Girlfriend at sleepover,may be drinking
Q. My girlfriend and I are 16 and have been going out for just under a year now, we love eachother to bits, had our first time together etc, i couldn't imagine my world without her at the moment. Tody she told me she's going to a sleepover at her ...
A. 26 February 2009: I've seen some other posters on this site really regret what they did under the influence (cheating, fighting, etc.) and I'm glad you let her know it's not a good idea. Alcohol has got to be one of the most overrated things by teenagers, you do ... (read in full...)
Why do I put so much pressure on myself to find a girlfriend?
Q. Why do I put so much pressure on myself to find a girlfriend? I'm only 20 years old. I've been in 4 relationships in my life, only one of which was long term. Despite my age, I worry that I'm never going to find the right person for me. Why am I...
A. 23 February 2009: It's probably a side effect from our age group (i'm 19) just going from highschool to fending for ourselves in the adult world, there is a lot of fear that caves in saying "What if we never get that job?" "What if I never find 'the one'" "What if I ... (read in full...)
What do girls like? Gift wise, surprise wise...
Q. what do girls like? -gift wise -suprise wise -generally -having done to them in bed please reply all u women! x...
A. 22 February 2009: Ok, I'm a guy. Shoot me. But after three relationships, and talking to women, I have observed some patterns in what they like.
Gift- something not too spendy but inventive and thoughtful (if you know her friends, ask their opinions).
Surpris... (read in full...)
Was I right to end it with him over lying?
Q. I just broke up with my bf today over his lying to me. He is being scammed at work by a coworker and loaned this guy nearly $5000! The guy disappeared and never paid him back. When I got wind of this he told me he had only loaned him $500. The...
A. 22 February 2009: It was definitely justified. For a situation like that, a three strikes rule would suffice, and I counted four times (correct me if i'm wrong).
Finances is a big part of a relationship as well, and if he's lying to you in that area, you'd have to ... (read in full...)
How can I know if I am in love with my friend?
Q. Hi, How do I know if I'm in love with my friend? I think I am, but he doesn't feel the same way. It seems as though I'm trying to deny the fact that I love him to avoid future rejection and heartbreak. It's difficult to admit to loving someone ...
A. 20 February 2009: Tell him the "reason" is because he is who he is. That's the whole reason behind good relationships, is that a person is unique and attractive (phys. ment. emotionally) and that they would make a good "compliment" to ourselves by being, will, dee... (read in full...)
Why would my friends think that I will end up pregnant before collage and how to prove them wrong?
Q. im confused. My friends keep saying that i will end up pregnant before i enter collage. Im in marching band like all of my friends i play the flute(we don't have over night band camp by the way). My parents aren't the most caring people and they ...
A. 20 February 2009: They probably just assume some things after seeing you passionately kiss or something. OR they're secretly jealous that you have high standards, have ACTUALLY dated someone and they just want to bring you down or create gossip fodder. I'd also bring ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with my housemate?
Q. what is wrong with my housemate!!! I officially can not stand her any longer! We got our place together but i swear she lives like i'm living in her house. She constantly talks to herself and you know when she is around or in a bad mood. she hu...
A. 20 February 2009: Sounds like she has an anger management problem and needs counseling. Also sounds like she is in love with needless authority over others.... (read in full...)
I've cheated and don't know what to do.
Q. ok well i hav been goin out w/ ths guy for like 4 weeks, and my ex bf had had some thngs tht weve done. but durin christmas break me and my ex had been txtin bout sex w/ each other and my mom read my txts. she was mad so me and my ex decided to ...
A. 20 February 2009: Relationships are all about honesty, pure and simple. If you want to be truly honest, drop the bomb and tell your boyfriend the truth with a sincere apology. Your conscience will be clean, and I can't tell you his reaction, but imagine what it ... (read in full...)
This great guy doesn't love me?
Q. I met a wonderful guy about two months ago. The problem is is that he knows my daughters father, no they are not friends. They've hung out at the clubs a few times, but thats it. They know each other from another friend. Now I met him in a club and ...
