I want a friend to tell my teacher I love him
Q. Hiya, i have a real bad problem. For about 8 months now ive really really fancied my teacher, and its beyond a crush, i kind of love him. Hes all im thinking about to be honest. Lately its getting so bad, that when i start college, im gonig to go ...
A. 31 August 2007: Who hasn't had some type of crush on a teacher? Your love for your teacher is not un common at all loads of people go through this at some point. But for gods sake dont tell him, dont be suggestive, dont corner him or do anything else like that. ... (read in full...)
I'm 11 and me and my girlfriend keep breaking up. Should we be together? Help please.
Q. me and my girlfreind keep breaking up and getting back together over and over should we be together i am eleven...
A. 31 August 2007: I think that regardless of your age you should consider ending things with this girl. At the end of the day all this going out with each other and breaking up again, over and over is going to upset you. No one deserves to be unhappy, no matter ... (read in full...)
It feels very much as if I am being kept in limbo or maybe he is playing mindgames with me? How can a person go from being very attentive to nothing?
Q. Can anybody shed some light please...? I split with my boyfriend just over a week ago, I ended the relationship 'stupidly' due to my insecurities and trust issues, I love him and believe he loves me, he ignored all my attempts at making up with h...
A. 31 August 2007: It sounds like either his pride got hurt or somthing along those lines, and is just playing hard to get, or he is just as confused as you are. Put yourself in his position. I mean he could have written the question his self. One minute you end ... (read in full...)
I want a baby badly...but I'm too young. Do other girls experience this?
Q. Ok well im 16 and have been getting some really weird feelings recently. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I have started getting real serious urges for a baby. Its not just a fad thing I have always wanted one to devote my life to. My ...
A. 20 August 2006: honey I am still inthat phase! I think that some women just develope there meternal instincts sooner than others. but most women I spoke to about my desire for a baby said that they started to feel like that when they had found a man that they ... (read in full...)
Visit my dying uncle or take my English exams?
Q. Hi I have English exams on the 6th and 8th of June. I am really streesed about it because I found out yesterday that my uncle had 48 hours to live, so I guess that means 24 now. The problem is I want to see him before it's too late but he lives ...
A. 6 June 2006: Thanks everyone. Thank God though I no longer have to make that decision. My uncle is still very ill but the doctors made a mistake. Something to do with putting him on wrong tablets. It looks like I can Take my exams, and still get to see my ... (read in full...)
My friends hassle us like we should be "serious" in our relationship, but I'm only 12!
Q. Hi I am the one who wrote about my boyfriend not acting like a boyfriend and I totally accept that he might not be ready yet and that he's comfortable where he is. But my friends are bothering us into acting like we're 16 and having a relationship, ...
A. 5 June 2006: hmm. Well I guess you could just laugh it off. Your 12 so why would you wanna get all serious? Tell them that they would hassle you alot more if you told them you were engaged or something. But dont get upset about it. Do they have boyfriends? If ... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend, but I've never had one before!
Q. Hiya I am 19 years old and never had a boyfriend. I didn't mind before but since I have come to uni it's really started to get me down, as I feel there must be something wrong with me. Whenever I go out, despite trying to look my best, guys barely g...
A. 3 June 2006: I can see how you would feel like there is something wrong with you, but there isnt I promise. Alot of people expect and assume that at 19 you would have had a boyfriend but I think that there are more people in your situation than you realise. I ... (read in full...)
I have been suffering depression for around five years, now I've given it to my boyfriend!
Q. dear cupid I have suffered with depression for about 5 years. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and now he has depression. I am on anti depressant and my depression was well managed. Although I understand how he is feeling an...
A. 3 January 2006: Hi there,
I know that it can be difficult to help someone with depression. It is hard not to feel useless, but be sure that if you tell your boyfriend your there for him he will feel a little better even if he doesnt show it. Just knowing ... (read in full...)
What do I say to his parents, when our first-time meeting is a family funeral?
