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writes:i am in a kind of tight situation.my best friend is in love with a girl he has known for 3 years..but..he has been with his girlfriend for 7 years...he doesn't love her.never did.but he was with her,cuz she needed his support and he wanted to support her like she did when he needed support.this part is sort of complicated..but now..he is stuckhe wants to break up with her,but he cant..his conscience won't let him.the girl he is in love with-i have met her and she is really sweet and totally in love with him.she has told him also,but he hasn't told her anything yet.2 days ago,she texted him and said they can't be even friends anymore as she can't see him with someone else.my friend cried for 2 days.and today he just said that he had been thinking about it and some way would come out.he is really confused and miserable...and so am i.how can I help him?what can he do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto miss anon:hi.thx for taking out the time to answer this.well,its obvious he has some feelings..but he is not in love with her.he does CARE deeply still u know..anyone would,if they were with someone since 7 years.to your next one:umm..he wasnt with her.he knows her cuz his father and her father are close golfing buddies,and thats how he knows her.they havent done anything physical..but i did notice the amount of attention he paid to her.they quickly became very good friends.he cant stop talking or thinking about her.i know so much cuz me and him are collegues as well..so..yeah
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): I read your comment but to me it's a cut and dry situation. Obviously he's got feelings for the girl that he's been with for 7 years else he would have already left her. He need's to make a choice and quit messing with peoples emotions. Pick one or the other! Plain and simple. I've got a question for you, "Why was he with someonelse if he's got a girlfriend anyway"?
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (28 March 2009):
He needs to be honest with his girlfriend. Not about loving someone else, but about no longer being in love with her. He can say how he cares for her deeply as a friend or big brother but not as a lover.
He can say he wants to end there relationship, that he has fought against these feelings because she has done so much for him he felt guilty about falling out of love. But he is becoming more unhappy pretending everything is alright.
As long as there are no children getting hurt she'll eventually get over him and will hopefully be ready to be friends.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (28 March 2009):
 In my opinion if he is not married or has no children, he then should break up with her and be with the girl who he is in love with. If he forces himself to be loyal to his girlfriend now he could end up with regrets. It also is going to put a huge strain on his relationship. The best thing is that he tells his girl friend sorry and that he has fallen in love with sombody else, however he should remain good friends with his ex, (if he ever decides to break up). Take care!
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