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writes:Hola...About a week-and-a-half ago, I gave my boyfriend a letter telling him that I think we should break up. The problem is, though, the more I think about it, I don't really think that I want to...I just kinda wanted to get some things off my chest about some prollems we're having, including diminished communication and not being able to see each other.I'm really confused because the day I gave him the letter, I didn't act any differently toward him, we naturally flirted as usual...so obviously, this means I still have feelings for him, but...! I don't know, are we jus' going through a rough patch, or change or something? Help is greatly appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, he finally called me, and he thought that we could work some things out. So we met and we talked about things and he promised to call more and work on some other things we were having prollems with. A little ill-timed, but I was relieved.
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reader, Cute  +, writes (19 December 2009):
Try this:
Make a list of why would you want to hang around with this guy
And make another about why do you want to break-up
Think and write and try and figure out your own feelings. Break-ups are never easy whatever may be the reason for them. So when you do break-up be sure about it and don't look back. Try looking for greener pastures.
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reader, lovelife1437 +, writes (19 December 2009):
If the relationship actually meant something to you, then you should not break up via a letter because that's a very passive unilateral decision which is pretty unfair to him. Call him and talk about the letter, see how he feels about it. Depending on how long you've been together but still he deserve to say something especially if you're having second thoughts. Explain the letter too because the writer and the reader might not have the same way of interpreting those words, it's like texting and aim, you can never know the tone so it doesn't work for relationships. If it's just diminished communication and not seeing each other regularly, then maybe you can try to talk/work it out and cherish the moments that you are actually together. Also, try to talk about this letter situation face-to-face if you're having second thoughts and want to see if you two can make the relationship work. Good Luck! :-)
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reader, acey lacey +, writes (19 December 2009):
 ughh i feel like im kinda going through the same thing... its hard to pick what you want sometimes! if the letter was filled with important things you needed him to know, then dont just let it pass... ask him what he thought about it all and talk about how you feel-- straight up! communication is so important. if you just needed to tell him those things but you still love him and want to be with him for sure then tell him. but dont let the letter be ignored----dont let him think he can get away without confronting your problem
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