I need to get over my ex... but how???
Q. Bear with me, this may take a while. I'm a 21 year old female and up until two years ago I was a very logical, rational (some might say cold) person. I'd had one serious relationship with a guy I cared deeply about at the time, we were together a ...
A. 7 January 2010: Going aboard is an alternative since nothing seems to be working for you when you're trying to forget him. You're not running away from your problems but smart enough to figure a way to move on, even if it means to go abroad. Going abroad could give ... (read in full...)
Any first date tips?
Q. ok people i need helppp!! i am going on a first date with a guy i've liked for sooooo long, and i am sooooooooooo nervous!! i'm just out a 5 year relationship, we never really done the whole dating thing, anyway what do i say, what do i wear? what ...
A. 6 January 2010: Be yourself because if you end up in a relationship with him, you would want him to like you for who you are and not who he thinks you are. Good Luck and have fun! :-)... (read in full...)
What happens next???
Q. Ok im not quite sure what to do, my gf is a 18 im 21, and we basically had it worked out so that i would put things on hold until she finished college so we could live together and she got her education, then she would take a year out so i could ...
A. 5 January 2010: It takes 2 to tango but plans do change as time goes by. It's ideal to make plans for the future but it's more important to focus on the present. Since she's still going through school, don't make any concrete plan and enjoy your relationship at the ... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about this other guy...
Q. I am 26 years old and have been dating my current boyfriend for over 2 years. We had a long distance relationship for most of our time together and started living together a year ago. Since moving in together, the relationship has gotten too ...
A. 5 January 2010: Hold off on this new guy for a minute and let's focus on your current relationship. It's either you talk to your boyfriend about your boring situation or take a break/break up. Would it be possible for you not to live with the boyfriend at the ... (read in full...)
Was it my hymen breaking that caused the bleeding?
Q. I'm 13 years old and have been worrying for a while. In In September I was playing w/ myself, and was fingering myself. At 1 point I took advice from a friend and tried using a marker. I don't remember any particular pain that night. The next day, I ...
A. 4 January 2010: You need to get yourself checked at the doctors. If possible, tell your mom or an adult that you can talk to so the person can help you with this issue. Do you have access to a nurse's helpline? Call the clinic/hospital that you go to for your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to Second Life and it's becoming too real for him!
Q. My boyfriend is addicted to Second Life. He is on there constantly. He has a job in there , he is also a woman in there. He is obsessed with this to the point now he just has to be there. He talks about it always. At first he was worried about how i ...
A. 4 January 2010: Does he have a REAL job in REAL life? The woman part is indeed questionable. You should ask him directly if it bothers you this much because depending on his answers, it'll help define the addiction aspect. I actually checked out the website because ... (read in full...)
He loves someone else but isn't going to do anything about it?
Q. ok i need some advice. my boyfriend and i have been going out with each other for four years, about six months ago he told me that he loved somebody else but he wasn't going to do anything about it. it took awhile but i'd thought that we had worked ...
A. 4 January 2010: Give him all the time he needs (days, weeks, months but it doesn't mean you need to wait for him) to sort out his feelings. It's not going to do your relationship any good if he's half-hearted about it. If you really love him then I suppose you can ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being jealous and how can I stop thinking of his past
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months and when it got to about 6 months, i became really jealous and annoyed over his past. we've both slept with the same amount of people and ive dated more than him, but his past really annoys m...
A. 3 January 2010: The past is done and over with and there's nothing you can do to change it because it already happened, as long as you weren't a part of it. If you were a part of his past then it would make sense for you to be worked up on some issues but otherwise ... (read in full...)
He is sweet but lacks the initiative, does he really care?
Q. Which one says the truth about my ex who I recently reconciled with? When I am with him, he doesn't want me to do anything but sit or lie beside him. He stares at me all the time and like to cuddle the whole day. When I am not beside him, he g...
A. 30 December 2009: You're probably thinking he's inconsiderate and insensitive but ask him directly and see what he says. Depending on his response, act according to your heart. He is your ex for a reason and since you've recently reconciled, maybe he's not sure if ... (read in full...)
What do I do...Nina or Lily?
Q. I'll try to make this short. I'm a teenager and I have stupid teenage love problems, but I'd really like some help. There's this girl I was in love with for a few years, Lily, she was my first everything first girlfriend, first kiss, lost my ...
