Is it just because I'm a teenager?
Q. Is it just because I'm a teenager? I'm 15 and I feel very bad about myself. I'm chubby and hate my face, I've been told I am ugly and fat by boys and just started believing them... should I? My mom always tells me to ignore them but I just can't. ...
A. 16 April 2009: well said Flagirl! Babe don't ever let others rule who you are. Ignore idiots opinion of you, are these people you actually care about? You are young and young boys especially follow the crowd, even when they don't agree with what's being said.
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He might have to move away with his job but I'm very apprehensive to move with him... what do I do?
Q. Hi, I need a bit of help - I'll keep it short. The thing is that my boyfriend is being 'head hunted' for a job that means moving away - and if he goes for it, he wants me to go with him. This means giving up my job, leaving my friends, family,...
A. 16 April 2009: There are questions that i think you need to ask yourself, that will help you make the choice that is right for you.
1st: Do you enjoy your job? Do you see yourself there long term? Is there a chance of promotion?
2nd:How easily transfera... (read in full...)
Oh my, they like me, and I already have a boyfriend ... what do I do now?
Q. okay, so I have quite i big problem at the moment, but i think that i should explain something first i am a bisexual male, so, i recently found out that this guy i know has a crush on me and so does my bes friend who is a girl, but.... the big ...
A. 16 April 2009: you don't have a problem, so some people fancy you. That isn't a problem is it? You're in a relationship, if you're not happy in it, end it. I think these other friend would not be relationship material for you, as if there was any con nection for ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend and guess what? I'm now I'm in love with her.... so am I a lesbian?
Q. hi, im 17years old and i have a problem... and recently found that i have begun to have odd feelings towards my best friend who is also a girl. shes unbelievably pretty, smart, funny and i melt when she speaks to me, which is quite often as i see he...
A. 16 April 2009: it sounds as though you guys have had a kiss and 'stuff' on more than one occassion, tihs being the case, you are not straight. The problem is we live in a world full of labels, labels for colour, race, sexuality, age etc. Truth is we really don't ... (read in full...)
Can l repair the damage l caused?
Q. l told my best friend outright that l liked him, he was SUPPOSEDLY bi, but apparently l was wrong? l still don't know for sure. l had to tell him over facebook, as we were short on time. He reacted to me as if l had turned into a giant frog, almost ...
A. 10 April 2009: maybe the fact that you discussed the fact on an open forum such as face book is what has caused his reaction. Talking to a friend is one thing. Doing it where others can read what you do not want to share is quite another. Maybe the only way to ... (read in full...)
My husband has left me for another man!!
Q. my husband has left me and is living with a man!!! He and his mom has told me they are together and I just need to deal with it!! Im trying to be strong but don't know how!! Can anyone help me??...
A. 10 April 2009: Firstly let me say you sound like a strong lady who will get over this and you sound able to build a strong and good life for you and your son. As for your husband I suggest you write him a letter explaining your hurt and surprised you have been by ... (read in full...)
Do I quit my marriage altogether? Confront him then quit? Help!!!
Q. I am a 24 year old, I have been married for just over 2 years and in a relationship with my husband for just over 7 years. We dated young and married young, but we were both experienced sexually with others. What I mean to say is that we weren’t ...
A. 4 April 2009: Ambrosia, having just read back through your original posting plus all the responses plus yours i think it might be a great idea to log onto this website and let him read what you have written and read the responses from all the aunts. Then wait ... (read in full...)
My friend gave a blow job and now I can't help but be disgusted by her!
Q. Ok, so here's the deal. Recently one of my friends gave her bf oral sex. I asked her over text and she ignored it. Then, rumors went around school so everyone knew basically. Then I found out it was true because she admited it. Shes only 12 and im ...
A. 4 April 2009: Ithink that it ight help you if you could be honest about how you feel. Tell her that you are diappointed that she did not have more pride in herself and that you believe she is too young to being doing anything sexual but, you feel sorry that her ... (read in full...)