A. 20 February 2009: I wouldn't think so, especially with how easy we can keep in touch nowadays. Whenever you think of him, tell yourself that you'll find a guy with STAYING POWER and who isn't a COWARD. Some guys just love to toy with girls' emotions, sounds lik... (read in full...)
I'm seriously down because I just can't get over my ex...
Q. Hi, Well last August I met this really amazing guy...well I thought he was. And it was a few weeks later he told me he liked me. Anyway, in September we decided to meet up and we kissed which was my first ever kiss. He asked me out and I said y...
A. 14 February 2009: You have certainly done the right thing, especially if he was not straightforward and honest about why he wanted to end the relationship. Be single for a while so you don't just settle on a guy because you feel lonely now. Confide in some girl fri... (read in full...)
Does she want me more than her boyfriend?
Q. I really like this girl, and we have been freinds for a year and a half. about 5 months ago we started going out, however it ended in about a month. She was very distressed over her ex boyfreind at the time and he took advantge of the situation. I ...
A. 13 February 2009: It sounds like she had a real catharsis (outpouring of emotion), and she may not be thinking as rational, just stand back for a bit (unless she still wants to talk) and let her sort things out. And if she decides for the worse in the end, try to ... (read in full...)
Does milk make your skin break out?
Q. Hi there, okay so I've started drinking milk for a change in my daily diet, before I didn't drink milk that often. The thing is my skin started breaking out on my back and chest, and I haven't had skin problems for years so this is something I ...
A. 13 February 2009: It may be a kind of lactose intolerance, but I have had large portions of milk (beats soda any day) all my life and have never experienced anything that went wrong with my body because of it. Except for brief brain freezes lol. lovelynightmare... (read in full...)
I hate my B-cups and I need to know how to make them bigger!
Q. ok im 15 and ive been in a B cup since the 5th grade and im a small B i hate the way they look Especially without a push up bra i mean my 10 year old sister is bigger than me {go ahead and laugh cause that is funny} my boyfriend trys to make me ...
A. 12 February 2009: Be happy with who you are. Breast expansion costs money, and your boyfriend loves you for who you are anyway. Besides, many other cultures actually prefer small breasts.
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Is it normal to not like porn?
Q. Is it normal to not like porn? All my friends always talk about the porn they watch but whenever I try to watch it... I didn't find it very interesting or arousing, I prefer to just use my imagination when I am masturbating. Is there something ...
A. 12 February 2009: Of course. Pornography never equals real sex. All the videos are repulsive, better for shock value than to turn someone on. I liked the still pictures, but then I realized that I was just creating some stupid fantasy that my future lover cou... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask my bf to keep his Playboy mags out of my sight?
Q. I sincerely appreciate the response of men to this topic. However, I am always discouraged because it ultimately ends with the conclusion 'it's normal' and/or guys will become addicted no matter what. I really want men to GET what porn CAN say to ...
A. 12 February 2009: No it isn't unreasonable. If he's going to have other women in picture form, he shouldn't leave easy reminders everywhere.
And personally, I too am discouraged by the "it's normal" and "oh, they're just guys" shtick.
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Is he looking and signing up at porn websites? please help!!!
Q. My boyfriend gave me his email password along time ago when we were just friends and he knows I still have it. Anyways I always go though my junk and delete it but he never does so I go on his and do it for him. For the last 2 days there have been ...
A. 12 February 2009: Was it in a designated spam folder (if the emails do get sorted in categories) or was it lying in his general inbox? If it was his general inbox, it's more likely he asked for the email himself. Still, spam can sneak through, so ask him for THE ... (read in full...)
My friends are trying to set me up with a girl, but she is "fast". I know the are trying to help but...
Q. I have a problem, well here it is guys, My friends have been basically sick of seeing me alone without a girlfriend for so long. And have decided to try to hook me up with a girl. Well from what they have told me and my one friend who i really trust ...
