasts the rest of your life. Enjoy being a kid while you are one.
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reader, missdee +, writes (9 October 2005):
When you meet guys make it clear from the beginning that you aren't interested in any kind of sexual relationship until you are ready. Tell them it may be when you are married if that is the way you feel about it. Don't let anyone push you into anything you don't want to do.
Guys that get it easily from a girl have no respect for the girl anyway, why be like them. Someday you will meet a guy that respects the way you feel and he won't even try until you say you are ready. That's the kind of man you want.
Serious relationships don't mean you have to have sex. You can be with a person, enjoy being with them and only them and vice versa, and never do more than a goodnight kiss. These boys will respect and commit to you.
My mom always told me and until this day I agree
Men want 3 things from women
1 have sex with..
2 if sex was good then they want to use them as their whore then get rid of the girl when they find them another girl to use..
3 to marry the girl...
When it comes to time a man wants to marry he will look for a good girl. Somebody that hasn't had sex before.
Be Strong .. You won't regret it.
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