Q. dear cupid I have been going out with this guy for about a year. I have lived with him for 6 months. I have never meet his parents as they live in France (we live in the UK) My boyfriend's grandmother died (his mum's mum) and we are going to her...
A. 2 January 2006: i am sure everything will be fine.... (read in full...)
My insecurity could make me lose the love of my life!
Q. please please help me!i really need you to reply to my email,im sorry that its so long,but i'm on the verge of losing my boyfriend who is the love of my life.All this is because i have a hard time trusting men,as i've been cheated on alot in the ...
A. 15 November 2005: Hi there
NO ONE HAS ANY RIGHT TO HARM YOU!!! He is lucky you didnt cal the cops. If you are depressed and advised to go on antidepressants, don't not take them because your BF tells you not to. One day those little tablets might just save you... (read in full...)
For 8 weeks, he did the chasing. Now it's "I need my space"!
Q. Been in a relationship 8 weeks. It's been wonderful. He has done all the chasing. I've stepped back. I'm 41 and have been hurt twice. I know his feelings are real. He is 47. We have been doing a lot together with our daughters and on our own. The...
A. 15 November 2005: Hi There
Have you asked him why this change has come about? It could be that due to all the chasing he now feel's that he need's a little time by himself, if so then just let him be for a while and wait till he is ready for the next step.
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How can I know if he's really into me?
Q. Hi! How would I know that my new bf is really into me? He is a very busy person and I understand that he has less time for me. We are on our two weeks. We just went out for three times. Is it normal? I wanna see him and yet he can't make it al...
A. 15 November 2005: Hi there
Yes he maybe genuinely busy but he should learn to keep his promises. If he think's he may not make it then he shouldn't promise in the first place!
At this stage in the relationship everything should be nice and rosy. Do you re... (read in full...)
Once I thought he might be attracted to me, but now he gives me strange looks..!
Q. When I was dating my ex boyfriend, we always used to go visit a young man at a career counselling center for youths on welfare. I think I sort of had a crush on him and I got the feeling that he was attracted to me too, but because he was married ...
A. 12 November 2005: Hi There
I think maybe you should just let it go. He was married and now he has got a new girlfriend. It doesn't sound like he is interested , perhaps your were just reading into things that werent there.
Get yourself a new career counsello... (read in full...)
What can I do to get Sam to pay attention to me?
Q. There's this really lush lad called Sam that was at my college, but now he's left and gone to this other college! I really really like him and I still see him around. I phone him and that, but he never knows who I am. How can I get him to notice m...
A. 12 November 2005: Hi there
Finding common ground is a good place to start. Don't make something up though. Dont pretend to like something that you dont just for him! he will notice you for the wrong reasons.
Stay true to who you are. He will respect you more... (read in full...)
I fancy this guy because he's so fit... But I'm afraid to kiss him.
Q. Dear cupid I fancy this guy, how is so fit. He goes boxing but I don't know what to do. We have talked to each other. People call him a male whore. I daren't kiss him in case he doesn't speak to me anymore. My friends know that I fancy him. Wh...
A. 12 November 2005: hi there
well if you like this guy I dont think you have any thing to lose. If you kiss him and he no longer likes you then at least you know for sure. But... you could kiss him and have yourself a good relationship. Life is full of risks. ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to worry less about the past, so I can move on in my life?
Q. I am seperated from my wife. It has been a year and we have a little boy of 2yrs and 8 months. I have these overwhelming feelings of guilt for leaving both my wife and my little boy. I phone my little lad every day and I see him every 2 weekends ...
A. 10 November 2005: hi there.
counselling is a good way to get over the past.
Remember that your son will be happy if both his mother and father are so keep that in mind as motivation. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you were unhappy in your marrige and stay... (read in full...)
Looking for tips on getting fit without going to the gym...