A. 30 December 2009: If you're thinking about Lily whenever you're with Nina, then it's not fair to Nina and to yourself. Once and for all, you and Lily should try to give it another chance. If it doesn't work out this very last time, then seriously move on with Nina or ... (read in full...)
I need to know all the risks of having sex!
Q. I know I'm too young. Thats what everybody says. But recently I've met a boy I really love, he loves me too. Trust me you haven't heard him. He wants to have sex with me. Please answer me. With all risks and everything, thank you. :)....
A. 30 December 2009: You said you've "recently" met this guy, recent does not equal love. It sounds like lust and lust is not a good reason to have sex. You said "he wants" to have sex with you but do YOU want to have sex with him, that's the more important question. ... (read in full...)
What do I do...Nina or Lily?
Q. I'll try to make this short. I'm a teenager and I have stupid teenage love problems, but I'd really like some help. There's this girl I was in love with for a few years, Lily, she was my first everything first girlfriend, first kiss, lost my ...
A. 30 December 2009: If Lily is still around and it's possible for you to ask her to give your relationship another chance, then go for it. If you can't have another chance with Lily, then take some time off from dating and enjoy your single life until you meet someone ... (read in full...)
Should I let the ex see his baby, even though he says it's not his?
Q. ok so im new here and just want to know wat u people think i should do? ok here goes... i have a three yr old child and im currently pregnant again my babys dad and i arnt together he left me wen i was pregnant. hes a dumb @ss. n e wayz about a yr ...
A. 30 December 2009: If he's denying the baby is his, then don't try to convince him verbally because he's reluctant to the idea. If you know it's really his child and you want to make it clear, regardless of the relationship between you and him, then get a DNA test. ... (read in full...)
At what age do the majority of people settle down?
Q. At what age do the majority of people settle down at? In a sense of have a relationship that will work and last....
A. 30 December 2009: I've seen early 20's and late 20's but not really mid 20's anymore which would have been my guess. It probably varies by generation. As for a relationship that will work and last, it's very unpredictable. However, the ones that don't seem to last ... (read in full...)
Holding onto the ex...
Q. Hello everyone, I could really use a bit of advice. I dated my first love almost two years, last year he broke it off out of the blue. For about a year we went back and forth, he couldn't seem to make up his mind as to what he wanted. To say I wa...
A. 29 December 2009: You're still holding onto the ex because he broke up with you and now it becomes a challenge for you to see if you can still win his heart. Think of the 4 guys you've turned down, you feel nothing for them because you turned them down, but they ... (read in full...)
I'm so worried my boyfriend is cheating on me.
Q. I'm so worried my boyfriend is cheating on me. At the same time I'm reluctant to fit the whole paranoid-woman stereotype, but I can't help it. For starters, he cheated on his girlfriend before me. Multiple times, with multiple girls. While I ...
A. 29 December 2009: It's time for to you take a long deep breath and say goodbye for good to this guy. It is clear in his comments that if he cheats on you later on, then it would be a "I told you so" since he did say "women don't need sex like men do" and that ... (read in full...)
I'm too obsessed with the desire to have sex!
Q. I'm 16 and I have a pretty big problem. The thing is, I've been way too obsessed with the desire to have sex that it's really frustrating me lately. I come from a very conservative family but I've been hooked on pornography for about half a year ...
A. 29 December 2009: Don't have sex for the sake of simply having sex because it'll take a toll on you later when you finally meet someone that you want to share that intimate moment with. It is probably very frustrating for you. Try to stop watching porn because it's ... (read in full...)
Not enjoying sex, whats wrong with me?
Q. So a few months ago I lost my virginity to my gf. It went okay if not a little quick (which is expected) however now ive had alot of sex, I do not enjoy it. It comes down to my penis being a little on the small side. When im having sex with my gf ...
A. 29 December 2009: Good sex needs to be both physical and mental. The mental part is more important because it's what makes you really feel good when you're having it with someone special. If you're not enjoying it then recollect your thoughts about your relationship. ... (read in full...)
Can we be good together even though we are so different?
Q. I've currently been seeing my g/f for nearly 2 months and for once shes always been into me more than i have her, which is completly different for me as normally its the other way round, she isnt my 'type' at all and i worry about the fact our inte...