Found a great new guy... who turned out to be my ex husband's cousin!
Q. I married my high school sweetheart, he comes from a huge family and they are not very close. On our wedding day I met his cousin "Adam", We would see "Adam" at family gatherings,weddings, funerals etc. My husband was very close with Adams ...
A. 4 April 2009: you don't say how long you've been divorced or how you and your ex in-laws get on at the moment. This will all impact on how they react to you guys being together.
If you hardly ever see them and it sounds like Adam only visited occassio... (read in full...)
I want a handsome younger boyfriend!
Q. how to get a younger handsome boyfreind when fat,ugly and short and in yours 30s+. is it hard to get a handsome younger boyfreind...
A. 4 April 2009: It sounds like your selfesteem is in the toilet. You could be the most sexy, stunning, long legged woman on earth but, if you are miserable inside it shows on the outside. So before you completely write yourself off as undesireable, you need to ... (read in full...)
Husband needs more sex from his wife...
Q. me and my partner have been together 13 years , but we have now got 4 children 5years apart, and our sex life is rubbish. we almost plan and predict when its going to happen( not very often). the problem is i have a high sex drive my partner doesn't ...
A. 4 April 2009: maybe you and your wife need to find each other again. Sex can be easily put at the bottom of the list when you are cleaning, cooking, ironing etc after a family of 6. The last thing may women feel is sexy and desirable.
Maybe you and the chil... (read in full...)
I keep trying to leave him but he convinces me to stay so I do....
Q. I have been in my current relationship for almost 6 years. Like every relationship, we have are up's and downs. Today i thought it was all going to end because i told my boyfriend that i no longer loved him and felt as though he was the right one ...
A. 4 April 2009: Babe you'll cope on your own. If you loved this guy these feelings would not keep coming up. Do you want to be having these feelings forever and stay just because you are frigthened of being on your own?
He will be free to find a new love, at... (read in full...)
Future spinster written in stone for me!
Q. I think it was written in stone that I was meant to be alone because I never got asked in my teens and my 20s. Now heading for my 30s, I think I was always meant to be alone. If you think about it, it's true. I never had a boyfriend, it's just ...
A. 30 March 2009: slow down............. while your self esteem is so low it will be difficult to meet someone because you are refusing to believe that someone could be interested in you.
Where on earth do you live if you have no friends nothing? Haveyou ... (read in full...)
Just answer the damned questions!!!!
Q. Hey!! Well I've just have some pretty simple questions that I want to ask. 1. Why do all the good things in life die? Why are they taken away from us when we need them so badly?! 2. Why can't true love be real?! Or is it really and I'm j...
A. 30 March 2009: well babe you sound really angry and i'm sorry you feel that way right now.
In answer to your 1st questions sometimes the good things in life die early long before we are ready. For example my dad lost his dad when he was only 9 years old. I ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to accept his past...
Q. Hi, this may sound silly or selfish, but I have recently got engaged, and I can't seem to accept his past! I know, in the back of my mind, it shouldn't bother me, but for some reason it does. He is the first person I slept with, but his ex was the ...
A. 30 March 2009: Sadly the past is just that, past. We cannot go back and erase or change anything as much as we'd like to. That said there is nothing your man can do to change who he first slept with, however he can choose what to do with the present. And he has ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else experience this with their spouse or partner?
Q. When I was working in another job I used to earn an okay amount of money. My husband and I have a joint account and every month we would both put in £700 / mth that would then pay off all our bills for the month - ie mortgage, electricity, water, ...
A. 29 March 2009: Let's get this right this 'lovely man' earn 2500 a month after he has put his 1000 contribution into the household funds he still has 1500 to play with as he pleases. You on the other hand earn 800 a month and will be left with 400 after your ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friends it's not right and it's not lame?
Q. i am going to stay a virgin until im married but my friends say i have to have sex or i'm a lame. how do i tell my friends it's not right without becoming a lame?...
