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writes:Just a quick question is it possible for a couple to get back together after a break or a break up and have a succesfull relationship? My boyfriend of 9 months who asked me to move in (totally his idea) has asked for some space apart saying he still inlove with me but things were going to fast. I'm going to give him some time but i'm not going to wait too long.But my main questions is has anyone reading this been on the recieveing end of this situation and how did they deal with it? How long did they give them and did it work out in the end? Most of my friends (not all) male and female who been in this situation have just ended up with a permenant split from the boyfrnds/girlfrnds.Has anyone been in similar situations at all?
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reader, milton +, writes (2 February 2009):
I have faced a similar situation in a way, but normally relationships have up and downs is you to figure out what makes you break up , any way some have to continue regardless in cases where kids are involved, or in cases where a partner becomes posssesive over the other.
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reader, lovelynightmare  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Believe it or not, I'm 19 and it's happened thrice.My first g/f asked me out of the blue, and being unpopular and not understanding relationships, I said yes. She broke up with me on a date, saying she was not ready. Well, then she decided she is ready and I got back with her, but eventually I broke it off because she felt like I was so awesome but was really just dragging me around (and we never had ANYTHING in common anyway.So I was very cautious to start dating, but then came my second relationship with a girl who I'd known from Bible study since 8th grade. She had a past of rape by a family member(which I didn't know), but I was continually her friend until we finally started dating. Then she breaks up with me, telling me her story, but in a few months conquered her fear and we went out again, only to break up because she was just using her past (as awful as it was) to play victim and garner sympathy.Then she turns my friends against me, and I eventually start dating the only friend who stands with me. To make a long story short we broke up, got back together and broke up.I've heard of it working in other relationships of course, but never has in mine. (Btw that's about my whole highschool story up there)lovelynightmareThen my ex turned ev
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reader, pastfirst +, writes (2 February 2009):
 I've been in a similar situation and in the end things did work out.
I'd been seeing this guy for two years when he suddenly dropped the bombshell that he needed "space". I was sure it was the end of the relationship.
I really missed him, and 6 months later I sent him an e-mail wishing him Happy Birthday.
He wrote back saying he'd like us to get together again. We've been back together happily now, for 3 years.
Sometimes, a break can make us realise how much we miss the other person.
Or it can show us that we're quite happy without them.
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reader, StupidCupid...  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Yes, I've been in this situation before - twice actually with the same guy and it never worked out in the end, I just got more and more heartbroken each time we broke up. The second time was harder. Personaly if he doesn't know what he wants now then he never will, not YET any-way. If I were you I would move on honey, find someone who knows what he wants not someone who just breaksup when the going gets tough - some one who will work at a relationship not give up on a relationship. Your an adult and I'm assuming he is too... If he wants a break he can go hang out with friends, just because you live together doesn't mean you need to be around each other 24/7 use can both still have your own life and circle of friends and do your own things.. Moving in is not the be all and all for space in a relationship.. (he shouldn't of confused you and asked you to move in in teh first place) I'm with a much nicer guy now and because of what happened to me I'm too scared to move in with him, he hasn't asked me but even when he hints I try to change the subject... I hope this helps.. Goodluck!!!
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