Q. I am a 15 year old. And I don't have access to a gym. I am fit and quite small. How can I build muscle in the house? I do 20 - 40 pressups a day. ijust want toned shoulders and body. Is there any other hints besides situps?...
A. 10 November 2005: Hi there
Diet is the most important thing that needs to be sorted first If you want to build muscle. You need to take in more calories daily than you burn, a bit of a chore but there are several online calculators you can find to work this out... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about the girl in school, even though she's dating someone else...
Q. Dear cupid, I have a problem in school, well, a love problem. I love this girl to bits in school but she is going out with someone. He is a really horrible and I hate him. But what the problem is, is that I can't stop looking and thinking...
A. 10 November 2005: Hi there
Well love and school is a tough combination. If this girl is in a relationship, then she would probably not thank you for making your feelings known to her just yet. Don't try to brake them up because she wont respect that. All you ... (read in full...)
My husband has started ignoring me. We talked about it, but he doesn't care!
Q. I have been married for 4 years, I am 26 yrs of age and I am 4 months pregnant with my third baby. I seem to be having a lot of problems with my husband. He works long hours and I understand that he probably gets tired but it seems to be his excuse ...
A. 8 November 2005: Hi there
Your husband has no right to sleep with you if you do not want him to. It doesn't matter if he hurt you physically or not! This is a serious problem. It is likely to get worse if not sorted out. To be honest I dont really have any... (read in full...)
I keep going back to my ex and sleeping with him!
Q. Help! I have been seeing my current boyfriend for 5 months now and he is almost everything anyone could want. Kind, clever, handsome etc. I enjoy spending time with him and we get on really well. He is very caring and i can see us having a long and ...
A. 8 November 2005: Hi there.
You should definitely stop cheating on your current boyfriend! It's just not fare to let him believe you love him when you don't. Your ex boyfriend obviously has some feelings for you, the question is, does he love you or just lusts af... (read in full...)
My fiance seems disappointed in his choices in life, but I can't get him to talk about it...
Q. My fiancé is hurting inside and won't let me in! Hello all, Me and my fiancé have been together and living together for a year and a half now, and I have always known that he finds it hard to open up and talk about things but I think he is r...
A. 31 October 2005: Hi there
A lot of people have trouble opening up. It's hard for us not to push them into talking but we must try. Some times people who dont talk are the people who rather deal with their problems on their own. Try to let him know that if he do... (read in full...)
He lives with his parents and he won't give me a firm date for his moving out of their place and in with me!
Q. Believe him, or is he just trying to shut me up? I am engaged to a man who is currently living with his parents. I have my own place, and we want to live together like we had in the past. He says he really really wants to come back here, but then...
A. 31 October 2005: Hi There
It sounds like he is making excuses. Maybe he is worried about it not working out. Why did he move out before? Maybe he has grown accustomed to living back with his parents and doesn't want to lose out on the cooked meals and ironed s... (read in full...)
Do you think it's just his work that makes him hesitant about us?
Q. I was going out with my bf for 3 years when we broke up. We're best friends and very attracted to each other which is why I couldn't understand why he wouldn't give us a second chance! He kept saying he loved me but just didn't know anymore! We'r...
A. 24 October 2005: Hi there
It could be the real reason. do you have any reason to doubt him? He may just be seeing if YOU have doubts and putting things in the way as a test. he probably doesn't even realise he is doing it. He may be having doubts because last tim... (read in full...)
I'm hung up on a boy in my old school, in a different state...
Q. I really liked this boy at my school but then I moved to different state. One of my friends told me (over the phone) that he asked about me and I'm completly hung up on him. When I hear his name my stomach even does a flip. I also like a guy at my ...
A. 24 October 2005: Hi there
Sounds like you may just have to put it down to "the one who got away" The second guy in your new school may be the better of the two at this stage. He is much much closer for a start. It must be better to have a boyfriend you can go t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years just can't say those three little words...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for three years and lived with him for two. He is 29 and I'm 28. He has been in two previous long term relationships, one for 5 years and one for 3, in each relationship he was never able to say "I love you" and to ...
