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writes: Me and my b/f lived together for 4 years and have 2 children. We are no longer together and he's with someone else. He still tells me he loves me and we'll be back together but don't know when. I asked him if we could try our relationship ( I do love him) again. He says he don't know. The b/f had a gambling problem and spent every penny he could get a hold of. He has since quit gambling and now saves money, works every day pays all the bills. His new girlfriend don't even work and has 3 kids. What am I too blind to see? Does he or don't he want us back?
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reader, missdee +, writes (2 October 2005):
Have you ask yourself why he would gamble all the money away when he was with you and your children but he works, saves money, and pays bills now for a woman and her 3 kids?
He's giving you your answer in his actions.
You deserve better, and i'm not saying it will be easy but you need to move on and find someone that will love you like you deserve to be loved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2005): No dear...he doesn't want to come back or he would have been back a long time ago. You are his designated "back up" girl-just in case, this relationship with the new gf doesn't pan out. If you want to be "leftovers" then okay...but then that's pretty sad, isn't it. Don't let this jerk keep you hanging-tell him it's over over. Go out and make a remarkable, wonderful life for you amd your kids...on your own. Show yourself, you do not need him because hun, you really don't. You sound like a pretty caring person but you don't need to be treated like a doormat and to be disrespected so horridly. Find your backbone, get tough..get pissed off..forget him and start thinking of putting yourself and your children, first. I wish you the best dear.
Hugs,
Irish
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2005): I think that he still has feelings for you and this other woman. He doesn'y know what to do. He must want to see the children and from what you say he must want to give it another go but can't tell his other woman that. Tell him how you feel and what message he's sending across to you.
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