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writes:Is it just because I'm a teenager? I'm 15 and I feel very bad about myself. I'm chubby and hate my face, I've been told I am ugly and fat by boys and just started believing them... should I? My mom always tells me to ignore them but I just can't. Any advice on feeling better about myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): I'm not going to do the you're beautiful honey boollocks because i don't know you andhaven't seen you so can't judge, but when you're going through puberty you are especially susceptible to paranoia and care a lot more ,too much i'd say about peoples opinions, i think that they're just being bullies and there's nothing wrong with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): hunny, your beautiful in everyway, rather in the outside or in the inside,
they see your chubby thats very cute
have dignity!
who cares ,
if they tell you that one way or another tell them so what ?
im fat, im chubby big deal, !
your mom is absolutly right ,
ignore them,
and if you cant , just deal with the fact !
-LOVE ala,
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Everyone below has said it: get rid of your current perception of yourself and love what you have. Believe you are beautiful. You are as beautiful as you believe you are, and there is no opinion in the world that is accurate. It is impossible for someone else to have an accurate opinion of us because they will never fully know us, nor have the capability to accurately assess.
Second, look at this video from "Britain's Got Talent". This woman was being mocked for her appearance by a room of hundreds. Watch how her beauty comes forward:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lp0IWv8QZY
Never ever value another's opinion of your appearance nor character. Never!!!
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reader, OSCARS MUMMY  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 i felt exactly the same as you when i was your age, it IS because you are a teenager/puberty etc etc.... your body is going through so many changes you have a way to go yet but believe me it will be worth it. I remember crying in my bedroom at 15 that no one would ever want me because i was so ugly and spotty.. then by the time i was 18 it changed guys started noticing me and i could have my pick... they guys who used to call me ugly were now ASKING ME out (of course i turned them down!) Upon speaking wth my friends they all admitted feeling the same, its horrible but its natural, you obviously have a very supportive mum keep telling her how you feel and dont bottle anything up... i promise you it will get much better, the weight will drop off, you could always start going to the gym?? the spots will stop appearing, it will all happen just wait and see. You dont want to be the girl who 'peaks' at school cause by the time you are in your 20's you wont look as hot. I remember all the guys that everyone fancied at high school now look really ugly in their 20's!! Its weird but true. Develop the inner you, work on personality, being and having fun and gain lots of interests - the outer you will become beautiful all by itself!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): Easier said than done to do all that. You can't just tell someone to be happy, or be confident. It doesn't work. And its very frustrating to a not happy person to be told that like its some kind of prolific knowledge.
If you are unhappy with the way you look, you DO have control over that. You have to decide whether you will just learn to accept who your are right now, or whether you want to change who you are. Both will take a lot of hard work and self discovery. What you should NOT do is hate who you are, and do nothing about it as well. That's actually the easy way out. It doesn't take much effort to hate yourself and feel helpless.. Not much at all. It can take a lot of effort to love yourself, however.
So its all about work ethic. Yes work ethic even carries over into issues like this. Are you active? Do you have hobbies that you enjoy? Extracurricular activities? Good grades? If you stay busy and stay active, your problems will diminish, and you will meet like-minded people that help you to feel good about yourself.
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reader, loving arms +, writes (16 April 2009):
well said Flagirl! Babe don't ever let others rule who you are. Ignore idiots opinion of you, are these people you actually care about? You are young and young boys especially follow the crowd, even when they don't agree with what's being said.
You just hold your head up high and enjoy yourself. One day these same boys will look at you and see you for who you are and will realise how stupid and untrue their comments were.
Be happy babe, others will notice the happy confident you.
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reader, jkoh +, writes (16 April 2009):
 Coming from a guy, confidence is really sexy in a girl. That's what I think at least. If you really are sensitive about your body though, just eat less junk food and excercise a bit. Exercise makes people feel better about themselves and will bring up your confidence.
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reader, FLAgirl1113 +, writes (16 April 2009):
Never allow someone's opinion of yourself to become your own opinion of yourself. If it is something YOU want to do, then loosing a few EXTRA pounds is okay, but never hate your face. Own it! Confidence is the sexiest characteristic anyone can have. You're young. Define what beauty is TO YOU. Don't let what you see on tv or the jackasses at your school define it for you.
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