A. 29 December 2009: It is normal to be different, no one is alike. Two completely different people with opposing views in a relationship could be an issue. However, it's not an issue until it becomes an issue when one person has difficulty understanding the other ... (read in full...)
He says I'm too much of a good friend to date me?
Q. I really wanna date this guy he says he likes me but he said I'm too much of a good friend to date because he doesn't wanna lose me. What do I do?!?!?!?!!??...
A. 29 December 2009: It is possible that he doesn't want to be more than friend with you.You might have feelings for him but that doesn't mean he does for you, it's not abnormal. He's being nice saying that he likes you but don't want to date you, it's better than ... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 23 December 2009: You do deserve to know and it must be bothering you, hopefully not the concept of stopping the relationship but the idea behind it, so your head is spinning wondering why. Do understand that if he hasn't explained why he called you late a night to ... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 22 December 2009: Take him seriously that he wants to stop the relationship with you because he is married. Do yourself a favor and love yourself so you should move on. What are you doing with a married man, if he was just dating another woman that's another story ... (read in full...)
Do women tell half-truths to spare your feelings?
Q. As a man, it's hard for me to understand how a woman can be attracted and get very close emotionally when I'm not available, then, when I become available, say her attraction comes and goes and we both need to work through our particular issues but ...
A. 21 December 2009: It's time for you to tell her that you two should have a platonic relationship and see how she feels, don't let her convince you otherwise, at least for now. You might have a weak spot for her but you need to realize she's just not that into you. On ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to work things out after he lied and cheated?
Q. So... this is all new to me. i have never asked strangers to help me with my relationship but at this point maybe this is the best thing for me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and a half years now. The summer of 2008 he broke things o...
A. 21 December 2009: I've heard that the more you have issues and actually see them through by discussing the issues the more you'll love and understand each other. I think it's possible to work things out in the beginning of the relationship but if it drags on too long ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I can't separate from my girlfriend!
Q. i loved my girl friend very much from last 6 years, but due to my family problem, i married other girl.still me and my girlfriend love each other. i also loved my wife. suddenly my girl friends mother khows our physical relationship, so they are ...
A. 21 December 2009: Since you're married then you need to let your girlfriend move on. Hopefully your girlfriend's mother won't force her into a relationship like you did yourself but give her the option to choose her mate. If you truly love your girlfriend then you ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and had sex, is that bad?
Q. im 13 and i have sex is that bad for me?Please tell me if it is i want to quit.But i cant have kids i dont have a period yet. ...
A. 20 December 2009: You are too young regardless of period or not. It's good to hear that you want to quit, don't hesitate on that decision. Good Luck! :-)... (read in full...)
I wonder how people "know" when they meet the person they'll marry for the first time
Q. You hear so many people say, when you meet the one "you just know" and "I knew I would marry him". How many people feel this strongly on a first meeting? Did you know this would be the man you would marry when you first met him? ...
A. 19 December 2009: I know exactly what you're saying because my ex-boyfriend of 7 years ago (we dated for 5 months) knew he wanted to marry me, we only dated for 5 months so I don't know if he knew much about me but I guess his heart knew. He said it was indescribable ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but still see us being married some time in the future
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago just to cool things off in our senior year and to give each of us a chance to focus on colleges and spend time with friends (we go to different schools and have different friends) and to maybe start seeing ...
A. 19 December 2009: In your mind, he's the right one at the wrong time and that is okay to think that way. Don't force yourself to be with him if you're having second thoughts. There is no "what if" so just go about your life and cherish the moments that you had/have ... (read in full...)
I broke it off but am now having second thoughts!
Q. Hola... About a week-and-a-half ago, I gave my boyfriend a letter telling him that I think we should break up. The problem is, though, the more I think about it, I don't really think that I want to...I just kinda wanted to get some things off ...
A. 19 December 2009: If the relationship actually meant something to you, then you should not break up via a letter because that's a very passive unilateral decision which is pretty unfair to him. Call him and talk about the letter, see how he feels about it. Depending ... (read in full...)
How long does No Contact last?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 5 days ago. I am trying the no contact theory. How long should I wait to contact him. I really miss him and wish he would come back. Please help....
