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writes: Been in a relationship 8 weeks. It's been wonderful. He has done all the chasing. I've stepped back. I'm 41 and have been hurt twice. I know his feelings are real. He is 47. We have been doing a lot together with our daughters and on our own. Then suddenly - bang "I need my space". He seems scared of his feelings and I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2005):
Explain this to the bookseller when you return your copy of "The Rules".
I interpert "all the chasing" to mean you have been playing games and he detected it. And decided he doent need it
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reader, lillaum  +, writes (15 November 2005):
 Hi There
Have you asked him why this change has come about? It could be that due to all the chasing he now feel's that he need's a little time by himself, if so then just let him be for a while and wait till he is ready for the next step.
How long has it been since he has had a relationship? If it has been a while then it may just take a while for him to adjust to not having so much time for himself. If he has only recently gotten over his past relationship maybe he has just got a little scared and needs time to think.
Either way, be patient. Make sure you don't get walked over but be understanding.
Good Luck
Lillaum
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reader, Viper +, writes (15 November 2005):
 Do you realise that he may feel as if the feeling is one-sided, you say "He has done all the chasing" well if you do want the relationship to work you can't just let him do all the work, even though he may of started it, it is a relationship where there are two people who both have feelings. This may of led him to feel as if you don't feel the same for him. I suggest the best thing to do is to give him "some" space but not too much, come back to him showing that you can make a big effort for him.
Hope I've helped
Viper
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