A. 28 March 2009: Good for you. You are not lame but your friends are because they are just saying stuff because they think its 'cool' to be so stupid. I would love any child of mine to have the self respect for themselves that you obviously have. Be proud of ... (read in full...)
He is really confused and miserable, and so am I. How can I help him?
Q. i am in a kind of tight situation. my best friend is in love with a girl he has known for 3 years..but..he has been with his girlfriend for 7 years...he doesn't love her.never did.but he was with her,cuz she needed his support and he wanted to suppo...
A. 28 March 2009: He needs to be honest with his girlfriend. Not about loving someone else, but about no longer being in love with her. He can say how he cares for her deeply as a friend or big brother but not as a lover.
He can say he wants to end there re... (read in full...)
Negative pg test and you turned out to be pregnant?
Q. So I havent had my "normal" period since the first week in December. In January I had alittle bit of bleeding for 2 days but then it stopped and I havent had anything since then. I have taken 3 urine test and 1 blood test recently and they all ...
A. 27 March 2009: urine tests can miss a pregnancy but i have never known a blood test to miss one. I am no expert and could be wrong. But pregnancy tests have improved loads over the years and i doubt with so much testing the results would still be wrong.
Howev... (read in full...)
Is my marriage doomed after my wife cheated on me?
Q. Dear all, I hope that by canvasing the globe for opinions I might find consensus and a clear path ahead. 3 months after I got married last year my wife tells me that she's cheated on me since we got married. Her reasons were the things were a bi...
A. 27 March 2009: I think a 'sorry' really isn't the issue here. What is needed though is some real honesty from her as to what she feels is missing from your relationship. You cannot carry on as before because this led her to stray from her commitment to you.
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I want to force him to chose between me and the wife!
Q. Hey all new to this site. Look I know how most of you feel about affairs. Sohere it goes. I am in love with this man he says his relationship with his wife is gone. They have been married for 30±yrs. No I don't feel bad. He spends most of his ...
A. 27 March 2009: I have to say I am amazed you'd want a man who has the cheek to moan about you being friends with people you know from before he was ever in your life, while he gets to go home to his wife every night.
Here's my take on things. He either loves hi... (read in full...)
Can fingering cause pregnancy?
Q. My fiancé has last her periods on the 12th of February 2009, after which we have not be much sexually active, but yes we have had some fingering/masturbation session, and i don't remember if I touched my genitals b4 I fingered her, but have not had ...
A. 24 March 2009: YES any pre-cum on your fingers could find its way to her egg and hey presto you have a baby on the way.
A test will show now if she is or isn't pregnant... (read in full...)
Moving in with girlfriend and her kids
Q. Hay everybody, My girlfriend and I have been in relationship for almost two years and have decided to move in together.She has three kids (7,9 and 11 from first marriage).She is seeling her house and with that money will pay off her mortgage and...
A. 24 March 2009: as already stated you need a solictior to advise to properly. I am wondering where the children's father is, is he paying towards the up bringing.
You talk about paying half the bills, there's no such thing as half when there are so many chi... (read in full...)
I'm really falling for my friend with benefits!
Q. I'm 14 and he's 15. We're friends with benefits! It started about a year ago with just fingering, then oral, then vaginal sex in all different positions and then anal. Now we just do whatever whenever. I think I'm falling for him, he's so lovely ...
A. 24 March 2009: Well, hate to make you mad but, at 14 you are a child. I don't think there is anything anyone can say to you babe, to make you understand that even without knowing you the advice is for your own good.
I am a mother of 3, I would hate my sons'... (read in full...)
I'm really insecure about my big clit...help.
Q. I hardly feel comfortable writing about my clit much less letting any guy see or feel it.i really want to take it a step further in my relationship with my boyfriend but im to scared to because my clit is big and i don't know if he will like it. so...
