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writes:How can I get my girlfriend to give me a blow job???? We've been together for over 3 months and made out a lot.. and I've done a lot of oral for her so I think it's just fair for her to do it for me tooo... see she's a little afraid that she won't do it right or I'll be disappointed, but that's not true. I've explained to her that I really don't care if it's good or not, I mean it's her first time.. I really love her and am just happy that I have her.I would be sooo miserable without her.. but she really wants to do it, and I want her to, too.. but it's just that she's scared of seeing an actual penis face to face for the first time in her life, she's a little afraid and anxious about it..So how can I assure her into being more comfortable, and to just know that a penis is just a penis???thxz
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): Never bring up the IOU factor, you'll just end up looking like a jack***.You said you already gave her oral,just make her feel happy and special and it'll eventually happen when she's ready.Stop bringing it up and get her NOT PREASURE HER TO DO SO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): if she doesn't do it after a year my friend leave her. i already wasted 3 on a lady that never performs but demands it all the time.
what shes doesn't know is that her best friend performs like a star and loves the way i give it to her :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): I dont think you should rush her if she is not comfortable it is up to her you should wait untill you are both ready
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reader, harriet-anne  +, writes (4 February 2009):
For a girls first experience of a boy asking for a bj is horrifying..their minds start to ask questions like**what if i go wrong*what if he doesnt like it*he might leave me afteror its just the embarrassment of getting down on ur knees and the boy whipping it out..u need to give her time take her somewhere nice treat her... go places which make her feel special and in time it will happen.but be patient .
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyahh i really do enjoy beying with her..she's what puts a smile on my face every day
i havent asked her to do it anymore, i figured she'll do it when she's ready
thks everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): If i were in your situation i would just not do anything, except wait.I don't know how many times you've already brought it up with her but just stop bringing it up. Maybe she will wonder why you stopped asking for a BJ.And besides, the more you keep asking or bringing up the fact that you want a BJ so badly...The more she might start to think she is just a sexual object towards you. (Remember, Desperation Is A Turn Off To a lot Of Girls!)Alternatively you can try and stop going down on her, and she might wonder why you stopped. But there are chances that may make it a "give or take" type situation and you don't really want that.Besides bro, if you really love her it shouldn't be about what you do sexually. Just enjoy your time with her while you have it... And who knows, maybe one day you two will be just enjoying yourself's and she will give it a try when you least expect it. It's always better when you dont expect it C:
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks girl 69.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Being sexually active with the person you love my angel is not a give and take its giving, don’t say you will take it slow even though you gave her oral other wise its sounds as if she now owes you oral, and if you do that she will probably do it and hate it she’ll do it coz u made her feel that she needs to pay you back for what you did for her, and she will never be comfortable with being with you, being scared that its gona result in a I O U …. You are still young and showing her that you respect her and that you do not want to force her might actually help her along, nowadays we all here about … he slept with me then left me… or I didn’t want to sleep with him and he left me…. This is very confusing for young girls, and it scares them, but if you stick by this girl, she will trust you with her body and heart, don’t even mention it again, when you make out keep it above the belt, show her that you are interested in her as a whole and not just sex, you get what im saying???
And I am sure she does not have a phobia, but she could very well develop one if you pressure her …
Good luck sweet heart …
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah i've decided im gonna take it slow, even though ive done oral for her im gonna wait when she's completely comfortable about the whole situation.. thank you to everybody who commented-
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reader, lovelynightmare +, writes (2 February 2009):
 Would you be willing to give her a blow job?Honestly, it's going to evolve into problems. Increasingly intimate physical activity always becomes fodder for fights later on. Just enjoy her companionship and love, that should be more than enough for you to be satisfied.lovelynightmare
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes this is her first reall relationship that got this far and i've done all the things you've listed when we make out passionately i do touch her and hold her hand then slowly bring her hand on my around my area she keeps it there as long as im doing it her but as soon as i let got she pulls away from it i guess i have to do it with her the first few times to guide her and get her more comfortable touching my lil' buddy you think so???
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reader, ellababesx +, writes (1 February 2009):
 Hm.. Is this her first relationship with a guy? If not, is this the furthest she has got in a realtionship? It's understandable if either of the answers to the questions was yes. But if you want things to improve, you can make it, if you try.When making out, slowly try exploring different areas of her body. Dont frighten her, do it gradualy and at a slow pace.Let her feel comfortable when doing more sexual actions.After a time of this, when you are making out, some guys tend to hold the girls hand gently for a few minutes or so, then gradualy start moving it down to your 'area' as you keep close to hers, showing her that you aren't forcing her to do anything.If you feel she is rejecting from this 'action', then leave it, - if not, move her hand around the area until you let go to let herself do what she wants to make you feel happy.If she has a slight phobia from doing the things that you want her to do, then dont worry about it. As she slowly gets older and grows a want to do that sort of thing she will. Many girls hit a certain age when they all of a sudden have the urge to do stuff they had never thought of doing before.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah i guess so ..
but the thing is that its like she has a phobia for it
she wont even touch it when my clothes are on..
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reader, ellababesx +, writes (1 February 2009):
You say that you truly love her and you are very happy to have her, so if you were, you wouldn't worry about having oral with her as it means so much to you as you have her how she is with the oral or not.Let it come natrually, when she feels comfortable about doing it, she already knows that a penis is just a penis, she just is a beginner, all beginners worry at thier first time, just let her get over this stage and then everything will be alright when she wants to do it.Good luck!
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