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writes: Hi I am the one who wrote about my boyfriend not acting like a boyfriend and I totally accept that he might not be ready yet and that he's comfortable where he is. But my friends are bothering us into acting like we're 16 and having a relationship, which is partly why I wrote that. How do I get them to stop completely and still be their friends at the same time? (PS good advice Bev Conolly) Reply to this Question
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reader, Smiler +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
Well firstly you sound very level headed for such a tender age, your quite right to be happy with how things stand between you and your b/f, don't fall victim to peer pressure from your friends don't let them tell you how to run your life you have a mind a heart of your own which it sounds like your more than able to follow your heart and make your own choices, so my advise to you would simple be just tell them to butt out its your life your relationship you will run things how ever you want, say you value thier friendship and advice but at the end of the day friendship doesn't mean i have to do exactly what you say whenever you say it true friends would offer their advise and let you decide weather or not to take it so, just explain that to them and i'm sure things will sort themselves out for you
I hope my advise helped you a little, Good luck sweetie, if you ever wanna talk or just more advise feel free to email me i'm always here for you ok would love to hear from you again
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, lillaum  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 hmm. Well I guess you could just laugh it off. Your 12 so why would you wanna get all serious? Tell them that they would hassle you alot more if you told them you were engaged or something. But dont get upset about it. Do they have boyfriends? If not maybe you could say that when they have one they will understand. Just keep it light if you say to them its annoying you, Make sure you have a laugh about it. Its not worth loosing your friends over. Boys will come and go.
Good Luck
Lillaum
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reader, DrumMeOver +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Oh Punkin, please be careful with those friends of yours-- it really doesn't sound like they're being very good buddies right now. Listen to your heart. It's very hard when you've got all your friends pressuring you right now, but in the end YOUR FEELINGS are the only ones that matter! It wouldn't be worth it having friends who made you feel like crap, would it? So stand up to them! Tell them you're going to do things the way you want to do them, and they have no say in this because it's YOUR relationship!!!! If they still bug you, you will know it's time to find a new group of friends. It won't be hard-- there are always people willing to make new friends.
Good luck darling!!!!
KC
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