A. 24 October 2005: Hi there
You say you are happy in your relationship, and that him saying that he loves you is something that you long for. I think that may be you should just give him a little more time. There is no rush if you are happy enough without it. Ask ... (read in full...)
I think when my boyfriend's upset that he tries deliberately to hurt me. Was I wrong to break up?
Q. Today I finished with my Bf of 2 years. I love him, he definitely loves me, he was inconsolable when he left. In the last 3 months, when we argue, he goes out, sometimes 3-4 in morning and doesnt come back to the next day. He goes round friends ...
A. 24 October 2005: Hi there
If it doesn't feel right we are usually wrong, but not always. A lot of men can't deal with confrontation and walk out on an argument. If this is the only problem in the relationship maybe it is worth talking about making a compromi... (read in full...)
My online guy says he won't use a condom when we meet because he's too big!
Q. I'm 17 and this guy is 25, we haven't met but have talked about meeting. I'm a virgin, and we have talked about having sex alot and had cyber sex. He says that he has a 9" penis when erect, (I don't know whether he's telling the truth), and he s...
A. 24 October 2005: Hi there
If he is not willing to put a condom on for you then why bother putting yourself at a huge risk for him??? He may well be lying about the size of his penis. He may be lying about alot of things. You are a virgin and surly you would pr... (read in full...)
Is there a woman for me, who'd love me even though sex is out?
Q. Dear Cupid...I am 54 years old and still a virgin, mostly because of some stupid fear of not being adequate in sex. I have only really loved once and that was when I was 21 years old and I totally screwed that relationship up even though I had ...
A. 24 October 2005: Hi There
Sex is not compulsory in a relationship. Not all people want to have sex. There are women out there that will be more than willing to be with you without sex. If you are comfortable with the idea of counselling it might be worth a go. Yo... (read in full...)
My 48-year-old woman says she'll wait until I turn 16. That's next week!
Q. Hi...I'm a 15 year old boy who has really strong feelings for a 48 year old woman, and I know that she feels the same, as we text and talk to each other every night. She's told me she loves me and I know that I love her. She's told me that if ...
A. 23 October 2005: Hi There Matt
To tell you the truth I am usually all up for age gaps in a relationship, but this huge age gap with you being so young kinda worries me. I also live in the UK. I realise that she will wait til your legal but she has obviousl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys himself during sex, but lately I'm not climaxing...
Q. I'm 28 and am having real problems orgasming with my fiance. He is my first and is a sensitive and kind lover, if not the most experimental. I have a weak lower back and I don't think this helps. But even before this, orgasms were about 1 in every...
A. 23 October 2005: Hi there
Relax! You are not on your own. You need to tell your partner that he has not failed you and that nobody is to blame. You may find that all you need to do is spice up your sex life a little. There are pleanty of positions that you and ... (read in full...)
Too much information from my housemate! What do I do?
Q. I have recently started uni and my housemate is really noisy when pleasuring herself and its even worse when her boyfriend stays. What should I do?...
A. 21 October 2005: Hi there
You are going to have to live with you new housemate for a while I imagine so try not to make the situation worse. You should try to talk to her delicately about keepnig the noise down, perhaps you could say that you need your sleep, y... (read in full...)
While I was away, my boyfriend redecorated my house... and left me with the bills!
Q. I have just come back from holiday. My boyfriend looked after my house while I was away, and he decorated parts of my house and bought new furniture, as a surprise, but I have to pay the bill. It made me feel angry. What should I say to him? I ...
A. 21 October 2005: Hi there
I can understand that you are angry. You should definitely tell him how you feel but keep in mind that he was probably trying to make you happy. If you are happy to pay for your home's new look then do so, but make sure he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is gorgeous, she makes me happy and we have so much in common. There's just that age gap...
