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writes:HiMy gf and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We were together for 2.5 yrs and we lived together for about 6 months. She started getting distant the last month, and as much as I tried to take her on dates and do romantic things with her, she didn't really come out of it. The last day we spent together was Halloween, and we just watched movies and laughed and cuddled all night. The next day, I slept in past noon, which I did a lot, and I woke up to find her gone and a note saying she was so glad we could watch the football game together finally. She didn't try to wake me or anything she just got mad and left. I tried to call her but she wouldn't answer so I went to my aunts because I was worried and I needed some family. Well the next couple days, she would barely look at me or let me even touch her. I thought she would get over it because it was just a game, but she didn't and she texted me one night saying she was staying at her moms. I called her and told her I was going back to Nebraska (where I was from), and she laughed and said then don't come back til you can move out, we're over. I asked for an explanation and she said she felt she had to take care of me cuz I got sick a lot, that she felt like we were just friends living together, and that she couldn't trust me because I had lied to her at the beginning of our relationship. I swore that I had nothing else to lie to her about but she says she still can't trust me. I'm deeply in love with this girl and we were best friends before we started dating so it's not just another breakup for me. I really want her back but how can I do that when she won't trust me?? We have been in contact occassionally but haven't spoken for over a week. I miss her so much I cry almost everyday, but feel shes over me as she is already starting to date. Is there anything I can do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): It was over and she didnt have the guts to break up with you. She makes it all your fault, it likely there is fault on both sides. Stop thinking about her cut all ties and look at your own life change what you can and make her regret her decision.
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reader, lovelife1437 +, writes (17 December 2009):
It's going to be difficult but you need to work on yourself before working on your relationship. Sometimes getting too comfortable (moving in with each other or hanging out everyday) could be very routine. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I'm glad we haven't gotten married or moved in with each other even thought we had a few opportunities to do so. I see a few failed marriages because people don't allow time to get to know each other or love one another unconditionally before getting married. You might not see it but this is actually a good opportunity for you and girlfriend to recollect your thoughts to see if you're really in love or just attached. It's not going to feel good but do give yourself time to be away from her and likewise for her. Keep in touch with her but don't be a stalker. Don't ask her 21 questions about what she's been doing and with who. Try to converse like she was your best friend before and maybe you'll find the chemistry again. Let her do as she desires because you don't want to be with her if her soul is not at peace to be your soul mate. Good Luck! :-)
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