Looking for songs that capture how I'm feeling to show my husband

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

My husband and I are going through some pretty rocky times, we have been here before and it ended in disaster. Although, in that case, he was the one to blame, it still hurt like hell when I thought it was really over, forever! I love him, there is no denying that. I guess he must have felt the same way because he did come back to fix what he broke. He made many promises and I believed him. While he was in the process of "comming clean" with me, I found out that things were actually worst then I even knew. But, as long as I felt he was being totaly honest with me about everything, nothing could deter me from standing by his side. We started to make big plans and reach for the stars and together we were making it happen. I do not think that there was ever a time in either one of our lives where we felt better about who we were and what we wanted and our chances of actually getting it. We were truly happy and in love. It didn't take too long for me to find out that he had broken a promise to me. Not an OMG, my life is over kind of promise, just enough to make me question how sorry he really was about anything. I had already made some major life changes at this point including giving up my apartment, moving clear across the country for his work, since my car never would have made it I just donated that and we were sharing his car. I did not have a job right away, so I was more or less dependent on him at the moment. So finding out that he may not have been quite as sorry as he said he was did not mean that I could just say "oh forget this and walk out the door." I was horrified that I may have just made the worst mistake of my life and there was nothing I could do about it. I could not even imagine going through what I had been through with him before. I confronted him with what I had found out. Although, he was somewhat apologetic he also acted as if I was making a huge deal out of nothing. This outraged me. After what he put me through and all of the scrifices that I had just made for him, he should have understood that sorry was not going to be enough this time and I needed a full blown explantion. I never got it. After that everything started to go down hill between us again. I felt as if I was living in fear. I found myself constantly questioning him and always needing proof. This did not go over very well with him, he said that he felt like he was living with a detective. The more I insisted on knowing the less he let me know and the more suspicous I became. His attitude towards me became very disrespectful and he no longer shows any kind of affection towards me or concern about me. The communication between us has been reduce to only what we "have" to talk about. I feel that if he gave me good reason to be suspicious right from the start and did not say or do anything to ease my mind then contrary to what he may have said, he obviously has no clue how wrong he was or how bad he hurt me, so what is to prevent him from doing it again. He feels that this was suppose to be a fresh start, he does not want the past thrown in his face for the rest of his life. He feels that he can not talk to me because if he says one thing wrong then I am going to flip out on him. I honestly do not think either one of us are wrong. I would not want somebody constantly riding my butt if I was making an honest effort, but on the other hand if I had hurt somebody in the way he hurt me, I would want for them to know I am truly sorry and if they were willing to give me a second chance it would come with the understanding that it is up to me to prove I am sorry by never repeating my actions and understand that I must remain transparent from here on out. So here we are again, at the point of no return only this time even though I do actually feel he is hiding something from me, it may just be his feelings. Anyway, with Valentines day comming up, I thought I would just try to open up the lines of communication with him via music. I want him to know that I realize I have been somewhat hard to talk to and I probably could have been a better friend in that area, but I also want for him to realize that he could have shown more sensitativity and understanding when it came to my feelings. It does not matter so much what "type" of music as long as it can get the message through without sounding totally one sided or what he my preceive to be a further attempt to cut down his efforts. So with all that said, any songs in mind?

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