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writes:im 13 and i have sex is that bad for me?Please tell me if it is i want to quit.But i cant have kids i dont have a period yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): If you are not old enough to provide financially for a baby, you shouldn't be doing anything that can make one. Yes, you could be pregnant right now! Does that scare you? Good! Hopefully you will remember that next time you consider doing something so foolish.
Now that I've said that. You should talk to one of your parents about this or an older aunt or someone you trust. Ask them to get you a pregnancy test and to talk to you about safe and healthy sex in a grown up relationship.
It's good you want to stop, but you never should have started.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): It is ILLEGAL in every State of the Union for you to have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): Don't think that you cannot get pregnant just because you haven't started your period yet, you can, you have ovaries and they eggs and if everything is just right, you could be close to becoming ready to ovulate and boom you are pregnant.
Your body is not mature enough to handle a pregnancy, in fact it could be life threatening to you.
Another thing to consider is the fact that you are sexually active at such a young age puts you at a very high risk of contracting HPV a virus that can lead to cervical cancer. It is a very prevalent virus, and condoms don't even protect against this.
You should absolutely stop this and wait until you are much older, I would say at least 19, but you probably are not going to be able to wait that long. You now have a reputation to deal with as you have to know this boy will talk.
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reader, lovelife1437 +, writes (20 December 2009):
You are too young regardless of period or not. It's good to hear that you want to quit, don't hesitate on that decision. Good Luck! :-)
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reader, Wontonbomb  +, writes (20 December 2009):
 General Concensus: No it's not bad at all. Have sex whenever you feel you're ready. Legally: It is very wrong and can result in a prison sentence if the guy was overage.And now my opinion... Are you crazy??? You must feel like you're really grown up having sex this young, but you will regret it more than you know. What you should have done was come on here the day before you planned to do it and asked, ' I'm about to have sex and i'm 13, should i do it?' To which the answer would have been HELL NO! You might think you're ready to commit to someone in that way (which you aren't or you wouldn't be asking the question) but you most definetly aren't ready to deal with the repercussions. Pregnancy? Sexually transmitted diseases? How about the heartbreaking rejection when the guy you're with dumps you noe hes gotten what he wants out of a young foolish girl?I don't mean to sound harsh but the young girls in this world need a strong dose of reality sometimes I think.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 December 2009):
 You can still possibly get pregnant, having sex its self is not bad but that consequences can be. You can get a disease that cant be cured and can kill you or make your life really uncomfortable, you can get a bad reputation around your town or school if people find out because most wont consider a 13 yr old having sex an acceptable thing. Im sure you wouldnt stop having sex even if it was bad but you should atleast take the proper steps to protect your self from stds and becoming pregnant at an early age , and theres other things a girl should do once she becomes sexually active. good luck and be safe
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): Legally,yes it is bad, there is a reason there is an age limit,and if the boy was older than you [which im guessing he is.] then it is classed as illegal.
If you feel it was a right choice,then i guess its okay to you, but i think its best to wait for sex until youre older.you're young and not the best thing to be thinking of right now.
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reader, Broken123  +, writes (20 December 2009):
 here yeah you shouldnt be having sex yet ... your too young .. wait a few years ... your body isnt ready for it either .. and do you really want a name for yourself ? like ur only 13 .. i dont mean for this to seem hurtfull .. but its not right ... sorry ..
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