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writes:Why do I put so much pressure on myself to find a girlfriend?I'm only 20 years old. I've been in 4 relationships in my life, only one of which was long term. Despite my age, I worry that I'm never going to find the right person for me. Why am I finding this so hard to believe??I really want to KNOW why I feel the way I feel. I guess only having one long term relationship is part of it. I feel as though I'm never going to connect with another person as well as I did with my first girlfriend. I often wonder if I was a different person back then to who I am now. I suppose that's likely because I was very hurt whenever my long term relationship ended.I have a lot of love to give, but can't find anyone to give it to. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, lovelynightmare  +, writes (23 February 2009):
 It's probably a side effect from our age group (i'm 19) just going from highschool to fending for ourselves in the adult world, there is a lot of fear that caves in saying "What if we never get that job?" "What if I never find 'the one'" "What if I never accomplish my life goals" etc..
There are also many different kinds of people in the world, so odds are that there will be someone you can connect to, and if you have dated 4 girls already, don't be worried about being looked over or unattractive. Just be yourself.
lovelynightmare
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