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writes:I've currently been seeing my g/f for nearly 2 months and for once shes always been into me more than i have her, which is completly different for me as normally its the other way round,she isnt my 'type' at all and i worry about the fact our intelligence levels are so different, and i worry that its her accent that bothers me, i'm a worrier naturally, dont get me wrong i really like her, but its different to others before her so i guess i'm asking if thats okay? is it normal to be different? than everyone else? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sazza13 +, writes (30 December 2009):
Sazza13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think im just worrying tbh, i like that its different i like the fact i feel special so i think im just being silly!!
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reader, dasonras  +, writes (30 December 2009):
First, you are going to have to ask yourself a few questions. Does your GF also feel she has nothing in common with you? If do,does she also have a problem with this?
Opposite personalities in relationships can be the best or the worst. If she feels that she has a lot in common with you when you know you don't, then we have a problem. While she is content, you are always going to be unhappy with the dynamics of the relationship.
Having little in common is sometimes a good thing because you will be able to teach each other as you go along. However, if you aren't mature enough for something like that, then the whole "learning" process will become a chore and the relationship will be nothing but work.
For now, you should make time to actually discuss this with your GF. Honesty is hopefully one thing you two have it common, so be mature about it and talk.
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reader, lovelife1437 +, writes (29 December 2009):
It is normal to be different, no one is alike. Two completely different people with opposing views in a relationship could be an issue. However, it's not an issue until it becomes an issue when one person has difficulty understanding the other person's point of view. Some say opposites are more interesting because the relationship allows for learning beyond one's own perception. On the other hand, opposites could lead to aggravation because of the different views. If you can juggle and work with the pros and cons of being different from each other, then your relationship could be very exciting. However, if the relationship gets exhausting and unhappy because of the differences, then there are your signals to not force it. Good Luck! :-)
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