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writes:Hi I have English exams on the 6th and 8th of June. I am really streesed about it because I found out yesterday that my uncle had 48 hours to live, so I guess that means 24 now. The problem is I want to see him before it's too late but he lives about 3 hundered miles away and I would miss my exams. I quit school when I was 14 and it has taken me till now (im 21) to get round to doing them. I feel if I take them I will screw them up, and if I dont I will regret it. Im also obviously worried that I will regrett not seeing my uncle. what should I do.
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 I'm a little late on the scene, but here goes:
What do you think you will regret more in the long term, not taking the exams or not saying goodbye to someone you love dearly? In this case, you have been able to avoid the question entirely, but if your uncle is gravely ill, that decision point may come again soon.
My grandfather passed away last year, and over the course of his illness we all made time to spend time with him while he was still lucid. He was always happiest when surrounded by his family and especially the grand and great-grand children. When my grandfather went into the hospital for the last time, I dropped everything I was doing, hopped in the car, and drove 1000 kms to see him. He passed away a month later, and I have no regrets about my choices.
Always trust your instincts - they usually don't fail you. I hope your uncle somehow pulls through, but if he doesn't, make sure you see him and let him know how much you love him.
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reader, bonym +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Lillaum I am so glad to hear that. I know your uncle is still ill but God has given you a chance to see him and do your exams so its good all round. God is good. And people say there is no God!!!
Whatever!!!
Take care and all the very best. xXx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Good luck in your exams, but remember that family is more important than living with a regret you cannot change.
xx
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reader, lillaum +, writes (6 June 2006):
lillaum is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone. Thank God though I no longer have to make that decision. My uncle is still very ill but the doctors made a mistake. Something to do with putting him on wrong tablets. It looks like I can Take my exams, and still get to see my wonderful Uncle. Thank God. and Thank you all for your suppotive advice.
God Bless
Lillaum
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): well im sure if you did your mock exams they wouldnt mind sending that as a replacement for your gcse considering the circumstances.
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reader, bonym +, writes (5 June 2006):
My dear considering your circumstances I am sure that the teachers will allow some compassionate leave and let you take your exams again at a later date. I think you should see your uncle, my regret up until this very day and will be with me till I die is that I never saw my Grandma before she passed over the other side. The last time I saw her was 2001 in the Caribbean and I ought to have gone back in 2003 but I decided I couldnt afford to go, then she died of cancer in 2004, if I had gone in 2003, it would have been my last chance, and now I regret it. My dear, go and see your uncle and say your final goodbyes, it will mean so much to you. Take care and I wish you and your family all the best, support each other at this sad time, you all need each other. xXx
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reader, Smiler +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Hey there
firstly sorry to hear about your uncle :-( but in honesty here sweetie you must follow your heart go and see your uncle this is the only chance your gonna get to do that say your goodbyes before its to late and you will regret it forever, as fro the exams i'm sure if you talk to the tutor they will arrange a resit in the circumstances they have to allow for this sort of thing
I hope my advise helped you a little, Good luck sweetie, if you ever wanna talk or just more advise feel free to email me i'm always here for you ok would love to hear from you again
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 You can re-take your exams, but if you want to see your uncle, this is really your only chance to do that, isn't it?
If you have a letter or can provide any sort of documentation that you're really-and-truly going to say goodbye to a dying relative, then get a copy and provide it to your test organisation, with a plan for the next available testing date.
Things like this happen, unfortunately. They'll understand and there'll be some allowance for you.
If you don't go and say goodbye you may regret it later, no matter how important this seems right now.
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reader, richierich79 +, writes (5 June 2006):
 I must agree, this is a serious matter, and any respectable teacher, would be willing to let you postpone the exam. You need to see your uncle, and you will need to greave. This will be healing time, you can always find time for another exam, but your time with him is limited.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Is there any way that you can get special permission to sit the exam later?
A friend of mine, she had uni exams in one state and her parents were on holiday in another and her father became very ill and she was able to get special permission to defer the exam.
Talk to your school counsellor or teacher and see if they can make alternative arrangements for you.
Good luck
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