A. 24 March 2009: I am no expert on what should look like what. However I do know that clits/lips and any other part are different on different people.
I think you are a little young for even be worrying about what a boy will or wont think about this part of your ... (read in full...)
She wants a break for a week and I now realise I have been a fool
Q. I met my girlfriend on the internet a year ago we have met 5 times , we are 500 miles apart , i love her so much , i am a jealous and paranoid person and i have accused her of all sorts , i have treated her badly , the problem is now she wants a ...
A. 24 March 2009: Pestering her after she has asked for some space for a week will only re-inforce her belief that you have issues.
Personally i do not believe anyone can 'learn their lesson' in the short time you have had to learn yours. There's a saying 'you do... (read in full...)
I'm tired of people talking about religion in a bad light!
Q. I'm really tired of people talking about my religion in a bad way. I'll be sitting at school and the someone says something about how my religion doesn't celebrate any holidays. They say stuff like "that's really stupid" and they don't even know ...
A. 24 March 2009: Ignorance is something many people are sometimes guilty of. It causes prejudice comments. Some based on ill informed information others on sterotypes and other juat made on assumptions.
If you want people to understand ad respect your religion... (read in full...)
I need opinions here... Is it true...?
Q. Is it true that egg whites are safe to use as lube for sex and can they help you to get pregnant?...
A. 24 March 2009: Is valleyplayer being serious???? 'If God wanted you to have a child........ This statement is stupid. Is this same God who 'Let' people have a beautiful baby only for them to harm it and damage it until the poor little life is over?
I don't k... (read in full...)
Period question .. Attention ladies!
Q. To the ladies.. How many day s were you behind on your period. Ok let me explain lol. If you were suppose to start the 14th and you didn't. What was the most days after you were suppose to start that you missed.. Like me I started the 20th last mon...
A. 24 March 2009: Depends on your cycle as to how many days late you are. So far if your cycle is every 28 days you are now only 4 days late.
Other issues that affect periods not everyone goes the same number of days between each period, your diet, weighing... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have family in room when I give birth...im not so keen..
Q. Hi, im preganant and baby due in august. Me and my husband are both thrilled but theres 1 aspect im not happy with.... I am having a hospital birth and so far a vaginal birth which is all good but my husband wants his parents and possibly som...
A. 24 March 2009: babe do not be bullied by your husband and inlaws. Most hospitals would not have more than two people in the room during the birth. I'm surprised you have found one that is talking about having so many people in the room.
You have choices here. ... (read in full...)
What do I do to make her leave him and me alone?
Q. ok im 17 and i'm pregnant. my boyfriend of 2 years who got me pregnant is 28 and there is a huge problem and it's not the age gap its his ex girlfriend. he has a 3 year old daughter by his ex girlfriend and his 3 year old daughter looks nothing ...
A. 24 March 2009: Well if she is abusive and harrassing you both i'm she there is legal action you can take. It seems a bit strange that she has an issue with you after you have been with him for so long.
As for the little girl, the fact that she does not look... (read in full...)
I'm 15 years old and I'm pregnant from a 20 yo....will he go to jail ??
Q. im 15 years old and im pregnant from a 20 year old....will he go to jail ?? i mean when i have the baby i'm going to be past 16 ..could he still go to jail?...
A. 24 March 2009: I'm not sure what the laws of your state are but here in England the age of consent is 16. In which case a 20 year old could find himself in big trouble for getting someone of 15 pregnant.
I think what happens next will depend largely on the way ... (read in full...)
Is ex leading me on?
Q. i was stood up by this man that i thought was interested in getting together. well we talked on the phone prior to meeting. when the day came no him or phone call. should i call him or should i wait for him to call. by the way this man is my ex....
A. 24 March 2009: Think first about why he's your ex. Often they're exs for a good reason so why go back?
If you want to go back and you care for him. Then phone, if only to say that you were disappointed that he never showed up but were worried he'd had an accid... (read in full...)