A. 12 February 2009: Fast girls = never good She sounds like a female player, she'd just use you for the sex then break it off. And tell your buddies that, ultimately, you call the shots in your own dating life. When you get a decent girl, you can brag you DI... (read in full...)
How do I ask a girl to be my girlfriend?
Q. ok im an 14 year old boy, i like this girl at my school but i wanted to ask her to be my girlfriend but i dont know if she likes me and im too nervous to ask her, so how do i ask her to be my gf?...
A. 12 February 2009: V-day is just around the corner, buy a rose, maybe chocolates, or a card and tell her plain and simple that you love her.... (read in full...)
I got mad when I saw him hugging another girl- am I in the wrong?
Q. ok im not sure if im in the wrong or not about my situation so here it is me and my boyfriend agreed to not hug anymore people of the opposite sex so today when i was in school i turned around and he was hugging another girl and i dont know but when ...
A. 12 February 2009: If you both explicitly agreed no hugging of the opposite sex, you wouldn't be in the wrong, you'd be holding him accountable for something he said he wouldn't do.
Tell him that your trust for him is in jeopardy and that he should be a man of his w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looks at porn all the time- he even asks me to leave so he can look! Any advice?
Q. Hello. My boyfriend is a porn fanatic. He looks at it whenever he gets the chance, even with me around. He asks me to leave. We have sex regularly, at the very least once a day if not (usually) a lot more. I dont have a problem with him looking at ...
A. 12 February 2009: Tell your boyfriend he has to get help (sex addicts anonymous, etc.) or make a change or you're out the door. You don't deserve to compete with his little fantasy world. As I've stated before, the "oh they're just guys" thing DOESN'T CUT IT and ... (read in full...)
I don't want a bad reputation but I want to fool around and have fun!
Q. I'm 15 and all these guys are trying to get in my pants, like at a party these hot guy i was dancing with put my hand on his dick, and he had a huge boner, and this other guy kept raising my dress til it was barely covering my butt. Im not ready to ...
A. 9 February 2009: You might not want to go further, but these guys will. And you are young yet, so instead of giving some party boys a piece of you, find a guy who has your interests in mind as well and start a relationship. Believe me, things like holding hands an... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do I love him!
Q. ok im madly in lovge with my boyfriend we have so much in common and so much planned out for our future i kno that he is in love with me as well and well this year ive had alot of diffulculties and i still am any ways like 3 weeks ago i cheated on ...
A. 7 February 2009: Do tell him first. If he needs outside sources to know that you're cheating, his trust will lessen even more. Be honest and do not cheat again. It will probably take a while for him to forgive/trust you, but if your relationship is worth it, do ... (read in full...)
How do I get his attention when he's always listening to an ipod
Q. How am i supposed to get this guy's attention if he's listening to his ipod all the time? i swear, he even does it when our teacher is giving a lesson and he's only in that one class of mine so it's the only time i see him... what should i do?...
A. 7 February 2009: Both have cell phones? Text away. (most people would respond) Just be sure not to get caught. lovelynightmare... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how I can find a guy, please?
Q. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO GET A GUY? I NEED A MAN PLEASE HELP ...
A. 7 February 2009: Just have charm, confidence and intelligence on hand.
Nothing personal, but a little subtlety wouldn't hurt either.
lovelynightmare... (read in full...)
My intelligence may be getting in the way of our relationship, any ideas?
Q. My boyfriend (we're both 16) thinks I need to stop being smarter then him. He gets d's and c's well I get b's and a's. I don't rub it in his face at all (plus I think its rude as well) and I have been offering to help him get his grades back up but ...
A. 7 February 2009: Just about a month and 1/2 ago, I broke up with someone who was not as intellectually inclined as I. It hurt me a lot because she had a deep, sweet, loving heart and was fairly beautiful, but when I brought up anything intellectual she... (read in full...)
My guy friend has anger management problems, how can I get him to understand that?
