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writes:I'm 15 and all these guys are trying to get in my pants, like at a party these hot guy i was dancing with put my hand on his dick, and he had a huge boner, and this other guy kept raising my dress til it was barely covering my butt. Im not ready to lose my virginity yet, but i kinda wanna go further with this guy.. as in BJ, or hand job, etc. but people have already been saying im screwing up my life by drinking and other stuff, so if anyone finds out, then im done.So i have no clue what to do. i just wanna have fun and fool around before its time to get serious.arg i have noo idea what i should do. :( i do not wanna get a bad reputation, but i want to get experienced soon. its not like ive never hooked up, or let guys touch me, but i want more than that before i get serious with a guy. please dont say anything mean.
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reader, shna  +, writes (10 February 2009):
 you said youve hooked up before... usually when people say that they mean sex...be clearer next time
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reader, in love but hurt  +, writes (10 February 2009):
Please take my advice. Wait, Wait, WAIT! I am a 41 yr old woman who lost her virginity at 14. In my time things were different I know but I can tell you that having sex way too early got me into a lot of trouble. I have herpes, I married the wrong guy just because the sex was great, thus I am divorced with 2 girls who are emotionally hurting, I am totally broke and lonely. My friends from high school who waited, put themselves first as far as studies, friends, etc are doing very well and stable. I have a daughter now who is 15 and she seems me and tells herself everyday, "I don't want to be like my mother" and she is not going to. She has made a clear decision to wait and not let loser boys take advantage of her. Let me tell you boys at that age just want to take advantage of you that is it.. Change, be a lady with values who makes it clear that her life is first and she is not going to be just another girl that this boy banged.......
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reader, Tomas +, writes (10 February 2009):
You said you wanted to have fun and fool around before it's time to get serious.I'd suggest that the time to get serious (from a relationship standpoint) is probably your mid-to-late twenties. After you've got your diploma and hopefully degree(s), moved out on your own, gotten a job, learned what things you want out of life, what you are willing to live without, what you need from a partner, what you are not willing to do (or do without). It usually takes several relationships to learn these things. Some of these will involve different levels of sexual intimacy. You may learn you want someone who wants to go out and party and have fun, or someone who will curl up with you on the couch to watch a corny movie with you. You may learn that you don't want to be a grown man's mother. You may learn you don't want to have kids, and then learn you do after all. That you want a career as well. That something has to give.During all this time, you can have fun and fool around. You may learn that fooling around outside a relationship with someone who is really hot, loses you something you want that you'll never be able to get back.Not trying to be overly dramatic or sincere, I just want to make the point that your sex life is a marathon, not a sprint. You asked for what to do, though, so I'll try to answer that. You said you wanted to be experienced. I'd ask you what being experienced means. That is, does it mean being grown up, or being wanted, or being independent? Something else? A lot of your early relationships will be about learning to recognize what things you want, which are good for you and which are destructive, and making better choices the next go around. (Oh and having fun and fooling around of course.)Try to figure out what you want. Then take small steps, avoid big risks (pregnancy changes everything, as you no longer get to come first in your life, but now your kids do). When in doubt, wait, and see what changes and what doesn't.
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reader, orangejuice24 +, writes (10 February 2009):
drinking is not the way you are going to find a guy.... atleast not a good guy. You wont have fun the right way either by drinking because its bad for you... my friends say they dont have fun when they do. You shouldnt rush things as you are only 15. Im 18 and i dont drink but i have a lot of fun. I also praise you for keeping your virginity because I am a virgin too and people have said its better to wait unti you love somebody to have sex.
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reader, Mr hair man +, writes (10 February 2009):
Here my advice is get settled 1st,then with your bf do things at your own rate and have fun!! But dont be getting drunk and tryng to grab some lads penis you hardly know!! Trust me u'll get an awfull name..do things sober ive seen some of my mates drunk and make a show of themselves and we laugh at them not with them
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reader, lovelynightmare +, writes (9 February 2009):
 You might not want to go further, but these guys will.And you are young yet, so instead of giving some party boys a piece of you, find a guy who has your interests in mind as well and start a relationship. Believe me, things like holding hands and kissing are VERY UNDERRATED in our oversexed culture, but they are so satisfying.lovelynightmare
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): I would say don't bother, best way is to get urself a boyfriend and do things sober. If your doing those things with a bf ur own age no 1 will say anything and you no he wont either. Im 19 and i would much rather go with a girl who lost her virginity at 15 to a bf rather than many drunken 1 night stands at parties. If you get branded a slag at 15 its very hard to lose the reputation and find a decent boyfriend when u get to say, my age. hope that helps whatever you do be safe and sober = better and safer sex or sexual activities !
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): 15 is such a young age to do that. You can still fool around, but if you were to have sex, you wouldn't know if he's safe. He might had STDs. He won't even like you for your personality. He'll just like you for your physical looks. And that isn't really important. He is just using you.
Hope that helps & good luck
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reader, juliew +, writes (9 February 2009):
juliew is verified as being by the original poster of the questionuhm are you kidding?a) i said i am FIFTEENb) i said i DO NOT want to lose my virginity.read the question next time
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reader, shna +, writes (9 February 2009):
your thirteen and uv already lost ur virginity ........... im sorry but you need to cop on to yourself fair enough if you want to drink and kiss guys i wouldnu be suprised of people are saying stuff about u already if you go round acting like a tramp wat else do u expect wise up girl and act a bit mature
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