Q. I have been seeing a girl from work for a few months now and there is a bit of an age difference, like I'm 31 and shes 18. At first I thought I was attracted to her just cause she's got a smokin' body,and that's good stuff since I've never had a gi...
A. 17 October 2005: Hi there!
You are both legal and as far as any one should be concerned with when it comes to age thats all that counts.
But dont lie about the age gap, it wont work to your advantage in the end and it makes it sound like you are not comfortable ... (read in full...)
This girl stares at everyone, but her long looks at me are getting me interested...
Q. Hi all, I'm Chris, a 17 yr old college student. I have a sorta weird problem with this girl at my college. She's called Natalie and she's same age as me (17). She's as tall as me, about 6ft, but since she started she has kept staring at me for s...
A. 17 October 2005: Hi there!
Come on Chris, get your head together! Of course she wants you to ask her yourself! Your both 17 and she will be expecting a little maturity from you. Nothing is worse than getting your mate to ask her out on your behalf at your age. but... (read in full...)
Is he just shy, or am I coming on too strong?
Q. About a week ago, I hooked up with a guy I met. All we did was make out, and by the way things went, I'm pretty sure he is a virgin. This was the first time we met. The next night we watched a movie together, but all we did was talk. We were ...
A. 17 October 2005: Hi there!
The basis of any good relationship is communication! so talk to him, find out delicately if he is a virgin. Try and be sensitive. If he is a virgin dont push him, he probably feels under pressure enough. Just take things nice and slow... (read in full...)
Planning on meeting my online lover soon, but my husband feels lonely and left out
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 35 year old woman in a 12 year old relationship, 10 years of which I have been married. My marriage has been a happy one and I consider my husband to be my best friend. However, there is a problem. 3 months ago I met a woma...
A. 17 October 2005: Hi there!
Firstly bisexual or not most people would consider this cheating. If you were totally happy in your marrige surely you would not be looking for anyone else male/female. However you have been honest with your husband and have fallen f... (read in full...)
How do I prove to my boyfriend that I'm innocent?
Q. I need help and advice. Me (16) and my boyfriend (16) dated for about eight months. Everything was going great. But he called me one day and said that one of his friends told him I cheated on him when I didn't. We broke up and now he wants me to ...
A. 15 October 2005: Hi there!
You would think that he would believe you wouldn't you? But at 16 it can be easier to believe your friends over your girlfriend/boyfriend. Your young and can't be doing with someone who doesn't want to trust you. Find somone who is worth... (read in full...)
Would I know if my partner has had sex with other guys before me?
Q. I have been in a committed gay relationship for the past 4 months. I am just wondering if there is any way I can know if my partner has had anal sex before? Does there have to be any bleeding the first time round? ...
A. 15 October 2005: Hi There!
no there is no real way of Knowing i'm afraid. The best way i can think of is to ask him delicately. Why are you worried? If it's because you dont want to hurt him then refer to POPS' reply. If it because your worried about measurin... (read in full...)
I felt it was destiny that we got together, but then he told me he just couldn't leave his relationship!
Q. I have felt a strong connection with a colleague at work for a few years now. We have always been friends and we are so much alike and share similar interests. We can make each other laugh and we can talk for hours non-stop.... About a month ...
A. 15 October 2005: Hi there!
Lets deal with one problem at a time. Firstly you are obviously not happy with the man you are currently with. you have obviously thought long and hard about it. You both deserve a chance at happiness so why not get out of the relation... (read in full...)
We let things move too fast and ended up in bed. Was it wrong?
Q. This has never happened before to me. I have been seeing this man for about three weeks. We talk every day on the phone for hours so I feel like we know a lot about each other. We have both been in past bad relationships and I lost my financee ...
A. 15 October 2005: Hi there!
Men need time too! most people get the impression that it is just women who need time to step things up a level, but it's not true. He probably just wants time to trust you more before he makes love to you. Most people are told that onl... (read in full...)
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