I kissed my female friend, am I bi?
Q. So, about a week ago I spent the night with a really good friend who i've known is a lesbian...we kissed, and I broke it as soon as it happened. I told her I didn't want to, we agreed it was an accident, we put it behind us..but I did want to. I ...
A. 24 March 2009: 'I come from a super Christian family' these are your words. Reading these words leads me to believe that you have been raised to believe that same sex relationships are wrong. This has/will have an impact on how you behave as an adult.
You m... (read in full...)
Yesterday I was working and my boss had sex with me, he's 70.
Q. I just need to let this all out, it feels like a huge burden to carry and I feel so upset, dirty and alone. Okay, I am 17 and at collage, I have a Saturday job in a small family run shop nearby. Yesterday I was working and my boss had sex with me, ...
A. 23 March 2009: Have you got an adult you can talk to?
Darling you said it wasn't illegal because you are over 16, babe it IS illegal to force anyone to have sex against their will. It is RAPE. I am so sorry this evil bastard did this to you. You need to repo... (read in full...)
Husband refuses to pull his weight
Q. I have a problem with my husband. We have known each other for about 2 1/2 years and have been married for about 7 months now. We have been through a lot together, and I have recently immigrated to be with him, and am now trying to get my papers ...
A. 23 March 2009: I to hate mess, so i can understand how leaving it lying around can be difficult. Maybe the thing to do is get a box/basket and dump his stuff in it. That way he'll run out of clean clothes etc and when he complains just say you washed what was in ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm in a prison hell and don't know how to get out of it.
Q. Hi, this is a bit complicated but I'll try to explain. One year and 3 months ago my ex split up from me, I'd been with him for 7 years and was obviously devastated at the time. We have 2 children together as well. Anyway 6 months after this happened ...
A. 23 March 2009: Babe you have every right to be frigthened. But you and your children also haave every right to happiness. Yes life will have some hard bits in it but, you will become happier as time passes. If you stay with this man you will become more tied and ... (read in full...)
Opinions needed! How can I put the spark back into our relationship?
Q. How do I get the spark back in our relationship? We have been together for 9 years and my wife has said she is missing that spark between us. What should I do? Any suggestions?...
A. 19 March 2009: Not a lot go go on... but i'l give it a go. If you work how about phoning from work to say don't cook dinner love let's eat out tonight. Or organise a baby sitter and surprise her with a night out somewhere different.. maybe theatre then a meal.
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I feel as if I'm in a prison hell and don't know how to get out of it.
Q. Hi, this is a bit complicated but I'll try to explain. One year and 3 months ago my ex split up from me, I'd been with him for 7 years and was obviously devastated at the time. We have 2 children together as well. Anyway 6 months after this happened ...
A. 19 March 2009: Maybe you guys moved things too fast and need to step back and value each other without the stress of every day life. But in all honesty he sounds like an arse.
Babe, i think you have given this relationship long enough. You and your children... (read in full...)
What the hell is a married man doing in gay bars anyway?
Q. I am 23 and have just broken up with my boyfriend of 6-months (he's 34 years old). I broke up with him after finding out he was married with two children; I feel disgusted and sick and have self-loathing. We met in a gay bar that's popular loca...
A. 18 March 2009: first make sure he is married, Seeing a man waliking around with a lady and 2 children does not automatically equal married.
I am often out with relatives/friends etc and people could easily jump to conclusions. 2nd this guy may well be gay a... (read in full...)
Do I quit my marriage altogether? Confront him then quit? Help!!!
Q. I am a 24 year old, I have been married for just over 2 years and in a relationship with my husband for just over 7 years. We dated young and married young, but we were both experienced sexually with others. What I mean to say is that we weren’t ...
A. 8 March 2009: In all other respects he's a great guy? The porn is a big issue for you but, should he really give it up because you don't like it? Maybe on this issue you should respect that as individuals we don't always agree with each other. We do not always ... (read in full...)
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