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writes:Hey!! Well I've just have some pretty simple questions that I want to ask. 1. Why do all the good things in life die? Why are they taken away from us when we need them so badly?! 2. Why can't true love be real?! Or is it really and I'm just missing it? Please don't use cruel judgement and say you need to know everything!! Just answer the damn questions. Reply to this Question
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reader, bOy CrAzY;} +, writes (31 March 2009):
bOy CrAzY;} is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay first of all I didn't put the name on there the site thing did and second of all all of the questions that I've asked always have critical answers except for like 2 or 3 so u can just shove it up ur tail pipe!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): you are young and you sound hurt and angry....sounds like you have had a close death ?????(ANSWER THE DAMN QUESTIONS)..Well in answer to this, i have to say NO ! ...learn the word PLEASE....
Loss, death, anger,hurt, age young or old Gives no license to DEMAND ANSWERS.
via con dios.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): I'm going to skip to your 2nd question, because in all honesty, I just can't answer your first. I mean, I can on a general "that's just the world goes" answer, but honestly, I believe you just lost your dad, and nothing I could say would possibly be a good answer.
That said: yes, real love does exist. The love you feel for your parents, for example, is real love. The love you feel for friends and family is real love.
If you're talking about romantic love, without using such new age terms like "soulmate" (which I don't believe in), real love exists there too. However, its not like fairytales. You don't meet Prince Charming and live happily ever after. Love in the real world takes work. Its difficult, its a pain in the ass, but its worth it.
As to your follow-up as to why so many people have a hard time finding it. Well, there are a lot of reasons.
1. People get into relationships and call it love without even knowing the person at all. The older you get, the more you'll see of that.
2. People can be fixated on the whole fairytale version of love without wanting to put the work, time and patience into it. They just expect it'll be easy, when its just not.
3. Some people want love soooo bad they don't fall in love with the person they're with, they fall in love with the idea of love. They want so much for that guy to be their Prince Charming or that woman to be their "heart's true desire" that they don't really love that person or even get to know them. They convince themselves that they're in love, when what they really love is who they want that person to be. If this doesn't make sense now, as you get older, it will.
4. They've been hurt before by what they thought was love, so they wall themselves up so that they try not to love anymore.
5. They don't love themselves. And if you can't love yourself, no one else can love you.
There are a ton of more reasons, but those are some of the big ones right there. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): "True love" is a mind frame that exist between the less rational, enforced by the will power of a label. "Labels" are important in common society. It differentiates between ideals and lifestyles. "True love" is no exception. In common society, "true love" means absolute compromise through a natural connection. Alas, an absolute compromise counters the fluidity of a natural connection.
Those that do not change or change very little, will find it easier to 'find' "true love". Those that constantly reorganize their emotional, thought and logic processes, will find it more difficult to connect with someone intimately. If they do, it means their connection is natural and not enforced.
If you read through the entirety of DearCupid, you may find the majority of the questions and comments here dictate a label and enforced ideals. Most of them have absolutely no natural flow. When you realize this, you will also find the answer to why "true love" is only an ideal shared by the enforcers and not by the naturals.
Love is not given nor found. It is created and it is personal. The connection you have with someone is the constant flow of that expression of love you've created inside of you. To fuel that love you've created, you need reciprocation. If reciprocation is lacking, then you will feel dissatisfied. If you feel dissatisfied, you will then question the connection you have with that person. When you get answers for those questions, you will then feel doubt. When you have enough doubt, the love inside of you may begin to falter.
Remember: "true love" is relative to an individual. What and how you interpret something may be different than how your lover interprets it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): you dont find love it finds you.
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reader, bOy CrAzY;} +, writes (30 March 2009):
bOy CrAzY;} is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay I've got one more question for y'all if true love IS there then how come sooooo many people can't find it?
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reader, DeserveMore +, writes (30 March 2009):
 1. Why do all the good things in life die?
Because we tend to value things that are scarce or fleeting. If it were common or plentiful, it wouldn't seem as special. Glitter and fireworks are considered gorgeous because of contrast to darkness.
Why are they taken away from us when we need them so badly?!
I don't know... but I do know that we are never given more than we can handle and sometimes it takes loss for us to appreciate true beauty the next go-round.
2. Why can't true love be real?! Or is it really and I'm just missing it?
True love can be real-- True love is about self-sacrifice-- loving someone else unconditionally, with no strings attached, whether that love is returned or not.
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reader, funnyintit  +, writes (30 March 2009):
 you could write complete books about them questions without getting a true answer....true love is there, there's plenty examples around!!! :)
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (30 March 2009):
well babe you sound really angry and i'm sorry you feel that way right now.
In answer to your 1st questions sometimes the good things in life die early long before we are ready. For example my dad lost his dad when he was only 9 years old. I sadly lost my dad 2 years ago. I was sad, angry, really low and not ready to loose him, but I had to be pleased that I had got to know and love my Dad for 30 years longer than he got to love his.
your 2nd question. True love can be real, just that sometimes we bump into the not real along our journey to the real thing.
I wish you happiness mate it will come.
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