A. 19 December 2009: If you feel that you will be "crushed", then call him by Christmas to say Happy Holiday and talk casually as friends. Don't start with the 21 questions, like "do you miss me, etc." Just see how he's doing and what he's been up to and get a feel to ... (read in full...)
He makes my heart go boom diddy boom but he is an ex!
Q. An odd question, but I'm desirous of an answer nonetheless: My ex dumped me 7 months ago, basically cause he just didn't love me. I had really deep feelings for him and I firmly believe I love him, even though I'm just a teenager. Anyway, I was ...
A. 18 December 2009: It's normal for you to feel this way because he was the one that left you. It's the notion of forbidden fruit because since he left, you feel like he's a challenge. It's going to be difficult in the beginning because you actually have deep feelings ... (read in full...)
Do boys ever mature?
Q. how do i feel better? i feel guys only wanna date me to prove a point to their friends im 19 nd a virgin. my very first bf broke up with me cuz he said the relationship got boring. then he lied about sleeping with me. then i met another guy who i ...
A. 18 December 2009: Age does not define maturity. Maybe you're hanging out with the wrong crowd so all the boys are feeding off each other so they're acting in a similar fashion. Stay focus, you're doing the right thing by standing tall and sticking to your decision. ... (read in full...)
How long does No Contact last?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 5 days ago. I am trying the no contact theory. How long should I wait to contact him. I really miss him and wish he would come back. Please help....
A. 18 December 2009: If he broke up with you then give him all the time he needs to be away. Maybe it's not meant to be. If you really miss him then give yourself some time to make sure that you truly miss him and not because you've been used to having him by your side ... (read in full...)
Even though she hurt me, should I give her another chance?
Q. About a month ago a girl I really liked told me she didn't think she liked me anymore. We weren't actually dating. But now, a month later she is saying she likes me again. Should I give her another chance? She hurt me really bad, and I don't want to ...
A. 18 December 2009: If you really like her, give it a chance. You don't know if it's going to work out unless you two give it a try even if it means a month later. Maybe she wasn't sure if she wanted to get into a relationship a month ago and wanted to recollect her ... (read in full...)
In love with housemate and time is running out!
Q. Hi everyone, I have been really attracted to my house mate for months and have fallen head over heels in love with him. At times I feel like he has feelings for me, but then I think I might be imagining it. We have a great laugh together and share ...
A. 18 December 2009: It's going to be hard to maintain a platonic friendship if you're head over heels in love with him. So you might as well let him know how you feel but not now. Communication between you and him will help you realize if this is going to work but not ... (read in full...)
Should I give this other girl a chance even though I love my ex?
Q. I love my ex. She says she loves me but everytime I think we are gonna have a chance she goes "on a date" with someone else. Of course that ends it for us but then she comes crawling back to me saying she wants only me, saying everything I want to ...
A. 18 December 2009: Ask your ex if she would give your love another chance. If yes, then give your love another chance. If no, give the other girl a chance and see where it goes because you'll know unless you try. Life is about trial and error and learning from them to ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her again or let life go on?
Q. there is this girl that i like and i told her on facebook she said that she had a boyfriend but im not sure if its true or not i see her almost every week at church and whenever i see her i feel like almost crying. i know that its cheesy but its ...
A. 18 December 2009: If you're still into her years later then it might work out for the best. My ex boyfriend wanted to date when we were 14, I said no until 4 years later. He was into me like how you said you're into this girl at the moment. We only lasted 5 months. ... (read in full...)
She is already over me because she has starting dating but I still want her back!
Q. Hi My gf and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We were together for 2.5 yrs and we lived together for about 6 months. She started getting distant the last month, and as much as I tried to take her on dates and do romantic things with her, she...
A. 17 December 2009: It's going to be difficult but you need to work on yourself before working on your relationship. Sometimes getting too comfortable (moving in with each other or hanging out everyday) could be very routine. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and ... (read in full...)
I'm so broken, hurt, and confused!
Q. So me and my ex have been together for two years on and off were just friends nows but he acts like he wants to be with me the only promblem is that he got a 15year old girl pregant im 18 and he is 20. Its been so hard to deal with because he been ...
A. 17 December 2009: If he looked you in the eyes and told you straight up it's his baby and want you as well, then obviously leave him. If it's his baby, it's going to be a long tormented road for you if you choose to stay in the relationship especially if he admitted ... (read in full...)
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