Q. Hi im 17 and I've been having this problem with one of my really close guy friends. His mother has recently passed away and he's only 16. the only people he has in his life is me and his sister. Everytime we are together which is alot he always ...
A. 7 February 2009: If his anger management problem is directed towards you, and he's beating you up, get out of there. He could injure you severely. Free yourself from his physical tyranny. I'd say tell parents and authorities to get a restraining order on him. Ma... (read in full...)
Together for 4 years, this Valentines, he is going to a strip club, should I get over it?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that he's going to a strip club with his friends on February 14th... I had planned to take him out to dinner at his favorite restaurant on that day for Valentines day... Now I know Valentine's Day is just a stupid excuse ...
A. 7 February 2009: Many times I hear girls and girlfriends giving excuses like "oh, they're just guys" when things like porn and strip clubs come up, but that's why they're just GUYS and not MEN. As his one and only, you should let him know that you won't approve, a... (read in full...)
Guys: What kind of colors/clothes do you like girls to wear?
Q. guys, what kind of clothes do you like girls to wear? do you like dresses or the casual, sweatshirt look? do any specific colors catch your eye?...
A. 6 February 2009: For colors, I am attracted to pink, red or blue on females.
For clothes, dresses (no particular kind) are really a turn on for me.
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Boyfriend or crush??
Q. I have a boyfriend and have been with him for 4.5 years and for the past week we have been fighting a lot over nothing, i have recently been feeling attracted to another guy who also has a girlfriend, i know he is also attracted to me because he is ...
A. 3 February 2009: Tell him very strongly for a friendship to work that you should just be friends. And only then if his status changes to single can he ever do those romantic things with you.... (read in full...)
How to disagree and still be nice
Q. How to be nicer on the internet? Things that annoy me about people: 1-when they are really young and into sex already and trying to grow up too fast 2-dumb people on purpose or to annoy 3-mean and insulting people just because. (It's differe...
A. 2 February 2009: Gosh, I didn't see there were still new posts up on this one.
You know, sometimes it's best to best the voice of reason and take the ridicule and low ratings. In the end, it's not about the ratings, but if we have made someone's life better. ... (read in full...)
Looking for songs that capture how I'm feeling to show my husband
Q. My husband and I are going through some pretty rocky times, we have been here before and it ended in disaster. Although, in that case, he was the one to blame, it still hurt like hell when I thought it was really over, forever! I love him, there ...
A. 2 February 2009: I would highly recommend Illusion by VNV Nation, it is one of the most beautiful songs I have had the pleasure of hearing, and would definitely speak to him. Google it sometime, it's amazing. As for your situation, I wish you the best ... (read in full...)
Breaking up and getting back together? Can it work?
Q. Just a quick question is it possible for a couple to get back together after a break or a break up and have a succesfull relationship? My boyfriend of 9 months who asked me to move in (totally his idea) has asked for some space apart saying he still ...
A. 2 February 2009: Believe it or not, I'm 19 and it's happened thrice. My first g/f asked me out of the blue, and being unpopular and not understanding relationships, I said yes. She broke up with me on a date, saying she was not ready. Well, then she decided she ... (read in full...)
I'm in my last year of high school and it's been hell...
Q. i really need some help. im in my last year of high school and its been hell. last year my previous best friend went out with my ex behind my back (among other things), and now it seems like everyone is still in love with her. all my friends tell me ...
A. 2 February 2009: Highschool was a hard time for me as well, I had an ex-girlfriend who was very popular and turned everyone against me. Stick with your ex if you believe he has changed, and try other social circles to see if you can make new friends. I know ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend things it's wrong to have fantasies about me
Q. ok so my girl thinks it is wrong of her to have fantacys about me but i think it is hot so how can i ask her to see it my way idk how it is wrong to think of the one you love the most...
A. 2 February 2009: I think your girlfriend still finds you very attractive and pleasant, but it is probably a matter of her wanting to keep her boundaries she has set (probably in her mind if she hasn't told you) so she doesn't go certain places with a guy too fast. ... (read in full...)
I came before penetration - am I a virgin?
Q. Recently, a female friend and I were fooling around. I was wearing a condom and there was some foreplay involved and it got me hard. I was then on the bottom and then I came first then she went in. Right after she went in, I said that I came. This...
A. 2 February 2009: Penetration itself is the act you perform that counts as losing your virginity. Who came when has very little to do with it. Now I'm not being accusatory or trying to point a finger, I'm just saying that what went on counted as sex. There are i... (read in full...)
Pregnant from bj?
Q. I gave my boyfriend a blow job, and I'm afriad I may be pregnant because the sperm got on my hands. i waited about 30 mins before i went to the rest room though. what should i do?...
A. 2 February 2009: You're fine. As long as no sperm enters the vagina, it can't find an egg to merge with. STDs can still come through blowjobs, but not babies. lovelynightmare... (read in full...)
DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!
Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...
A. 2 February 2009: That's rad, Andrew. Freakin' rad. And a massive thumbs up to all the aunts as well. Now if only my artist myspace could pull those kind of numbers...... (read in full...)
I need some tips on how to control my anger.
Q. I need some tips on how to control my anger. I'm 15 so I don't have time to go to courses or whatever so I need things that you can do at home. Any advice appreciated....
A. 2 February 2009: Sometimes just ask yourself "Is the situation really worth getting angry (or this angry) about?" I have a coworker who blows up at the smallest things behind the counter, and he could really use some anger management. Many things aren't worth the ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to give me a blow job????
Q. How can I get my girlfriend to give me a blow job???? We've been together for over 3 months and made out a lot.. and I've done a lot of oral for her so I think it's just fair for her to do it for me tooo... see she's a little afraid that she won't ...
A. 2 February 2009: Would you be willing to give her a blow job? Honestly, it's going to evolve into problems. Increasingly intimate physical activity always becomes fodder for fights later on. Just enjoy her companionship and love, that should be more than enough... (read in full...)
I can't trust myself not to cheat
Q. Okay big problem I have a boyfriend, but we are both pretty young, his number one rule is do not cheat. well, I'm afraid i will break that rule. I've have a ton of relationships in the past so I know I can date. I have big problems with trust I ...
A. 2 February 2009: I think just by posting this you already have enough conviction that cheating is a horrible thing. Whenever a temptation arises, remind yourself of your wonderful guy and that you wouldn't hurt him like that. Also, try to stay away from dr... (read in full...)
Boyfriend or crush??
Q. I have a boyfriend and have been with him for 4.5 years and for the past week we have been fighting a lot over nothing, i have recently been feeling attracted to another guy who also has a girlfriend, i know he is also attracted to me because he is ...
A. 28 January 2009: For now, just don't fall for that guy. Say you started dating him, and he finds some other girl (just like he is now) to flirt with and be all mushy-mushy with. Not a pretty picture. If he cheats on his current g/f, who is to say you wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend or crush??
Q. I have a boyfriend and have been with him for 4.5 years and for the past week we have been fighting a lot over nothing, i have recently been feeling attracted to another guy who also has a girlfriend, i know he is also attracted to me because he is ...
A. 25 January 2009: If a man is taken, it's no good to be flirting with him, especially if it's drawing attention. It will only cause problems for you and him. Try to avoid him. As for your current boyfriend, I don't have any details on the nature of the quarreling, ... (read in full...)
How to disagree and still be nice
Q. How to be nicer on the internet? Things that annoy me about people: 1-when they are really young and into sex already and trying to grow up too fast 2-dumb people on purpose or to annoy 3-mean and insulting people just because. (It's differe...
A. 18 January 2009: To be nicer, just think about what you say or post, if it could be construed in a bad way, don't use strong commands.
Unless the situation does demand, a lot of the aunts are pissed, and do have a right to be pissed, on here when some people a... (read in full...)
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